CSMof3's picture

Taking Suggestions :)

This is my first week of disengaging with three skids who live with us. I feel so liberated!! I run errands after work. I've been going to the gym. Did some volunteering last night. Taking my life back feels awesome.
But now I need suggestions for the weekend. If you had two or three days to do whatever you want that includes NOT sitting around the house...what would you do?? (It's sad that I don't have any ideas.) Go crazy...tell me what you would do, big or small. I need to fill my calendar through Monday!

Stepped in what momma's picture

Go to lunch with a

Go to lunch with a friend
Pedi/mani
sit in a coffee shop and read a book
Go to a movie
Shop in cool little store about town with no time limit
Volunteer at animal shelter
Work out
Girls trip out of town
Go see a concert
Go to sports game

Ain't going to lie- skids make me want to poke myself in the eye

CSMof3's picture

I'm putting all of these on

I'm putting all of these on my list!

Merry's picture

Take a cooking class (or cake

Take a cooking class (or cake decorating, or basketweaving for that matter)
Find places of historic significance near you. I think you can find a map of historical markers online.
Go to the library and explore. Many have pretty cool things.
Art museums, even if you're not an "art" person. You'd be surprised how appealing some of the collections are.

BethAnne's picture

I like going for long walks.

I like going for long walks. Maybe there is a walking group near you? Or a friend (with a dog?) who wants to get fit for the new year might want to start going for walks once a week.

Check out meetup and see if any groups you are interested in do fun things on the weekends.

hereiam's picture

I can hang out in a bookstore

I can hang out in a bookstore for hours.

robin333's picture

I have a huge girl crush on

I have a huge girl crush on you.

"I've seen dogs with better manners." Aniki

"A healthy future depends on having productive members of society - not basement dwellers." Notasm3

hereiam's picture

I'm blushing.

I'm blushing. Eye-wink

Amcc13's picture

Going to a coffee shop to

Going to a coffee shop to work and /or read a book is by far my fav
Then you are out of the house and not tempted to involve yourself

whether I am or not they will always find an excuse to call me lady tremaine...
My secret... Embrace the lady tremaine within you and f**k all those who don't do this on a daily basis - they DONT GET IT

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

Is there something you've

Is there something you've always wanted to learn or try? Creative writing? Self-defense? Painting? Maybe you can find a class at the local community center or college.

Sounds exciting to have some "you time." Myself, I'm always happy when I have a new "project" to keep me occupied. It got me through the first year of empty nesthood. Smiling

Don't wrestle with a pig. You only end up getting dirty and besides, the pig likes it.

I wish I were a unicorn so I could stab all the fucktards with my head.

MurphysLaw's picture

I would go the museum or the

I would go the museum or the botanical gardens.
I also love to wander around antique shops & second hand stores.
We have a beautiful public library (several in the area actually) it’s nice to just sit & read a book in a nice setting...
Yeah, I’m pretty boring...

"...you know what? Now I have my boundaries drawn, and tbh if anything better came up, he's lost the absolute loyalty I would have felt."~SMForever

"I own a potted plant with more purpose and follow through then step sloth."~Lilywen

momjeans's picture

Hiking group Pedi/mani Yoga

Hiking group
Pedi/mani
Yoga class
Coffee shop with a book
Learn to knit or crochet / take classes

Loyalty is cute and all, but having healthy boundaries is most adorable.

secret's picture

LOL, I recently knit DH a

LOL, I recently knit DH a pair of longjohns.

And I made myself a sweater. Wearing it right now, actually.

I purchased the right for authority over your child the minute any of my time, energy or resources was used on their needs.

momjeans's picture

Omg, longjohns? I love it! I

Omg, longjohns? I love it!

I knit and crochet. Pretty sure these things keep me from giving people finger necklaces.

Loyalty is cute and all, but having healthy boundaries is most adorable.

Salems Lot's picture

Take some courses... Art,

Take some courses... Art, photography, ANYTHING!

Lord, give me coffee to change the things I can change and wine to accept the things I can't.

Narcissist (n): a more polite term for a self-serving, manipulative, evil a$$hole with no soul.

Cover1W's picture

If I can't leave the house, I

If I can't leave the house, I get very busy cleaning, sorting, fixing things up, yard work. Gets my mind off anything going on in the house AND I'm too busy to help with anything else.

****Just remember to breathe and have a glass of champagne every so often****

CSMof3's picture

I think I have it figured

I think I have it figured out!! I was looking at booking myself some spa time but I love having a project to work on, too, so... I'm going to redo my bathroom this weekend (along with the holiday on Monday!) to turn it into an awesome personal spa! This way I won't feel guilty about leaving my DH and the skids for the weekend, I get a great bathroom upgrade, and I don't feel guilty about spending the money because I could be spending it on treatments rather than investing in our home!

And a huge THANK YOU for all the suggestions!!!!

BethAnne's picture

Sounds like a perfect plan.

Sounds like a perfect plan. Have fun.

SacrificialLamb's picture

Whatever you did before your

Whatever you did before your life got overrun by skids.

blueskies4me's picture

Take up a craft!

Take up a craft!

PTSD
Post-Traumatic Skid Disorder

blueskies4me's picture

Take up a craft!

Take up a craft!

PTSD
Post-Traumatic Skid Disorder

marblefawn's picture

I LOVE painting rooms and

I LOVE painting rooms and doing my own renovations! I learned about electrical currents, how toilets works and faux painting! I'm gold leafing my barrel-vaulted ceiling right now! Every time my husband goes to see his daughter, I get all my materials together and work away. I LOVE IT! When I was dragged along for those visits, I came home miserable and it took two days to recover. Now that I've disengaged, I can finally say I have something to show from my relationship with SD!!!

Give it a try! You'll love it.

It's later than you think.

sammigirl's picture

I turned one of our spare

I turned one of our spare bedrooms into a "woman's cave". I have a desk, craft table, and my sewing/quilting desk and machine set up. I have all may accessories hung and at my finger tips. DH bought me a small smart flat screen TV for Christmas to add to my "cave". It is my life saver.

My DH and I are retired, but need our own space. You have a good solution in making your own space.

It will be fun. I love mine!

Sounds like you are doing well with your disengagement. Stand your ground. I am also disengaged from my grown skids; they come to visit DH, therefore, my own space is necessary.

(((hugs)))

I am going to do what I love, when I love, and I'm going to love doing it.

RST's picture

I've been disengaging &

I've been disengaging & decided to accept invitations I'd previously turned down to do 'family' things. I now have coffee with 3 ladies between gym classes every week (with the odd evening meal thrown in too), it's been a revelation! We're all around the same age, we're all disengaging from something and we all love to laugh about anything & everything. Had I not stepped back from my home situation I wouldn't have got to know these people, that in itself has made disengaging well worth it. Good luck and enjoy every minute of your disengagement Smiling