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So, this happened last night...

WalkOnBy's picture

This will get long and involved and I apologize upfront…the cast of characters:
Medusa
Medusa’s mom – Fran
Medusa’s sister – Auntie Addict
Medusa’s grandmother – Barri
Medusa’s stepmom – Linda
DH
BabyVoice
Auntie Addict’s daughter and BV’s only friend – Laci

Okay here goes – you may remember from the last CS go round with Medusa that she told the Court that she couldn’t pay because her mom was sick and she had to care for her. To prove her point, she included pictures of her mom Fran’s colostomy bag. THAT was nice – said no one ever. DH and I believed that Fran was indeed sick, but DH asked the few Medusa maternal family members he is connected to and no one knew anything.

Last night, I was in the kitchen making dinner when DH walked in from work. He pulls me aside and tells me that he got a text from Linda asking him if he knew that Fran had died. Of course, he did not know this. Linda went on to tell him that Barri was at their house and was on the phone with someone and she was overhearing one side of the conversation. Apparently, Medusa found Fran and that they think she had been dead for at least three days. DH asked if Auntie Addict knew and Linda said no because they are currently not speaking to her.

DH then begins to freak out – “what if Auntie Addict tells Laci and Laci tells BabyVoice and then she wants to go to the funeral?” I told him that he was the parent and could certainly tell BV that it wasn’t possible to attend. I went on to say that at this point, we have no direct knowledge of any of this so there really is no need to do anything at this point.

We sit down to dinner and DH’s phone starts blowing up – yep, it’s Auntie Addict calling and calling and calling…after dinner, I went to help a friend hang some pictures. When I got back, DH told me that Auntie called some more, didn’t leave a message and he didn’t call her back. He asked if I thought he should tell her about Fran….NOPE – no need to insert yourself in family drama that we all know could spin out of control in about two seconds.

This morning, DH tells me that he checked his FB page and saw a post from one of Medusa’s cousins that he is friends with (don’t ask me why, I have no idea) that said “Family emergency – need DH and Auntie Addict to check their messages.” Both DH and Auntie Addict had been tagged. DH checked his messages and the cousin wanted to know if he knew how to get in touch with Medusa – WTF???

So, now we wait to see if any of this filters down to BabyVoice. My guess is that it won’t because Laci has never even met her grandmother (Fran) in the 14 YEARS that she has been alive.
I tell ya, even with her being out of sight out of mind for going on 6 years, the mere mention of her can start my household spinning – lol.

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moving_on_again's picture

Medusa sounds like a great caretaker. 3 days. Sheesh.

Did BV ever have a relationship with Fran?

WalkOnBy's picture

Yes - Fran took care of all three kids from the time they were born while Medusa and DH worked...once DH left, Fran was their primary caregiver since Meudsa was out doing whatever it was that Medusa did.

DH and I reached out to Fran a few time during the first year to let her know that she could see the skids anytime she wanted and all that, but her only response to us was to tell us to "Eff off."

Nice, huh??

moving_on_again's picture

That's a tough one. I mean, ya, they knew her but sounds like they haven't seen her in years.

I think if BV finds out, you could always just say you heard that but didn't know for sure. Those people are all crazy, it's hard telling what's actually going on.

WalkOnBy's picture

that's my suggestion to DH - if she finds out, we just tell her we had no first hand information and didn't know for sure.

WalkOnBy's picture

I don't know if she will be upset. And I don't even know when this happened, to be honest. Medusa's family on her mom's side is pretty effed up, so I would not at all be surprised if this happened weeks ago?

As for Medusa, she told the Judge that she had moved into Fran's condo to take care of her, which, of course, was a lie and easily proven a lie when Awesome Attorney whipped out the documents related to the home purchase she made with Lurch.

I don't know what DH will do - that's up to him.

WalkOnBy's picture

I do, too. And, I think it will be Smile

There is a part of me that still thinks it might not even be true, to be honest.

WalkOnBy's picture

they really are...I have never seen a group of people - both Medusa's mom's side and her dad's side - who are talking and not talking to each other on what seems to be a revolving door of grudge holding.

You never know who is talking to who and why or why not - it's just nuts!

BethAnne's picture

I do not know why you would keep this from the kids. It seems cruel to me and there will be resentment when they find out, because of course they will at some point.

I understand it is not an easy situation or a normal relationship that they have but to keep it from them is not healthy or helpful in the long run.

moving_on_again's picture

But what if it's not even true. My mom used to call me every time my grandma coughed and said she was going to die soon. Drove me crazy. I don't know how many times I cried thinking my grandma was dying and she wasn't.

BethAnne's picture

Checking facts first is a good idea, I concede. But if it is true then yes they need to be told, in my opinion.

WalkOnBy's picture

It's not our news to tell. I am not a member of that family. DH is not a member of that family.

I don't even know if it's true...

advice.only2's picture

I love that they only urgently needed to get in touch with DH so they could get contact info for Medussa....so it's not like "urgent death in family"....it's just "urgent need medusas contact info". Eye roll

Rags's picture

I am all about the facts. Sit BV down immediately and inform that according to Med's part of the family Fran passed away. Short, simple, direct... and you and DH act as adults.

IMHO of course.