WTF
Together, my husband and I have 5 children. He has two (SD11 and SS9) that are with us 50% of the time. I have three (BD13, BS11, and BD9) that are home 90% of the time. My BS11 was doing his laundry (he shares a room with SS9). All of their dirty clothes were on the floor. So my BS11 picked up his own dirty clothes and brought them downstairs to the washing machine (something only my children do). I asked him his SS9's clothes were in there. My son said, "no. I'm not doing his laundry." My husband flipped and said, "that's a dick move." To my 11-year old son, I'm assuming all he interpreted was that his step-father called him a dick. And then, of course, we proceeded to argue because I don't expect my 11 year old to be doing his step-brother's laundry. I'm not really asking for advice because at this point, I absolutely feel correct in this. My child is not responsible for washing anyone else's laundry. And for my husband to become enraged over this is BULLSHIT. Make his own kids do their own laundry. They are NOT too young. But God forbid his children have to do anything for which they receive the same weekly allowance as my kids. I am beyond angry. Thanks for letting me vent!
WTF, I agree...No lady, there
WTF, I agree...No lady, there is no way a parent should speak to a child like this for many reasons. Your son should not be expected to do anybody else's laundry, most kids do not even do their own....
You have every right to be angry and do not let the biggest bully in the house intimidate you or your children.
How would he like it if you made these horribly rude and out of line remarks directly to his precious children who cannot even do their own laundry? If he did not stop, I would have to get his attention some way, unfortunately! You may have to treat him like the child he is behaving.
Stand strong for what is right....
^^^^This! If my DH ever
^^^^This! If my DH ever called my BS11 something like that, he would be finding a new place for him and SD10 to live.
I don't have to worry about this, as we expect all of the kids to do chores. I think it's great that your BS11 does his own laundry. We are still working on that. And no, he shouldn't be expected to do someone else's laundry.
Teach your son to not take it
Teach your son to not take it personal.... and next time you answer... NO it's a dick move from a parent not looking after their own children, it's not another child's responsibility then walk away
The only dick in this picture
The only dick in this picture is DH. Funny how he grows a set of balls with your son but hasn't balls enough to jerk a knot in his own spawn's tail for not doing his own laundry.
Ball-less wonders never cease to nauseate me.
Kelly, I don't have much to
Kelly, I don't have much to add to what the other posters have said, but I remember your story and don't care much for your H. He comes across as someone selfish with anger issues.
Please take care of your kids and yourself.
Please let you kids go live
Please let you kids go live with their father full-time.
They should be stuck living with your husband. If you want to be up with his ridiculous behavior, have at it. But don't make your children suffer for your poor choices.
Actually, their father is an
Actually, their father is an asshole and treats the kids like shit. Their step-father is a million times better than their bio dad, to which the kids agree. They actually beg for a lawyer so they don't have to see their dad.
My husband and I ARE going to therapy for these very issues. He's an amazing dad and step-dad. But clearly we have issues. And obviously, if this is the kind of response I get from talking my shit out on this website, I won't bother anymore. Thanks for the kind, encouraging, constructive criticism.
I hope your life is perfect and you really do have a throne to sit upon.
Right. Not hateful at all.
Right. Not hateful at all.
What do you think your son
What do you think your son feels when his SF says "dick move"? You're offended *we* aren't fawning over your SO and you feel *we* are being "hateful". You don't approve of what's being said about your SO here. How does a child feel when a parent and/or stepparent is being "hateful" to them?