Pecanflower's picture

O/T but a common O/T Sex Drive

Bless My poor DH's Heart.

We are damned if we do and damned if we don't where the sex drive is concerned lately. My doctor has put me on Topomax to help prevent my migraines...and with it my sex drive has fallen to the sub basement levels. I have NONE. I don't want it. Don't even want to think about it. Things that used to get me hot are totally just "eh".

Then there is DH with him MS meds. So, yeah, he wants sex...but that doesn't mean he is going to be able to finish even if we do have it.

The extent of intimacy I am interested in...holding hands, maybe a cuddle...MAYBE. If he goes for the boobs or the coochie one more time, I may break his fingers. Sigh. I won't. But Sigh. That is all. just a wee bitch.

Brick's picture

Is he on blood pressure meds?

Is he on blood pressure meds? That can effect the not finishing part. He can switch to another kind and the issue will go away. Ask your dr for Viagra. Someone says it does a womans body good. lol

Pecanflower's picture

He is on blood pressure meds.

He is on blood pressure meds. But we are pretty sure the not finishing is the MS. It's a nerve response thing.

ItsGrowingOld's picture

Is the Topomax helping with

Is the Topomax helping with your migraine issue?

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Pecanflower's picture

Yes, it is. Which is great.

Yes, it is. Which is great.

anotherstep2's picture

I have to co-sign on the

I have to co-sign on the Topamax. It works miracles one migraines. I am not sure if it killed my sex drive - I attributed that to my hysterectomy - but maybe it is contributing? Great.....nice choice, huh?

z3girl's picture

I was on Topomax for

I was on Topomax for migraines years ago. One of the side effects listed is kidney stones, and sure enough, I got them. I went off it, and never had another kidney stone.

Worked decently for my migraines, but thankful I don't get them anymore. Woohoo!

nobodysbabynow's picture

I'm on topomax also, maybe

I'm on topomax also, maybe that's why I have no sex drive! I hope your doctor told you to drink 100 oz of water per day. Mine didn't, and I ended up with kidney stones, another lovely side effect. Took me out of work for a month and had to have surgery. Make sure to drink LOTS of water!

Pecanflower's picture

He did not. But I will do.

He did not. But I will do.

z3girl's picture

I got kidney stones from it

I got kidney stones from it too! It was AWFUL!

Gimlet's picture

I'm glad it's working for

I'm glad it's working for you. It was one of the many anti-depressants I tried and for me, it earned the nickname "Dopamax" because I could not string two sentences together.

Prozac killed my drive almost completely.

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guppies's picture

I don't know what killed mine

I don't know what killed mine other than my DH is way, way older than me. Plus he cheated on me in the past, he's impotent now but even if he wasn't I'm not attracted to him for sex, I'm not attracted to anyone at all. I take a lot of different meds for several things, like blood pressure, cholesterol, fibromyalgia etc....oh well, it is what it is!

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It takes a strong man to step up to the plate another man left on the table.

guppies's picture

Duplicate

Duplicate Smiling

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moving_on's picture

I take bp meds and it hasn't

I take bp meds and it hasn't affected mine. If anything, I want way more lately. SO just started a new job that is 5x more physically taxing than his previous job so we usually can't sneak in more than a couple times a week before he passes out. I don't know if it's age or what (I'm 36).

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When a healthy person behaves in a way that hurts others, they take responsibility for that action and make amends. - Kelly Berdine