My SD (27) is finally moving out and WTF it means to me!

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Well, this is the good news I've been hoping and praying for. My coddled SD . . a few months shy of 28. Is moving out. Yippee! She's found a place and will be moving at the end of the month. I'm going to pick up a bottle of Bailey's to celebrate.

Now, what does that really mean to me? It means no more:

Dirty smelly dishes sitting in the sink for 3 days

Leaving the iron plugged in when you leave

Interruptions when DH and I are spending time together

annoying/petty stunts - like moving the bathroom trash can to the middle of the floor and leaving it there . .just to irritate me

coming in from work while yakking at the top of your lungs on your cell phone

calls from BM looking for you b/c you won't answer your cell phone

looking at your smug mug on a daily basis

loud annoying friends coming over to hang out

your stunts to get daddy's attention

running behind you disinfecting stuff b/c you don't wash your hands

hearing your judgemental and critical comments about everything and everyone because you know it all and everyone else is beneath you

using every dish in the house to make a 2 course meal

putting up personal stuff in my office so you won't snoop

whispering to DH because you won't be around to repeat our business

telling you same thing over and over again like a 5 year-old

negative tension because of any conflict you've created

wondering what I'm going to find when I turn on the kitchen lights

hearing about where you and your fiance are going/went for the evening . . b/c I really don't give a S!#

I feel like I'm getting out of prison or something. Thanks to everyone who has offered me advice and listened to me complain about this trainwreck over the last year or so. I'm so glad I've had this sounding board.

P.S. I'm not going any where!

Celebrate!!!

Congratulations! What is

Congratulations! What is with these "kids"? They are adults.... My SS is 28 and thank God he has not been over now in almost 7 days... what a difference. The judgmental, critical comments stuff is classic narcissistic behavior... SAD. Sounds like you put up with a lot for a long time... what a weight off your shoulders and what a great chance to rebuild your relationship with your husband!

You are on point, she's so

You are on point, she's so critical of others, that when she's starts talking about people, I get up and walk away. But here's the kicker. She's too stupid to cover her mouth when she coughs and when she blows her nose, she throws the crumpled tissue on her floor in her bedroom . . where they sit for weeks at at time. Now, she has all the answers, but can't see this isn't normal behavior. It's just nasty. I hope her fiance can live with it.

Yes, it's been a long time coming, and I'm already making plans on what I'm going to put in her room and saying it loud enough for her to hear me. Before I do anything I'm going to have to paint, put up new blinds and make it livable. I swear, I wouldn't have kept a dog in that room. And she's supposed to be a young lady . . please!

DH is pretending to be happy

DH is pretending to be happy about it. He knows she's grown and it's time for her to go, but I know in his heart he doesn't want her to go. Moving day is going to be quite interesting.

He also had the nerve to say about her upcoming marriage "I hope they know what they're getting into." I told him, does anybody really know? Seriously don't we all take a chance when we marry someone? Who knows what awaits us down the road. Is that pathetic or what? I'm hoping that he's not wishing them the worse so she'll want to come back home because if that happens, my marriage will be over. I will not live under the same roof w/her again.

Yesterday I was out and about and when I came home he told me "SD has been gone for 2 hours." I'm thinking, who gives a S!@@. I didn't ask about her or what time she left or what her plans for the day were. Why is he still trying to keep up with her like she's a child or something? I swear, it's not only unhealthy, but it's also pathetic.

HAPPY HAPPY DAY!!! YEA!

Woop woop woop.......I would

Woop woop woop.......I would celebrate with a crate of Baileys!!!

I just hope she doesn't scare off the soon to be hubby with her antics before they get hitched!!! I would be in her room changing it into something else the day after she's gone !! My SD21's room became a gym, it was fantastic !!

My DH is worrying that he hasn't heard from her since he sent the last email, what 2 weeks ago !! Me, I'm like who cares too !! Anything the SD leaves behind I would throw out or burn, I loved doing that to SD's left behind bits and pieces !! Is her new place nearby ?? I would hate that....oh and are you going to change the locks?? I would I don't want skids just coming into the house......

Yes, I'm just pleased as can

Yes, I'm just pleased as can be. It's been over 3 years . . and no one should have to endure that. I have a feeling and am hoping, her fiance is just as nasty as she is. But to be honest, they don't spend as much time together as I think they should . .considering they're getting married. I hope he goes through w/it. Even if they don't I just want her gone already because I'm sick of looking at her.

I told DH today I'm going to be putting some of my clothes in her closet and he didn't say anything and she's looking silly as usual. Also, she's so lazy she hasn't even started packing yet? Is it just me? When I got my first place, I was over the moon. I couldn't wait to start packing and planning, etc. She's holding on tight to daddy's balls!

Her new place is over 5 miles from us, so there won't be any "I just so happen to be in the neighborhood" foolishness and dropping by unannounced. Once she moves, she shouldn't have access, so I'm going to talk to DH about changing the locks and the security code . . as we get closer to the date. I know he's going to resist, but I'm putting my foot down.

Well, if it doesn't work out

Well, if it doesn't work out with your SD and her fiance, then maybe she can get together with my SS 28... Sounds like they do the same stuff. I can't imagine what SS's condo must look like... all cupboard doors open, trash left everywhere, dishes in the sink, all tops of everything left off, stuff left where it was last used.... except, I know his BM comes over and cleans it for him!!!! :O

They sound like a match made

They sound like a match made in heaven. Soon SD can nasty up her own place. I just wish she would start packing already so I can give her the smug look of satisfaction.

Finally, in my heart of hearts I don't think her relationship w/fiance will result in a long marriage. They don't seem to spend a lot of time together at this point. For instance on a day like today, she's been home all day. It was simply a beautiful day. DH and I went to a cookout. At her age, even if I wasn't out w/my BF I was hanging out w/my girls going to see the fireworks, dinner or hanging out a the beach. . .living my life instead of whittling my time away watching television, like a little old lady.

I know it's sooo weird isn't

I know it's sooo weird isn't it ??? SD21 would just hole up in her bedroom and scuttle from there to the kitchen to the bathroom and then back...... SHE would make the bad atmosphere because everytimeshe would hover near DH he felt he had to stop everything, our movie, our chat, etc and see to her needs. She only went out if the deluded bf at the time was picking her up, or if she came with us.... In 2 years I think I saw her walk to the shops, ten minutes away TWICE !!!!
I would deffo change the locks, I would have said I lost my keys in the building or just outside and somebody may try to use them on the nearest house, etc. Luckily for us she went back home to another country, and within 18 months we moved to our new home, and none of the skids will have keys.....EVER !!!
She also never had friends over or went out with anyone, it was strange....no friends from school, etc. Even when we all lived in the other country she never went out........

She is indeed a weird one.

She is indeed a weird one. She doesn't have many friends, so if her fiance isn't available, she'll sit in the house. Geez, I wonder why.

I don't want her to have acccess to the house because she'd come by and snoop, and she's so absent minded that someone else might have access to the keys and clean us out. I'm prepared to fight w/DH about this because I know he's going to make excuses for her to keep her key. When we discussed it he told me "well my folks have keys in case of an emergency" . . now what does that have to do w/the price of tea in China? This is the ridiculous foolishness I have to deal w/regarding SD w/DH.