Dawn's picture

Thank You Step Talk !!

Thank you to ALL members of Step Talk for making this a welcoming place for step parents to visit.

I have seen good advice and encouragement being given on a daily basis. Even when we agree to disagree, it has still been cordial.

Thank you all so much!!

-Dawn

Indigo's picture

Funny to say, but this board

Funny to say, but this board has changed my life. Years ago I was running pell-mell into a devoted step-family situation. Innocently and earnestly, I believed that we could blend and grow together as a loving, extended family. Reality hit with a hiccup that I didn't know how to handle and I reached out to the folks here on Step Talk. Should have been one-stop shopping, gotten advice and moved on --- marriage, moving in and enjoying the rest of our life together. However, I stuck around, struggled, and learned a bit.

In essence, I chose a different path for myself and my son because of folks' advice on this board. IRL --- SO, myself, BS, SGD-14, SGS-9 & SGS-11 with SD-32 still have a step-family relationship but the boundaries are defined uniquely. Works for us, but we would never have considered it without you all.

I log on almost daily to read and to check on people. Whenever it is down I feel an almost visceral sense of loss of friendship and community. Thank you, Dawn, for providing this forum.

Mountain meet molehill; molehill meet mountain.

Parents lie down and allow the children and grandchildren to run forth-and-back, and back-and-forth: "Roadkill parenting."

Consider your gene pool and your finances.

blueskies4me's picture

I thank my lucky stars for

I thank my lucky stars for this place.

Not my kid, not my problem!

Dovina's picture

I have to say in more ways

I have to say in more ways than one this site has been a god send. The advice on dealing with adult sd's have been invaluable. Also we get a chance to connect with people in the same sinking boat. Also the OT topics on the general forum is enjoyable. It gives us a chance to forget about steps for a while and have a good laugh.
Most importantly because of an OT topic I dealt with a health concern I was avoiding, and was lucky enough to catch it early. Fellow stalkers always wear SPF, even if you live in a colder climate.

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result" ~ Albert Einstein

Aniki's picture

Dovina, I'm one of those who

Dovina, I'm one of those who wears SPF every day. Smiling
My sister and several of my friends have some huge scars because of their sun-worshipping days.

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Dovina's picture

Smart girl!!

Smart girl!! Smiling

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result" ~ Albert Einstein

Evil3's picture

Every day, I thank my lucky

Every day, I thank my lucky stars for this site. For many years I thought I was crazy, but when I came here, I learned that I wasn't. I totally turned my marriage around thanks to the wonderful advice I got here. It's been way more beneficial to me than all the therapy I've done.

DaniAM73's picture

This site is the best thing

This site is the best thing since sliced bread. I was relieved and shocked to know I wasn't alone. I don't always comment on other posts, but I do read and listen to advice and others POV.

queensway's picture

Dawn we should be thanking

Dawn we should be thanking you. This is a place to vent. Sometimes when we are having one of those days that is all we need to do. But getting good advice on how to handle step problems is what most of us need. We find that we are not alone in the daily problems we are having. And just when we think we have one problem that is taken care of another one pops up. So knowing we have step talk to help us gives us a safe place to be. It helps to know other people's stories and how they handled them. Sometimes it gives us hope when we need it. And sometimes we may need to hear things that we don't really want to hear. But if we can say them in a kind and non judgmental way and show concern for the person that is what this site can do. After all most of us are woman on here with a few men. But women should help each other not take them down. That is how friendship's are made on line. In a way we are all on the same step talk boat. So thankful for this site.

thinkthrice's picture

Dawn, this site has kept me

Dawn, this site has kept me from being in an "I love me" jacket, housed in a rubber room

Author of "The Guilty Parent Trap"--Amazon Kindle

Willow2010's picture

an "I love me"

an "I love me" jacket
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

BAHAHAHA! I have never heard it put that way.

CANYOUHELP's picture

Same here.... I continuously

Same here.... I continuously questioned myself and had nobody in my life who could sincerely connect with this crazy unanticipated experience until I found this site. I have never met many of these women/men but I share some my my deepest emotions with them and understand where they are coming from, they get me too.

I am much better grounded emotionally, I know I am on the right track now and even if the slightest question arises, I have these dear friends and confidents who know just how to reel me back in and, it is likely saved my marriage, not to mention my sanity.

Thank you, thank you...I cannot thank you enough...all of you! Smiling

Second to Everyone's picture

This site was certainly a

This site was certainly a game changer. On this site you are no longer alone.

Don't wrestle with pigs. Everyone gets dirty, but the pigs like it.

Peanut575's picture

This site has been a godsend,

This site has been a godsend, and a relief! Knowing that I'm not alone, or that my feelings are valid, or that there are different ways to approach things in my life has been so helpful. The ladies here are incredible, and I learn from them every day. My DH is benefiting as well, whether he knows it or not! Sticking out tongue

DaizyDuke's picture

I remember the first time I

I remember the first time I posted here some 7 years ago, I had a member tell me that whatever I was complaining about was stupid and petty (but in a cordial way) I took offense, but then I realized that yep, I WAS being stupid and petty and I have always respected that poster for saying so. I don't want, nor expect, people to agree with everything I say or do and I like that we can all RESPECTFULLY agree to disagree.

p.s. thank you Poison Apples for bringing me to my senses all those years ago! Eye-wink

ღIt's all fun and games until someone doesn't pick up on the sarcasm ღ
ツ I try to act nonchalant but underneath, I am chalant AF ツ

Aniki's picture

Poison Apples?! What a great

Poison Apples?! What a great name!! Laughing out loud

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Merry's picture

Game changer for me too. I

Game changer for me too. I stopped trying so darn hard to please everybody and do whatever I thought their expectations were. Who cared about my expectations? That would be exactly nobody. I had a golden retriever once who, I swear, tried harder and harder to get non-dog people to like him. The more they retreated from him, the harder he tried. That was me with the skids. (But seriously, who doesn't like a golden retriever? And why would I need those people in my life anyway?)

Today I have an actual decent relationship with my adult skids. And DH gave up the "happy family" fantasy once he understood how miserable I was.

I never really engaged in the snarkiness on this site. Didn't keep up with the cliques, haven't been part of one, learned to disregard the rude and hateful people. Civility. We can all do that. Doesn't mean we can't have strong opinions and disagreements, but we can be respectful and open to different ways of looking at something.

Second best's picture

I am looking forward to

I am looking forward to making friends on the site and getting life changing advice. Thank you for all of your stories....life in a step family is very tough for the new woman but not for the new man! My adult daughters love and respect my partner as they can see how happy we are together. His two adults kids on the other hand are very manipulative, entitled and jealous, it is very very upsetting and puts a strain on our relationship☹️

SugarSpice's picture

step talk is a dose of sanity

step talk is a dose of sanity in a world where step parents are invisible and demon ized.

i love the comments here.

HogwartsIsHome's picture

First day on the site and I

First day on the site and I can already say I've been made to feel welcome and received some really good support. So thank you to you all.