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I love dogs's picture

Being around BM for 45 minutes wasn't pure Hell. It's not my favorite place to be but I'm alive. SD was so happy we came and she had the absolute best face painting to go with her Grinch costume. For 7th graders, it was good.

BM's boyfriend didn't come so it was just the 3 of us and BM's parents. BM was sitting in between DH and her dad (I sat on the other side of DH) and her dad started asking me about my job. I am in the medical field and have a pretty decent position. BM has had the same crappy job for 15 years and probably just works there so she can continue to receive state assistance. She also cheated on DH with her boss who got fired after they were caught but she's never been motivated to do any better.

Anyway, we were talking about jobs, procedures he's had, etc and BM gets up and walks away to where the kids are getting ready and where GBM is. Score!! After BM and GBM come back, GBM asks me about my job and I could see BM tense up as the play was about to start and she had no where to go.

When SD finished, she came and sat on BM's lap to hug her. BM is in tears (as per usual to add to her MOTY show) and oohing and aahing over SD. Gag.

When we were leaving, GBM took pictures of all of us and DH and I made our exit. Neither of us could stand BM's performance (baby voice, tears, MOTY act) and DH had to go back to work.

I may very well skip the next family event but my mixed drinks beforehand definitely helped!

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I love dogs's picture

BM hardly said a word to either of us and I didn't pry either. Hopefully SD remembers that we were there for her. DH was so awkward because they saved his seat next to BM and he hated every minute of that.

I love dogs's picture

I think BM's parents think it is some sort of gesture to SD that her parents "get along".

BM's dad was telling me that he just turned 70 and I told him he doesn't look it because, compared to a lot of my patients, he looks great for 70! He said "I never smoked, a lot of people look a lot older from smoking".....

BM had walked away at that point but she's a smoker and it's aged her horribly. DH and I just laughed to ourselves.

strugglingSM's picture

Sounds like it went well, but that was awkward sitting with BM's family.

In my case, BM's father love, love, loves DH. If they are ever at a sporting event together, BM's father practically pees his pants in excitement over seeing DH. He's also called DH a couple of times to hang out. DH has always declined because this guy will also reach out to DH to try to smooth things over with BM and he's not interested.

I love dogs's picture

SD said she "reserved" seats for us and they were front row so not too shabby. BM's parents are actually great people. I'm sure BM hates when they interact with us. DH and exFIL actually get along really well and they chatted a bit. They used to do auto projects together so they small talked about cars too.

BM has minimized her life to being a mom so she has nothing to talk about except SD (the golden child) and her toddler. She lost a lot of friends after she cheated on DH.

strugglingSM's picture

According to DH, BM's mother is just as abusive as BM. I've also never seen her go to an event for either SS. BM's father seems ok, but I don't trust him, because he's reached out a couple of times to DH to try to "explain" why BM is acting crazy. He also wanted to participate in their last mediation session as a "supportive third party." He definitely has more in common with DH than with BM'a current SO. DH is also much more personable and less shady than the new guy. I can see why exFIL wants to stay friends with DH.

I love dogs's picture

Same here. DH is more of a "man's man" than BM's baby daddy. BM's parents also conducted a 3rd party mediation about 5 years ago with BM and DH. They ended up taking DH's side and BM stormed out because they didn't think she should have SD 99.99% of the time. The courts gave BM roughly 87% anyway, so go figure.

Thankfully, BM's parents know she is bipolar and unreasonable and DH is level-headed and fair. It didn't help DH with custody but SD sees through BM so I guess that's all that matters.

CANYOUHELP's picture

Mini bottles of coconut rum used to ease the tremendous pain, at least until I stopped being around the sickness.

I love dogs's picture

I live for coconut rum.. And Bailey's. As upset as I am about not being pregnant, it's also a blessing that I can drink again!