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I am so glad I've found this forum! I've been struggling for months with my partner and his three teenage kids. First off, I believe my partner carries a lot of guilt about his children being from a "broken" home. Because of this, he simply refuses to discipline. His oldest is a complete a** to me and is very disrespectful. His dad does absolutely nothing when this kid treats me badly. Nothing! I don't deserve this and I am getting to the point where I'm not sure if I want to be in this relationship any longer. I am 22 years younger than their dad, and he has made it clear he doesn't want any more children. I'm kind of stuck. This man doesn't want children with me but thinks it's okay if I help raise his! Also, the BM is a total nightmare. I know she has put ideas in the kids' heads about me. I absolutely cannot stand her. She a horrible, narcissistic witch! What do I do?

I say this in kindness. RUN.

I say this in kindness.
RUN.

If you want children of your own this man is not for you.
Take some time to decide what you want in your life.

Read all of the forums. Even the adult stepchildren forums. It never ends. Then the skids have kids(grandkids). How will you feel in 5 years or so from now without your own children and being expected to be a grandma. Only likely they will not even accept you and let you be in a grandma role in the family.

Finding this forum may have saved you years of turmoil and heartbreak.

The only thing a bad man can do is keep a good man away.

What a great set up for your

What a great set up for your partner and a crappy one for you.

Your partner's children get to direct all of their hate and angst towards you instead of the rightful targets, their parents. Dad is ok w/this because he is off the hook and dares not discipline them or they won't like him and threaten to live soley w/mom. So far you've been putting up w/it and he still has a partner so it must be working right? At least thats what he's thinking.

You want a child of your own, he's done w/babymaking. Right here you have a major difference in your core values. I agree with Lost to run while you're young and still have time to build a life for yourself. The relationship you're in is full of hate and dead ends.

Hon, as a mother to a young

Hon, as a mother to a young person, I would say....

This man is 22 years older then you and more mature with more money it seems. But he has an ex wife and too many children, thus comes allot of debt, those kids will go to college, he's only dating you cause you are young and sexy and makes him look good while walking next to him, he knows his kids will go to college and he will have no retirement fund but who cares, his young wife can support him for the next 22 years then..... cause you will still be working,
He already knows that he does not want any more children and if you have a child, you will not be able to fund him and his 4 brats, while he's on pension and you are working... cause you will support your own child.

Cut the ties, it may hurt, but find some one younger, way younger who has no children with ex wife or girl friend,
then enjoy life, get married the way you want to, plan your children, enjoy the first pregnancy, first baby to be born with your husband, enjoy that first time parent feeling.... a man who already has 4 kids will not get excited with the first dada, first steps.. first burp, first birthday for his 5th kid..... if you stay with this man, your life will be empty and meaningless cause you will always wonder about your own babies.... you will always be second to his kids and ex wife, even if you have a child, this child will be nothing in the eyes of this man... just another mouth to feed..

think hard and carefully before you go any further..