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Adult stepdaughter spreading vicious rumors

Bethany's picture

SD is 35. Living with a man who has no job, has not worked in YEARS, has no education, has TWO babies he does NOT support. Has repeatedly tried to get SD pregnant,she miscarried each time. She has a 12 year old who she does NOTHING with. She "borrowed" 260.00 recently and said she was help up at gunpoint at 1 am and the robber stole it all. She told my husband she ONLY wanted CASH, not a check. Did we believer this story? NO? Now, she si insisting I STOLE her inheritance. Her grandfather left her 85,000 dollars. She blew through it. NEVER worked. NEVER saved a dime! Boyfriend convinced her I stole it. Now, it is NOT even possible as the will states all checks will have my husband's name and HER name. I am not even involved.

I teach nursing. The facility in which she works is one where I teach clinical. She has told everyone there that I abused her and her baby (when he was an infant) and stole all of her inheritance. She lived with us when she had the baby and basically laid on the couch the WHOLE time.

Amcc13's picture

I don't usually comment anymore on things so it's been a long time.
However this blog I couldn't leave without at all. I am a medical tutor too so I know how hard you have to work at teaching these things - it's probably why my blood is boiling for you right now . Esp when one silly brat could potentially ruin your good name
Personally I would come down HARD on this - i would sue for defamation and loss of reputation/loss of potential earnings due to her smear campaign. I know most of the time we aim for 'ignore the whore' but in this case I couldn't . I love to teach and I love my career- if someone called up my faculty and told them such heinous lies about me I would END THEM.
I would strongly advocate getting some legal advice firstly from the defamation side but also if she is truly convinced you stole it she may report you to the police as a thief

Also I have to ask where is your partner in all of this? Has he shut this behaviour up at all or just shrugged his shoulders and left you to the wolves ?

Bethany's picture

He acts like he doesn't believe she is an addict. She has spent one year in rehab. He paid in full for her car. She is now back with the very man who started her on heroin. He has 2 babies he does not pay for..from different women. Yet, SD says  he is 100% clean, works and she is now in "fellowship" with him. A miracle change in one year? This is the same man who abused her son, did not feed him, sold his toys. My husband beleives her over me. 

twoviewpoints's picture

I couldn't get straight the exact timeline on the inheritance. You mentioned once she blew through $75,000 in three years then you went into how this BF was claiming now , after seven years, you had stolen the SD's inheritance. So not sure if she got the money ten years ago at age 25 or seven years ago at age 28. Age 25 is a common age for trust money. I really bet she has lost any statutes of limitations on whatever farce of a claim she might try.

But that doesn't change the amount of frustration and possible harm to reputation her running around in the community running her mouth with these accusations. A consult with a lawyer then a request for a cease and desist from said lawyer to SD to knock her sh*t mouth off or you can and will pursue defamation lawsuit. I should be enough to take those dollar signs out of the BF's beady little eyes.

She and her BF are doing this nastiness to you as they view you the reason the money train from your husband is drying up or severely reduced with all the bailing out Dad has done for her out of his own pocket. The loans and freebies Dad has handed her every time she cries poor and/or desperate need.

Someone (your SD) who lives with a man who doesn't work and totes his heroin addicted sister along with him and they all live together in a despicable filthy house with neighbors reporting them and who claims "robbed at gunpoint" to beg more cash but won't file a crime with the police isn't the most believable of persons.

Your husband needs slapped for enabling this low life trash and for his SD and her swindler BF for attacking you in this manner. He needed to nip her crap years ago, instead he has continued to enable her ways and this time it could affect you in more ways than being able to just disengage from her. But you probably are going to have to take this matter into your own hands and settle it yourself. They are threatening your reputation and livelihood. Enough is enough.

disrestep's picture

SD and her BF sound like terrible, nasty people. Have you or your DH confronted her on the lies she is spreading? Not sure, but can you pursue legal action against her for defamation of character? Good idea above in getting a drug-marijuana, etc. test done on her. Did she repay the $260.00 back? Did she file a police report for the alleged hold-up? if she filed a police report and her story is fabricated, she needs to answer for that.

Acratopotes's picture

pffft let her talk as much as she wants to, who cares, you know the truth and if any one confronts you smile and say...

"If the lawyers read the will and hand out checks for inheritance, why would they make it out in my name (if I was not even in the will).. no dear they make out the payments to the beneficiaries...so how was I suppose to blow her money if she got it? "

marblefawn's picture

This is an easy one, Bethany...

Anyone who knows her and you will know she's a liar. Ignore it all. Most people don't want to be involved in family step drama anyway. The less you say about it, the better. She shows who she is when she opens her mouth.

Be the better person and you will be rewarded.

Rags's picture

I would serioiusly consider a defamation suit.  THat crap she is spouting at your work about theft of her inheritance and abusing she and the baby would have me all over her like stink on shit if I were you.