Moving on, yikes!
So....after being harassed about lack of involvement on my part as I have distanced myself from stepchild that repeatedly lies...DH seems to have blinders on that will not be removed.
I have communicated with him today that this latest game of manipulation that I will be getting my own place...she (me) did not ask me (a 2nd time after she responded with an I don't know) to my invitation to get her nails done. She now feels "blown out" and feels "uncomfortable around" me and our home...
This was met with a discussion over how DH is not leaving "his" house (we bought it together 1 yr ago with equal down payments). That's it? Oh, and an apology, but no recognition of the game playing and usery that is going on. He did ask SD to sit down with me and discuss what was going on and her conversation went like this..."so I have been lying to my father about the fact that my (BM) got me a cell phone because she told me I cannot call him on it" followed by "I want to do more girly things with you" I ask like....? "shopping for clothes and stuff" This SD has a history of using me and her father to get things she wants. She only ever calls or texts in the past when she wants money or items.
I am so despondent and heart-broken that he can see this as we have discussed it, but refuses to call her out on this stuff.
Broken hearted and planning a move and short-term future moving from New England to the south. So sad. I have put his domestic violence incidents that my grown kids are aware of aside as he has changed on that front. I just am at a loss. My kids despise him and I have sucked it up and not shared too much with him about that. Why does he bend over for her and now after 4 years of stepping up to the plate do just the opposite. He seems ready to walk-away.
I am at a loss, but have to moved on from my marriage.
Hmmm...sounds like good
Hmmm...sounds like good advice. Yes, it is in both of our names. Thank you for the encouragement, I needed that.
You will look back and laugh
You will look back and laugh at this misery one day, it is only the transition that is hard. You hang in there and find your own happiness now. You cannot live like this, nor should you....stay strong and make YOU a priority!
domestic violence
domestic violence incidents?
And where in the south are you looking to move? I did this 2.5 years ago and have some knowledge on the subject.
Thank you for your support.
Thank you for your support. I am looking to move to the coast of North or South Carolina. I have family in Raleigh, Savannah and West Palm, so it seems to make sense for me. Cost of living will be a help too. I was looking for jobs and saw in at Camp LaJuene that I qualify for, so maybe that area in particular?
I have to get up the nerve to apply for that tomorrow.
Thank you all...I am having trouble trying to relax enough to sleep and your encouragement makes me feel I might be OK.
I agree talking to an
I agree talking to an attorney is number one. also cancel any credit cards that the both of you have your names on them. my father had to pay half of the amount of money that was used on credit cards because both of their names were on the cards. texas is a community property state so whatever you acquire togther whether it is debt or assets it gets split 50/50.
may be better financially to reconcile then to split up...just saying. maybe your hubby has been playing you all this time since he stated the house was his. be very careful of what you say to him though when you 2 are alone especially since he has hit u b4. My daughter's father was abusive and he almost killed me had I not escaped. no charged were filed due to tx laws. just be cautious and sneaky in whatever you do.
Stay strong and courageous.
Stay strong and courageous. Be cautious and at guard. Know there are others of us out there and wanting the end result to be in your best interest. Mental peace is isn't over rated. Hoping for some soon.
Get a good lawyer and make
Get a good lawyer and make sure you aren't hurting yourself by leaving the house....