secret's picture

SO just told me BM is home

He said she texted him to say "im home", and said he responded "ok"

OK, SO, now what???? lol

does SS go back to BM's tonight? Do we just keep him until Sunday? Do we just keep him, period? BLAH!

I texted him back with "what does that mean"

now I'm all unfocused.

DirtyDiane's picture

Yea, what does that mean?

Yea, what does that mean? Did your SO talk to his lawyer after the crazy incident that just happened with BM? I would think your DH could use that as grounds to get primary custody, even if just temporarily.

secret's picture

He did. Everything has been

He did. Everything has been documented... it's in process, I guess... my understanding is that whatever paperwork SO needs will be ready on Monday or Tuesday. I'm staying out of it, but SO has my support to have SS full time if it comes down to it.

twoviewpoints's picture

Has SS spoken about his

Has SS spoken about his mother at all this week? I imagine he would at least be curious why he hasn't been taken home at 7:45pm all week. Has he mentioned the incident itself? Poor little guy had to be frightened by Mom's behavior (unless he's sees nutjob out of her often?), or if nothing else to witness such a scene between his parents had to upset him (well, unless he's use to that too, meaning yelling).

secret's picture

yes, Wednesday night he cried

yes, Wednesday night he cried a little and said he wanted to go sleep at mom's house. SO told him he was sorry, but that he "gotta stay with dad tonight, buddy"

That was it, really. He might have mentioned BM in the car when I wasn't around, not sure... didn't ask.

He hasn't said a thing about the incident.

hereiam's picture

That's it? She didn't ask

That's it? She didn't ask about her son or ask about seeing him?

secret's picture

Not that I know of. Haven't

Not that I know of. Haven't talked with SO since.

secret's picture

I'd like that to be the

I'd like that to be the plan... but I'm leaving it up to SO

Monchichi's picture

What did your SO decide in

What did your SO decide in the end?

RUBM - rusty uterus birth mother

secret's picture

There is no update. She

There is no update. She hasn't messaged since, and SO dropped SS off at daycare this morning.

Monchichi's picture

SS stayed with SO for the

SS stayed with SO for the weekend and drop off was at school. No hand over or response from BM.t will be interesting to see what happens today then.

RUBM - rusty uterus birth mother

secret's picture

Yup... I took a bet with SO

Yup... I took a bet with SO as to whether she'd message him today, go pick SS up, or remain incommunicado.

It's been a rough week - I've had to step in a little to help SS with logistics, which I expected and am ok with... but at the same time, you're crimpin' on my free time dude Puzzled