The club
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This is more of a vent than anything. Im growing so tired of this little private club that Im not a member of. When SS comes in town its like video game and sportcenter marathon. All responsibilities are neglected until i get an attitude and raise 10 types of hell after so long. So of course I'm the bad guy. I get it, he doesnt get to see his kid everyday, but we still have adulting to do and this kid needs to be taught responsibility via chores not entitlement. The thought of balance and moderation are foreign. I just want boundaries and moderation, geminy Christmas!
He gets all that at home
He gets all that at home where he is being raised. He is visiting his absentee father who isn't responsible enough to raise his own kid. Let them be and spend this time together.
So many assumptions and bad
So many assumptions and bad advice here. Lmao
0328sac - the following
0328sac - the following advice should come with a disclaimer..... Acra is one bad ass SM and you might end up in jail if you follow her advice, but she survived 80% step hell
Disengage,
let Daddykins act like a child and a fool and enjoy his week-ends with his precious child..... it's a all male private club and sorry Hon you are not male...
Ignore the responsibilities, take these times to please the inner bitch in you, do something nice for you, go out with friends, family, animals, alone, do what the hell you want and do not report back to the all private male club....
If they want food... they can make it, not your responsibility, neither of them are your child, they both have mothers and it's not you, oh and cleaning, if it gets way to bad, hire a company to clean and pay with Dh's money, I hope you have separate bank accounts, if not sort that out now and separate the bank accounts, not one blue cent of your hard earned money will go to the private male club.... if you are a stay at home woman, pay yourself a salary from DH's money, this way you would not mind if you have to clean, but simply do not do it for free,
heck if I was a stay at home woman I even would've charged SO for sex.... I'm tired after a full day of work, cleaning, making food, not going to give it out for free, .....
just disengage.. stop doing for skid and DH
Where is the darn like
Where is the darn like button?
THIS. This is sooo true and
THIS. This is sooo true and deserves the 'F yeah' button! You're so right! I'm so caught up with this ideal, that not having it makes me miserable internally. I need you to become an app
Just because he doesn't get
Just because he doesn't get to see his kid everyday, doesn't mean he should now be his buddy, instead of a parent. His job is still to teach him about responsibility and respect.
Exaaaaactly. It's all about
Exaaaaactly. It's all about responsibility, or lack there of. Ive questioned what really goes on at BMs house. How does one forget home training when venturing to other parents home?
One doesn't forget, one just
One doesn't forget, one just knows what one can get away with, and that is on your husband.
How old is your ss? Mine is
How old is your ss? Mine is 10 and I have the same thing every. visitation. day. I'm already prepared for all heck to break loose once dh realizes that the football game he "promised" to watch with ss (and the superbowl) are both on AFTER Sunday's drop-off time and well into the night. Yes it's also a school night.
If your SO wont enforce
If your SO wont enforce reasonable behavioral standards in your home then you do it and he can STFU and have your back. If he doesnt like how you parent or discipline then he can step up and get it done .... effectively.... before you have to.
Pretty simple. Skids are a member of the household with all of the rights, privileges and responsibilities all of that entails regardless of if they are permanent residents or not.
Don't get me wrong. Visiting Skids are not work animals to be exploited... but neither are they guests to be catered to. They are members of the household and should have chores, behavioral standards, and be participants in any activities going on when they are in residence/visiting. They are not catered to with all fund and games and special events all of the time any more so than non visiting resident kids are.
Your DH is the PARENT not the BFF to his child(ren) and those are behviors that DH should not be able to violate any more than the SKid should be able to violate the behavioral standards in the home.
IMHO of course.
Why do so many parents just
Why do so many parents just want to be their childs friend???? My SO's ex is like this, she's sabotaged her own parenting skills & her DD knows exactly how to run with it.