OT- DH'S high school friend
DH has a high school friend who approached me about hanging out a few years ago. She is single and has no children.
We have hung out a total of three times in the last year. We hung out this Saturday and I am seriously considering not hanging out with her one on one again. In a group setting, it could happen.
My first reason is she asks too many questions about SS12 and SS15. Like their age differences. Do they ever ask to spend the night other than the designated weekend? Are they popular at school? Since disengaging, I really don't want to discuss DH'S sons when I am supposed to be out having girl time.
Second reason she got all up in arms on Saturday about nothing. SS12 and DH arrived home right before we were getting in the car to leave. SS12 said hello and went inside. Me, her and DH had a five minute conversation and we left. While we were driving to get something to eat, she said as close as her and DH were in high school, she doesn't have a relationship with his kids. She said they just said hello and went inside. I told her not sure what they she was referring to, because SS15 was at home and only SS15 was with DH. I also told her welcome to the club.
My third reason......We did go to SS12's football game. I told DH we would meet him there. Now DH's friend claims to have never liked DH'S ex-wife. Well I sure couldn't tell Saturday night. After the game, she made it her business to say hello, have a conversation and give her a hug. Now please understand, her loyalty would be with DH not me. I think DH got annoyed. When she made her way back to me and DH she could only talk about BM and DH nor I wanted to hear it, and I told her just that.
My last and final reason she seems to try to insert herself into me and DH'S life. She will try and invite or include herself in our plans.
I don't think she likes DH, only because she has been smitten with one of his friends since forever. I think it's best that I not embark on a friendship with her. Besides I can't risk venting and being honest and have it get back to DH.
My antenna is picking up on something, but not sure what it is. Opinions? Thoughts?
Do you think she is a double
Do you think she is a double agent, meaning friends with BM?
After Saturday I most
After Saturday I most certainly do. Of course if I tell DH my suspicions he will debunk them. I will keep it to myself.
Yes and she seemed
Yes and she seemed particularly interested in what you had to say about your SS's. Best to keep it to yourself for now.
That is exactly what I was
That is exactly what I was thinking maybe she is in cahoots with the BM. I mean why would she go out of her way to talk to her and give her a hug that is just weird to me.
My sentiments exactly.
My sentiments exactly. Something is up, not gonna continue the friendship to find out. So childish!!!
My DH's best friends wife was
My DH's best friends wife was this same way. Whenever we would get together as couples she was always questioning me about SD and meth ex. I always tried to be polite yet vague with my answers and the change the subject, but she would always bring it back to them.
I don't know if she was ever reporting back to meth ex because as far as I know they were never friends, and she and her husband knew all about meth ex cheating on DH (but never told him, great friends huh?) After a few times of hanging out I started letting DH just go visit on his own. Personally I didn't like how his friend treated him and I didn't like how persistently nosy she was.
Her being nosey is really
Her being nosey is really starting to annoy me. I am done. I will end up snapping at her and it will end badly.
It seems like she wants to be
It seems like she wants to be part of DH's family more than she wants to be friends with you. How odd to spend her whole time talking to you about DH's kids. If she wants to be friends with you, she should be getting to know you, not complaining that she doesn't know DH's kids.
I didn't look at it like
I didn't look at it like that. Excellent point. So basically she really doesn't want to have a friendship with me. Good thing I am shutting her down.
Dani I am not seeing her as a
Dani I am not seeing her as a good friend. A true friend is someone you can be yourself and share things with. Something seems off here.
Something is definitely off.
Something is definitely off. I am going to trust my instincts and the advice of you all. Red flags are all over the place in this one.
Dani gal...... this woman is
Dani gal...... this woman is after DH..... why do I say this...
She's trying to find out what you dislike about the skids, or how the skids are, so that she can handle it differently and become their confidant.
She's is friendly with BM..... cause the day she hooks up with DH, she and BM will be friends...
She's single and always wants to be part of your plans... she wants to show DH she's better then you and she is making sure you and DH is not alone together to build a strong relationship
This woman is clever... I would cut all ties with her immediately, I will look her in the eye and say, listen bitch I figured out why you want to be my "friend" We are not friends anymore, You and DH where friends back in high school, he grew up, so get the hell out of our lives...
and tell your husband - if I ever find out you and Bitch are seeing each other for one on one lunch out what ever all hell will break loose, you will have 2 ex wives..... Married people are not friends with single people... it's shit waiting to happen. You can also tell DH... if it's a group of friends getting together and she's there then no problem, you will be nice for that time, but you will never invite her to your house with a group.
GOT IT!!!! Acra drops the
GOT IT!!!! Acra drops the mic. Cutting all ties. I will definitely have a talk with DH. Yes she is clever.
Don't confront DH.... I mean
Don't confront DH.... I mean let sleeping dogs sleep
casually tell him, Ms W (for whore just don't say it) is making me very uncomfortable being friends with BM, I'm not going to ever trust her and feel at ease, I'm not going to encourage a BFF relationship cause she has her eyes on you... feel honored DH I'm a tat bit jealous...
I think your DH is only tolerating her because he thinks you are friends lol, men are really stupid when it comes to this...
She wants to be a Sister
She wants to be a Sister Wife.
I am cracking up, but sadly I
I am cracking up, but sadly I believe it's true.
When I read this and before I
When I read this and before I read any of the comments- she's a double agent for BM.
I concur. Something is
I concur. Something is definitely up. I think it's best I cut ties with her.
Everyone has made good
Everyone has made good points.
And, yes, that’s odd behavior indeed. She’s either a secret informant for BM, wanting to replace you, or both.
That aside, situations like this rarely work out well. This introducing friends and inserting them into your life, encouraging some sort of friendship. My DH did this to me once, and once only, when we moved back to his home state - where I happen to have plenty of friends because I lived here for 12 years too. As much as I liked her, the woman never... shut... up... about skid, and occasionally brought up BM. It got old real fast and I stopped future plan making, coffee dates, real quick.
There’s more to me, more to me and DH, than the fact that skid exists. In fact, I make it a point to never bring skid up when I am with my girlfriends, and they don’t ask. I agree, her obsession with DH’s kids is creepy.
Glad to hear you’re ending it.