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Hate step son for what he DID!

Stepmom28's picture

A little back story...
Me and my husband have been together for 6 years. I have known my stepson since the age of 7. He is now 13..will be 14 in October. My step son has always been distant with me despite my attempts to connect with him. (He has always disliked me thanks to his bio mom who has drilled in his head how evil I am). Anyways we have always had an OK relationship. Well, just 2 weeks ago I found out that he has been molesting my 8 year old nephew! I am furious/hurt/angy/sad..etc. I have a deep hate for my step son now. Cant stand the sight of him. Just 2 days ago we sent him to live with his aunt.. (who has been through this sort of thing). I REFUSE to allow my step son anywhere near my 2 smaller children!! (They are 3 years and 8 months)... Am I wrong for sending him away?? It was that or him and my husband move out of the house into another home.. Just looking for advice or if someone has a similar story I would love to chat. Thank you

Rags's picture

No one called the authorities on his little pervy molester monster ass and had him frog marched out of the house in handcuffs? If not... why not? A 13yo is far past an age where he knows right from wrong and should be held accountable.

Get this kid help or get rid of him .... either way by putting him into the system. Just sending him away to the Aunt and not getting his child molesting tendencies aggressively purged with complete and sever consequences is just serving up some other young child to be his next victim.

All IMHO of course.

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

No. In fact if the police are involved at as they should be then you might be required to move him out or insure 100% (which you can't) That he will not harm the children.

I had a friend go through this with her own children. The police were involved and everyone has therapy. The family is now whole again and there is no long term legal impact on the kid who was 13 BUT that's only because the family handled it correctly.

Stepmom28's picture

Yes, sorry did not mention that CPS and Police have been involved! At first he denied everything but after the interview with the police he confessed to everything
Also, there will be extensive therapy for everyone involved

Harry's picture

You have a right to keep him out of your home. He needs help.. some people are this way there whole life.
SS may never get better. That something to think about and remember

Tina22's picture

I would not have this Lil perv near my home or any other children. How horrible! I never leave my children with anyone and reading this has reassured me that my decision on not have my 18 year old step son live with us is the right choice. Not that I think he would do something, but I would not take the chnce. When he visits, the kids are never ever unattended. I feel heartbroken for this 8 year old nephew of yours, WHT your stepson did is completely unforgivable and he should be punished so He doesn't do this again to another child. Send him to jooovy

amyburemt's picture

He needs pronto counselling. keep him away from the other kids.  has he ever been molested himself because these things usually follow a pattern. but ultimately your job is to protect your other kids from him. I hope to hell his other relative that he's staying with doesn't have kids.

openhkheart's picture

You have every right to not want to be around him or have him around your children! That kid needs a lot of help but it’s still completely understandable to need to be away from him. 

GhostWhoCooksDinner's picture

There's no way in hell he'd ever be welcome in my home- or around any of my children- again. No way. He's a predator and given the opportunity, he WILL do this again. I worked with sex offenders for many years before changing fields. There's no rehabilitating them.