SS using our address
When we moved to our current house, SS had just graduated HS and was living with us.
We gave him until September to live with us before he had to have his own place. (He wasn't going to school, working but he likes to stay out late, not responsible, etc. Not a bad person to live with other then worrying about who he was bringing in the house and if they were trustworthy and him using our house as more of a flop house as opposed to his home)
So he ended up moving out in August and moved in with his GF into her parents home. From there he has mostly just moved place to place. GF house, BM house, back to our house 2 times.
I don't think he has any intention of getting and paying for his own place. Just crashing wherever. He will be 24 in September.
DH has always said that SS doesn't want to switch over his address because his only other option would be BM's and he can't trust her (or the other skids and their SOs) with his mail.
The only mail we have ever gotten for him is bank statements, banking cards and court/attorney stuff.
He hasn't stayed the night with us since last Fall 2016 and that was for only a couple of nights. Prior to that it was Fall 2015 and he lived with his November-January.
I'm fine with him using our address because I understand why he does and it doesn't impact me.
BUT I am curious if there are any impacts of him using our address. Or any potential problems of him being associated with our address as his address.
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I don't know of the impact
I don't know of the impact but why can't he get a PO Box?
He'd have to pay for it and
He'd have to pay for it and why would he want to do that?
While it doesn't bother me that he uses our address at the same time, I'm thinking- time to grow up buddy... you don't live here.
I'd be willing to pay for the
I'd be willing to pay for the initial payment just to get him off my address. haha.
I would like to know the
I would like to know the answer to this as well.
SS26 has not lived with us for the last 4 years or so, and STILL has his mail sent to our house. Lives in an apartment, but still, won't change his address.
I think he should change it, DH gets pissed when I ask why he won't.
He recently got his gun permit, and I am fairly certain that the restrictions are different where he lives, so he keeps his 'address' at our house for that reason. Bullshit.
I can't think of any real
I can't think of any real issues, except the aforementioned insurance situation, but even that isn't really an issue.
I would pay for the PO box
i don't see any real issue
i don't see any real issue with it either, aside from the car insurance (which hopefully he's paying for that himself, correct?)
i'd pay for a PO box for him for 12m if it bothers you, but since you said it really doesn't i wouldn't worry too much about it. if he screws up and you get a visit from law enforcement or a process server, you can simply tell them "i haven't seen him, i believe he's been staying with so-and-so" or "his father lets him use this as his address but i have no idea where my stepson actually lives, if any place at all." either way, i don't think you'd be 'on the hook' for anything. i really can't think of any other situation where it'd be an issue.
Alot of places ask for
Alot of places ask for address & mailing address if different or address & permenant address. Until I moved, my brother & my kids used my address as the mailing/perm address. There weren't ever any problems.