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Just pondering on this....

tankh21's picture

This is just a random thing that has been going on in my family for years and I have stayed out of it but I was just curious if it will ever end. My father raised his SO's kid from the time he was 3 years old. But, he is a lowlife mooch and it seems like my father and his SO would do anything for him. He is now 24 years old and is still living in my father's house. It is a combination between the way human garbage manipulates my father and his mother in order to stay in his house and live there for free and the fact that my dad raised him and does everything for him so I guess I am jealous of their relationship. I mean I get it the kid grew up without a father so my father is all the brat knows but, I grew up without my mother and I didn't turn out like him. So should I just sit back and stay out of it and let my dad keep enabling this human garbage or should I try and talk to him about it?

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ESMOD's picture

I think you have plenty of drama on your own plate in your own home. I would not go borrow trouble if I were you.

I would only intervene if you believe your father is incompetent and can't make decisions or if you feel he is the victim of outright abuse.

If your father is in his right mind, not in outright danger from this manchild and has not asked for your input, I would stay out of it.

tankh21's picture

Yeah I do have enough drama in my own house you are right ESMOD. It just makes me sick that this brat cannot grow up and spread his wings and the fact that my dad enables him because of his SO. I have been staying out of it for years but I am expected to be nice to him when he is around and I have but, I just don't know how much longer I can do that. I am just venting. LOL

Veritas's picture

I had something similar at one point in my life, so let me say I know that feeling of SMH, anger, jealousy and not understanding the unfairness of the situation. Maybe it would help for you to examine your own relationship with your dad and disengage from the pseudo SS.

After all, this is eating you up, and I can relate, but I just don't like things like that getting in my head now. I know you're just venting but it may help to really explore the steps you can take personally to eliminate this stress with disengagement Smile

Acratopotes's picture

I would talk to my Dad... not saying SS is a lazy ass bum... more about the future, pension plans... who's going to look after SS when Dad is not there anymore.... whats the plan, simply just general things and the moment you see your Dad not chatting happily away but getting defensive change the subject

tankh21's picture

Thank you guys. I have talked with my dad about his will and stuff but he just doesn't see that he isn't helping this young adult and that is putting it nicely to learn to be on his own. I guess jealousy rears it's ugly head and that is my main problem.