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When will the thoughts go away?

Sweetie's picture

Have you ever been so bothered by things you can't control, and knowing that, even in your subconscious when you sleep, dream of the problems? It's like I just can't get away from it. I can't talk to my husband about it....he won't discuss SD, especially. So, when I sleep, it's not restful, and I wake up with a bad migraine. I don't feel like I am accomplishing a whole lot these days--basic housework...it's too hot outside to get anything else done--nearly 100 every day. And my evenings and nights are not restful or relaxed at all. It is tense after my husband comes home....he is unhappy that the puppy has so much energy. I don't know what else to do about it. I try to run hit a bit in the day but it's so hot. I take his puppy pool out for him to play in the water awhile as well. It's really hard havng 3 dogs cooped up in the house.
Bullet is a counter surfer, meaning he is pulling everything and anything off my kitchen countertops, my island countertops, my tabletops, and running around with items. My older dog is not making the messes so much--been clean for a week now but I have had to keep him outdoors more and he barks incessantly, and the five year old rescue is usually quiet most of the time, unless he decides to go get into the crate that I am using for the puppy. Then, it's a mess because I have to haul him out first, to get the puppy in. And he's wondering why, because it was his crate in the first place.
Seriously though, I've got to figure out something to get these jumbled thoughts out of my head as I dream of this stuff and it isn't a restful sleep. SD behavior has really gotten to me, I can't do anything about it, althought I dearly wish I could. Maybe SS will come my husband for FD this weekend, I guess you never can tell. But it doesn't make up for treating me like **&&^^%%$#@ for MD after just staying at the house the week before! Yep, I haven't forgotten about that! (The memory of an elephant Smile ) I did manage to read a book over the last several days and have purchased some craft projects to do some sewing it's just that with all the interruptions, I have no idea how I'm going to manage to get them done. Well, I guess I'd better get myself together because I have work waiting for me this morning.
If I don't do it, no one will.
Regards,
Sweetie

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happy mom's picture

I've had those nights too or should I say days when my mind can't stop thinking and can't sleep or function because of irritation or anger. I usually end up yelling at my husband and then fall asleep mad and the next day I usually feel okay or sometimes have a headache. I normally have to get the problem resolved so I can move on. It's very difficult most of the time because my husband does not understand and we end up in an argument just to get my point across. There are days when I wish I was not married.
Why is your husband unhappy when he comes home? Is it the dog or other reason?

Sweetie's picture

Dear Happy Mom,
Husband is unhappy at work and the tech leader there is overshadowing him and giving him dull busy work. Makes for some very long days. He took this job to get the transfer but had I known he would have had this difficulty with office personalities--I would have told him to wait it out. Now, I am not working and am an hour away from any possible work. So, it's a difficult time here....and he won't discuss SD anymore. Says it gets me too upset, and then my BP and cardiac arrythmias go beserk. But it's not like you can forget about it. I don't know how he turns it off. I can't do it. I try to think of other things....I read books, cook, clean, other household stuff, but the thoughts keep coming back.

happy mom's picture

I guess you don't talk about SD for the sake of your husband's sanity. He is probably unhappy when he gets home cause he is working all day and tired. Try not to upset him w/stuff he doesn't want to hear like the SD issue. Just make sure you greet him nicely when he comes home and have dinner ready for him and a very cold drink. I get irritated w/my husband at times too and I just want to blurt out my frustration either because it's that time of the month, not enough sleep, or just those emotional imbalance that women have. But I do stop myself, I gotta stop thinking about myself. Then I think, my poor, tired husband who worked all day and I know he is hungry. I get his dinner ready and I'm happy to see him happy too. So don't wonder about the negative stuff and spend time together making each other happy.