Disrespectful Adult Step Daughters
My husband and I got married a year ago. We dated prior to that about year and half. The 2 grown step daughters were fine with me and loved that their father was happy. He had been divorced from their mother 3 years before he met me. Their mother left their father for another man. Since we've gotten married the girls ages 38 and 28 are purposely disrespectful towards me. They send holiday cards without my name on them. They don't acknowledge my birthday either or my 2 sons. They constantly bring up how unhappy thier mother is and if he doesn't respond to his ex's text or responds with a yes or no then she is calling her daughters with her feelings hurt. Then in return they call him and chew him out for hurting their mother's feelings. If my sons were disrespectfull towards him I would make them be accountable for their actions. Their ages are 25 and 13. He doesn't anymore. He tried when they first did it but they would punish him by not calling or taking his calls. I have gotten to the point that I don't ask about them or respond when he does. He just makes excuses for their behavior and tells me he can't make them be nice. I disagree! He tells me give them time and things will be okay. What do I do?
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First off, at their ages,
First off, at their ages, there is absolutely no reason the x should be contacting your H at all.
Second, I really don't see why you even want to have a relationship with them. The times that you will actually have to deal with them are probably during holidays and such. If I were you, I would just concentrate on being your husband's wife. You don't need to be involved with them in any other fashion.
I have pretty much just
I have pretty much just ignored the ex and girls. I just have got to figure out how not to punish him for their actions. It's like he is trying to keep 2 families happy. The ex is constantly texting about her brothers and mother to him. Recently my husbands sister had surgery and the ex texted for her number to send her get well wishes. She could have gotten the number from her daughters. He thanked for caring and she responded "I'll never stop caring". Is he the one to blame or the ex?
I was upset when I saw the
I was upset when I saw the response she left. I have talked to him about it but he doesn't get it. He thinks that he's just a nice guy and he really is. He never has anything negative to say about anyone. Even about his ex that cheated on him for 5 years. But what he doesn't realize is that each and everytime it happens it puts me in a bad place. It's like he is more concerned about "not" hurting her feelings or his daughters. Is he still committed to that family or is he is to me. Confused! I stay focused on what happens at my house and not anywhere else anymore. Too much drama!! About a year ago we had his grandsons b-day party to go to. She was coming in for it and at that time was just beside herself that he had a girlfriend. And told her daughter she might throw up when she saw me. He knew all this and wanted me to go. I did and along the way he asked that I wouldn't mention to anyone that he bought me the cowboy boots and jacket I had on for Xmas. He didn't want to add fuel to the fire. Pissed me off!! So I said you don't have to worry about that and since then I haven't worn them either. We get there and the ex sees us and goes sits by herself across the room. Like poor me. He said he felt like he needed to go say Hi to her and I was fine with that. They hadn't seen each other since the divorce 2 years ago. Anyways he ends up sitting over there for 45 mins chatting. I was sitting with some friends and family on the other side. I got very angry because first of all he never introduced me to her. I finally got up and started towards the door and I was leaving. I told him later you don't take your girlfriend somewhere and hangout with your ex! If you wanted to catch up do it on your time and not mine. He apologized and didn't realize what he had done and promised that wouldn't happen again. He just got caught up with chatting about family and friends. Come to find out his daughter had set this up to see what drama would come out of it. She admitted it later and thought it was all funny. Do you think he's wanting to let his ex know like Haha look at me I'm doing fine and don't you wish you hadn't of left me or do you think he's not over her? I know she thought the grass was greener on the other side when she left and the man she left him for didn't really have all that money he told he did.