Another Vent
We went a nice local nursery and to the annual Art festival on Saturday.
Anytime we take skids anywhere, SS and DH hold hands while me and SD walk behind them. When I met DH, SS was 4. I was jealous then that I couldn't walk with my man and hold his hand, but SS was only 4. His parents were recently divorced. I'm not going to say anything. I hoped he would grow out of it. Well, then he was 6...then 8...then 10. Now he is 11. Not only is he 11 now but he's 5'7 135lbs. He is no longer a little boy. He lives with us full times, so it's not like he is missing daddy.
SD and I have gotten used to this routine. Well until this weekend, while we were walking around on Saturday, they go from holding hands to walking around with their arms around each other necks, they can do this now because SS is almost as tall as DH. Then they start walking around like this. https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photo-happy-elegant-woman-holding-her-m...
This is how me and DH walk around together sometimes. For some stupid reason this hurt my feelings. I mean, I should be used to this. DH realized I was upset and tried to get me to hold his hand WHILE SS his hanging on his other side. I pulled away from him because it's gross and awkward. I told him no, he was busy enough hanging on SS. AND that would leave SD alone behind the three of us.
DH told me to stop trying to start a fight but then he told SS to stop hanging on him and give him space.
Am I being crazy here? I grew up with brothers and male cousins. NONE of them would be seen in public hanging on daddy at this age. GRRRR it's always something. I feel like if we were an intact family, this would never have happened. I wouldn't be walking behind DH and SS like they are a couple.
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I should not have looked at
:jawdrop: :jawdrop: I should not have looked at the picture..... I'm scared for life....
father and son walking like this? thank you... scared for life...
Why oh why did DH allow this to go on, DEigma refused to hold my hand in public age 5 already.... I had to force him to grab onto my shoulder bag in huge groups of people... but holding his hand would've been blue screaming murder from him lol.... I can't even imagine doing it at age of 15
That is so weird. My BS
That is so weird. My BS doesn't even like me to touch him in public. LOL.
DH used to do this to me with the girl skids. He's holding hands with them, ages 12, 15, etc and I'm walking 5 steps behind them. I'm like... whose the GF? It was like as soon as they got out of the car they would gravitate towards each other to hold hands... sometimes they would even skip down the parking lot. How I don't miss those days.
DH and the girl skids had some really unhealthy boundaries that I had to point out to DH. I had to point out to him, they are not little kids anymore. They are almost grown women. No need to hold their hands, no need to have them sit on your lap, no need for them to lean against you, all cuddled up to you.
Have you talked to your DH about it?
No, I always felt like they
No, I always felt like they were just missing each other and SS was little. Well, he isn't little anymore. He's bigger than me now and he lives with us full time now. Maybe it's just habit??? He's never done it with SD. I can only remember one time that he held her hand while we were all out.
Blech. Does SS do it to
Blech. Does SS do it to basically pull your DH from you?
Back in the younger days, if all 6 of us (DH, myself, my 2 and 2 SK's) would go somewhere they would actively try to separate DH and I. We're not hand-holders, but if I was walking beside DH, the SK's would get in front of us (one on each side of DH) then slow down, effectively pushing me back. At first, I'd hang back with my kids, then incrementally slow down and get lost in the crowd until DH started looking around for us...
Then once I figured out exactly how PRECIOUS the boys' jordan high tops were to them, if they got in front of me and slowed down I'd step on the backs of their shoes }:) Oops! Soooo sorry!! But you really shouldn't walk in front of me then slow down!!!
It's ridiculous the games we find ourselves in sometimes... SK's being sneaky and DH/SO's being clueless.
"SK's would get in front of
"SK's would get in front of us (one on each side of DH) then slow down, effectively pushing me back"
"if they got in front of me and slowed down I'd step on the backs of their shoes"
Yup. All of this. But SS doesn't care about his shoes. I just got tired of it and let him win. I have no idea if DH even notices it.
BLECH. i remember those days
BLECH. i remember those days well. i also would just gradually slow down and get further and further back, and eventually just disappear altogether.
after a few times of dh calling me asking where i was at (i usually went back to the car) he began to realize exactly how long i had been 'missing'. he definitely made big improvements then.
kaos is 13 and taller than i am - how odd would it be to see him hanging all over his father in public. i've never seen a kid act like that :sick: :sick: :sick:
Good idea
Good idea
OMG, I would be venting as
OMG, I would be venting as well! I guess I'm even more surprised that it is a boy doing this. My SD does this still also and is almost 10 and it is annoying but a son that is almost that is that old and big still acting this way is bizarre! I'm grossed out with the rest of the ST crowd here! I like LadyFace's idea! Take a picture and send it to him or post it on fb and tag him and see what responses come from that. It isn't something I consider normal. My son is 10 and he rarely wants to show affection like that in public with me or anyone!
Maybe someone will assume
Maybe someone will assume they are a couple, and treat them like a couple, and that will open their eyes.
SO and Munchkin SD10 stb 11,
SO and Munchkin SD10 stb 11, I thought it was cute at first, because I met her when she was a little more than 8. NOW, I just simply grab his hand, or make a comment about walking behind he and his little precious. I get a glare and then he grabs my hand or puts and arm around me. It is no longer cute.