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I think bm and sd did this

frustrationalways's picture

I am going to delete this because it may beome national news. I am a school teacher and some of ny adult photos that dh and i take of each other are now on the internet. I've hired an attorney to get them taken down off websites but they keep showing up. Someone reported it to my school board and I was let go. I'm fighting to get my job back. The only way these got out is someone took them from my house, from the back of my closet and scanned them to a computer and uploaded it. We weren't robbed and nothing else but the pictures are missing. I think sd snopped and gave them to bm and she uploaded them to these websites. I don't want sd in my house ever again and dh and i are fighting over this. He thinks someone else broke in and did this and his daughter is an angel who would never.

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Acratopotes's picture

yes.. Dh is right his precious snow flake will not snoop through your things...

we both know it's crap, they do snoop through your things, and this is the biggest reason I refuse any nudes to be taken or any other photo's of me, cause I know if Aergia gets a hold of it she will publish it all over town.

TinyDancer's picture

You can either hire someone to do it or if you know how, do it yourself, but dig into the computer that held the photos to see what time and date they were accessed and how they were transferred. Call your 800 number for whatever your platform is and have them walk you thought it. All the info is there, just need to access it.

frustrationalways's picture

They were hard copies which is why i felt safe taking them. They were never on the computer but in a box on the shelf at the back of my closet.

TinyDancer's picture

Process of elimination, you husband and ? Motive? Who stands to gain from this? Wow, I'd be having a hard time not exploding either. Hope the police can help.....

SonOfABrisketMaker's picture

Tell the police, have a forensics team seize her electronics and go through them. If the digital images are on her computer/phone, nail her ass to the wall. If your DH will not get his daughter some help or balks at pressing charges, have him named as a co conspirator or as an accessory.

Why did the school let you go? You were a victim of a crime.

frustrationalways's picture

Ive filed a police report and nothing has been done. I was let go because my students might see the photos or their parents. If i could do what you suggest it would already be done. I've looked through her phone already and didn't see anything.

Pharlap's picture

Oh sure DH. Some stranger broke into your house, didn't take anything else, went to the back of closet and stole these photos and put them online. There's no way it could be someone that lives in or has access to the house. Jesus.

Work down on tracking these. Your attorney will probably have to subpoena records from the websites these were uploaded too to track where these came from. Prepare for a long and expensive battle.

SonOfABrisketMaker's picture

What age group are you teaching that the students would find naked photos of their teacher? And how did the school find out?

Acratopotes's picture

and I can guess who's that some one... no one other then BM,

I'm so angry on your behalf

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

Do you know how much porn is on the internet? Billions and billions of images. So if someone knew exactly where to find it and then call it in hen yes absoluteybyou were set up. No one randomly found the picture and went "hey that looks like a teacher I know." Nope.

DaizyDuke's picture

He thinks someone else broke in and did this and his daughter is an angel who would never

Oh because burglarers are all about rummaging around in the back of people's closets looking for kinky pictures to post on the internet and not taking anything else.

Does your husband smoke crack? What a tool box.

Couldn't this be considered a cyber "crime" of some sort? If you didn't upload the pictures, then someone did with malicious intent, which means that the FBI or someone could figure out exactly where pictures were uploaded from and SD and/or BM would be busted.

twoviewpoints's picture

It doesn't surprise me that your Dh does not believe his daughter stole these photos. This is, after-all, the man who thinks it's wonderful his daughter wrote a book on the murder of his joint son with you.

Now your career and income you have to raise and support your son is , at least temporarily gone, and at risk of not returning.

Haven't you had enough of this guy and his little darling yet? Your SD now has received her sick twisted revenge for making a stink over and burning her book. I'd think I'd be more worried about recovering her career and getting yourself and your son out of there before Act 3 hits you than worrying about whether or not your DH believes you or his daughter.

FrenchPeas's picture

It is beyond me why women stay with these men. Just beyond me. And now look where this has gone. Wow.

still learning's picture

Now you can see where DH stands, you lose your job and your privacy can be completely violated in the most public way and he won't even consider that his child had anything to do w/it. I would move out or kick him out and never allow SD into your space again.

I doubt this will be national news or even local. I mean naked pics of husband and wife doing their thing, that's pretty boring. If it was you and the football team then it would be national news.

witch.hazel's picture

If your SD was a teenager, I might be able to imagine that she would take pics like this from your closet and show her mother, and that the mother or both could have then uploaded them.

However, this is a elementary or middle school aged girl, correct? Someone that age would normally be very horrified and embarrassed to find something like that, and would have shown nobody. Not saying it could have happened, but very rare.

More likely, (and I'm sorry to say this) the DH could be into some amateur porn stuff and uploaded this himself...but as to how the school found out- sounds like it would be BM!

Very confusing. I am so sorry this happened to you. I would leave the DH out of the investigation and go at it with an open mind. But don't stop trying to find out who did it. This is a very serious crime. If it can be proven that it was BM, she'll be in HUGE trouble (and in that case, this kid will be living with you, which is also no good).

The whole situation sucks.

mommadukes2015's picture

She's a middle schooler who wrote a book about murdering her brother. I don't think this is beyond her scope of deviance.

mommadukes2015's picture

Deep breath-this is not something you can't handle.

There has got to be some resource-like a Union you can access. You are a victim in this situation x2. Adults take adult photos for one another-no one has the right to take that information and share it publically and while the police may not have "proof" smacking them in the face, they do need to do something about this because it is a crime.

I would reach out to a few attorneys and see what they would advise. And remember-Rome wasn't built in a day, so at the end of each day when this comes to attack you while you try to sleep-do the best you can with each day, one day at a time-that all you're doing is enough. Then put it away and don't let this person steal your peace. I know it's easier said then done, but I am really so so sorry this happened to you.

MrsZipper's picture

I read an article about this, I will see if I can find it. The people who upload these kids of photos are usually the boyfriends and husbands who want to see what the internet thinks of their partner in the comments, or who get a thrill out of other people looking at their partner.

I know it's tempting to think skid but more than likely it's DH.

Thumper's picture

Lord Have Mercy---this is awful

I am so sorry. There is nothing worse then being violated inside your own home. Again I am sorry.

NO WORDS.

Salems Lot's picture

I am surprised the police brushed this off. I thought it was a crime to post or publish nude photos of someone without their consent. Are there different laws regarding this for each state?

ExArmydad's picture

OMG... I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you.

I have pics of DW but would never dare show anyone, EVER! Not only because its a complete distrust and dirty thing to do to DW, but also becasue that's my freaking DW! Only I get to see her naked!! So from this guys point of view, I point my finger at SD.

I wonder if the pics were hard copies and someone took a digital copy of them, did the person take the time to scan them? Did they use your scanner if you have one or did they take the pics, use a scanner somewhere else and then return them.

If not, and a camera phone was used, did you check SD's phone? How tech savvy is she? If she, like many others link all pics taken right back to Google. There is a trash can there you can check. Also you can plug her phone into your desktop/laptop and check the drive plus mini card. I've found some old stuff still on mine doing that.

Cooooookies's picture

This doesn't quite add up. I know your SD is a bit of a psycho but no one else knew about those photos except you and your DH. Given the content of the photos, I'm sure they were very well hidden and buried at the back of your closet.

Soooooo it doesn't make much sense that SD found them? Why would she do that as she didn't know they existed? Kids go snooping for money...not nude pics of their dad that they didn't know existed in the furthest, darkest, most well hidden depths of dad's closet. :? :? :? :? :?

Something is rotten in the household and I'd seriously be questioning your DH right now.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I agree, Cooooookies.

This is THE reason to make sure your face and any unique/identifying birthmarks/scars/tats are concealed. Oh, and any unique items in the common area of your home. Sadly, OP is finding this out too late. Sad

Cooooookies's picture

Also, OP - you just lost your job and possible banned from teaching in that area/forever. And all your DH has to support you with is arguments over his daughter continuing to visit your home. This is the second time he's defended his little angel, including the murder tale she wrote.

Now it's gone so far as to hurt you, possibly forever. What man is worth any of this?

Aniki-Moderator's picture

He's certainly acting strangely. He's so... nonchalant about this that it baffles me and I'd seriously question his lack of concern. I'd wonder...
Did he share them with a buddy who posted them?
Did he share them with BM, who posted them??
Did HE post them???
Has his behavior changed over the last few months?
Could he be having an affair??

Oh, I'd be wondering LOTS of things. His LACK of concern is definitely a concern. :?

Cooooookies's picture

Yes Aniki it's just a bit too fishy for me. His lack of support for her is definitely damaging as well. I mean she's lost her job, possibly her career, she's fighting to save herself and he seems completely unaffected.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

His lack of support means (IMO) that:
a) he knows SD did it but cares more about retaining a Disney dad relationship than blaming her and causing any upset, or
b) he did it himself.

Again, IMO. But something of this magnitude??? A 'partner' who is not concerned is not much of a partner. Sad

Livingoutloud's picture

You were fired from your job because yours and your legal husband’s adult photos are somewhere on the internet and students/parents MIGHT see them? Your school district isn’t unionized? You aren’t suing for unlawful dismissal? Were you fired on
a spot? Not suspended pending investigation?