I Was Only a Matter of Time --- Drunkie got the second DUI
Well, after Twit got Drunkie off on that last DUI, he went out and did it again. We all knew it was just a matter of time as Twit does absolutely nothing to really help the young man...except talk to him about it for hours and hours. Like that has any affect.
Yep, she is all upset again. Why does this happen to her. Poor me. Seems she can't lose any weight because she claims she has some thyroid problem (her mother does but trust me, Twit doesn't). She wants meds from doc. for that. Folks, the only problem Twit has with weight is that she eats fattening things. So, I guess, from what DH gleaned, she says that she now has a special diet she has to stay on. Duh! A real diet would have done the trick in the first place. Honestly, she is so full of it, which is probably the real problem for all her weight.
So, now she wants to bail babie Drunkie out again and needs $$$$ (we all knew it was going to get to that didn't we). DH told her to let the young man get a public defender and face the cnsequences. "Oh no", she wailed, "What will people THINK of her". My thought was that, frankly, Twit, then probably don't give a darn, but kept that to myself.
DH told her AGAIN she does Drunkie no good by giving him free room and board, etc., letting him loaf around all day and stay out all night. AND, no money would be coming her way from him.
I think she must have asked about me because he said something to the effect of she isn't going to give it to him either.
So, friends, now we, according to her, hate her children, are terrible grandparents etc. DH had to try to console her that this wasn't so. I couldn't help but comment, loudly so she could hear, that she made her bed with me a long time ago and I was done with them.
Oh, she was on the phone with
Oh, she was on the phone with DH for quite awhile crying about why this is happening to her and her family. After all she did everything right by them. Gawd, what a pity party.
So, here we have the original time Drunkie got caught drinking and Twit dragged it out for years with a good lawyer. Then the young man goes into a drunken stupper...comma type thing.... and she springs him after a only 24 hr. psych eval. (which seems very short to me) 'cause she is gonna talk to him about his ways. Now, he gets caught on another DUI. Man, what does the Lord have to do to that woman to give her a clue something is wrong with the young man and he needs SERIOUS help.
Yes, you, I and DH all know that no one can make Drunkie want to get help unless he wants to do it on his own. But Twit makes it so darn easy for him to continue on his path.
If it was me, he'd be out of
If it was me, he'd be out of the house...no free room and board, etc. But she gets a thrill out of being the martyr in that case.
"she wailed, "What will
"she wailed, "What will people THINK of her". " Probably same thing they already do.
I check out on the local
I check out on the local paper back there and, yes, Drunkie got his second DUI. That's true.
Yes, we all knew 'something'
Yes, we all knew 'something' was going to happen with Drunkie. In a way, this could be a good thing in that he may be able to get help this time. I wonder if Twit can be ordered by the court to not interfere with Drunkie's treatment.
Boy! She's been hitting you both up for money recently. A few weeks ago it was for the the pot and pan 'registry' money that, for some strange reason she could not give back to people who made orders through her, and the pots and pans had not yet been delivered to the bride. So where did the money go? Now she needs money for Drunkie's defense fund. Considering the situation with the pots and pans, it makes one wonder about the defense fund.
Good that your DH said "No." Of course, it would have been a surprise if Twit had NOT accused you both of being terrible parents and grand parents. Do you think it has ever occurred to her what you think of her as a daughter and a step-daughter? If you're lucky she'll be mad enough to leave you alone for a while.
This 2nd DUI might be the one
This 2nd DUI might be the one that really makes a difference in how Drunkie handles life without Mommy. In my state he would be getting some jail time being #2, along with mandatory classes and community service and a pretty hefty fine on top of his lawyer fees.
His Mommy won't be able to save him from his sentence and getting away from her having no choice but to be alcohol free, may turn out to be his chance.
Back there it is $10,000 plus
Back there it is $10,000 plus community service and mandatory classes for a first offense. But, if I recall correctly, by dragging that first one out for 2 years, I believe he only got his hand slapped, so to speak. After all, the officer was LYING about her baby, according to her. With Twit, you can't believe what she tells you.
One thing I have noticed, is that since I started calling her out, questioning her when she tells her tales, she doesn't expound as much. Case in point was with the windows. When DH would put them in for her... for free of course, she found someone she said through one of those home improvement thingies. They were the cheapest, she said. Well, when it didn't go good, she then wailed about poor her, these guys were even HIGHLY recommended to her. When I called her on her saying where she said she got them, she kept trying to ignore it and kept saying they were recommended. You know, EVERYONE gets things done right except her and if DH would have put them in this wouldn't have happened. Note the guilt trip she tried to put on DH. He didn't buy into it.
One thing people like her don't want is to be questioned about their lies and exaggerations, regardless how bizarre they are. Heck, even when I am around and hear her lies I call her on it and she hates it, and me. Hey, not saying anything only makes her think that I am stupid. DH use to do this with her for years and years and it. IMHO, only encouraged her craziness. Her own hubby still does it with her.
NO sympathy for anyone who
NO sympathy for anyone who drives drunk.
HOPE THEY slam the book at Drunkie
By the way**my own nephew was killed by an asshole who was drunk**
BM and her family have drunkies in it too. SMH
My sister and my brother's
My sister and my brother's sister in law were in a wreck 35 years ago caused by a drunk driver. My sister has been in so much pain and has had so many medical issues. But the SIL has been basically a vegetable since then. She cannot eat, walk, talk, etc. She was a lovely 23 year old college graduate with a wonderful future ahead of her. She's been all but dead for 35 years because of an ahole drunk.
I HATE DRUNK DRIVERS.
notasm3 - How terrible. The
notasm3 - How terrible. The insult to injury in these sad cases is that in most, the drunk walks away or lives. The victims pay the price.
Goodluck - So do I because
Goodluck - So do I because maybe, just maybe, he will get help, the help he needs. And get away from the wacko.
Oh, there is more to this story. Seems Twit and her hubby went on vaca to Williamsburg, drunkie was left home. Guess Drunkie got the DUI in the early morning hours of the day they came back. I think that alone speaks volumes.
Regardless, one has to be imbibing a lot to be caught twice in a period of what, 3 years.
The sad thing is is that some day, unless Drunkie permanently loses his license, he is going to hit a car and kill or really injury someone. In those cases it is sad that the drunk is the one that survives while the sober people do not.
op, i know how you feel. we
op, i know how you feel.
we have one of these loser in the family. dh is constantly bailing her out of one disaster after another.
shes constantly complaining about her heart aches with me. maybe they know what a mess she is and leave after a few dates.
dh has spent thousand of $$ on this train wreck. add to her drinking is the marijuana.
DH isn't bailing her sorry
DH isn't bailing her sorry butt out any more. He has gotten the message loud and clear from me, and, frankly, he is getting tired of her sob stories.
You know, when you think about it, she is just as irresponsible as Drunkie in life as so is her DH for not reigning her in.
Your SD is a classic
Your SD is a classic co-dependent enabler. She should look for an Al-anon group to join and learn about her own disease.
even with you moving away, we
}:) even with you moving away, we can still enjoy the TWIT saga lol.......
I hope she keeps Drunkie and not come and drop him off at Grandpa's.....
LOL - She can't drop him off
LOL - She can't drop him off here.....we are across country. Also, gated community and, trust me, neither one of us would buzz him in. DH doesn't trust him at all. Says, guys with booze and drug problems can't be trusted and I agree.
I look forward to every one
I look forward to every one of your updates......I have my own Twits......
Yes oldfool - You just can't
Yes oldfool - You just can't make up how crazy that cretin and her brood are.
I once asked DH if perhaps she could have been switched at birth. DH responded, no, but with all this drama etc., he wished that she had.
Actually, we should have had
Actually, we should have had a pool as to how long it would be before Drunkie got the second DUI.
IMVHO, Drunkie doesn't stand a chance until he gets out of that crazy Twit house. She sometimes talks a good game on what she was going to do with him, but then always caved in and let him stay, let him drink (imagine, SHE was going to tell him how much he could drink!). Let's face it, someone with Drunki's problem can't drink at all. So that was totally delusional thinking on her part.
And you can't believe anything she tells you. When Drunkie went comatose from booze, she didn't take him to the local hospital, but to a hospital about 40 miles away! Then she told us he was held on a 7 day suicide watch, but it turns out the hospital only held him for 24 hours. (She gets more attention from saying 7 days then the actual 24 hours).
Also found out they took him in to that hospital 40 miles away, never called EMS (would cost her $$$). You can bet she went so far because she didn't want anyone in her area to know what was going on. Sick, sick, sick.
DH told her a long time back that she needed to stop enabling Drunkie, but she always had an excuse. Back then she claimed she couldn't attend Alanon because the meetings were at the "same time the AAA meetings were and across town, and SHE had to drive Drunkie to the AA meetings." When DH offered to drive Drunkie to the AA meetings so she could attent, she blew it off. She doesn't want help either....just attention about how bad she has it and pity.
At that time DH really strted to wash his hands of the whole matter.
You just watch.....no matter what happens to Drunkie, jail time, etc.; he will never ever move out. Part of her controlling things, she needs to know where he is and keep tabs on him, as she does all her BABIES.
One thing I can say.....we
One thing I can say.....we are safely away from her (unless she shows up unannounced again, but that didn't go as she planned so I think we are safe).
Now, I can just sit back and watch them birds come home to roost. I can tell you that she probably will be going off the deep end if this keeps up. Either that, or they will keep her in the attic as they did with crazy people in the past.
Sigh, that sounds so uncharitable and mean but she has put me through hell, almost destroyed my marriage on more than one occasion with her lies, tantrums etc. The truth is I pray she gets help