I need to get this out before it comes out of my mouth.

SO went to visit SD6 tonight and learned that she was hospitalized over the weekend. He had tried to see her for Easter but was told that her schedule was full.

I AM SO SICK AND TIRED OF BM2's FREAKING MARTYR ACT I COULD SPIT.

1.) SD6 is too busy to spend 5 freaking minutes getting her Easter basket from her father because she has other plans with BM and her friends. She hounds SO about "making SD a priority" translation: You need to come visit your daughter at my mother's house during the week when I'm not there even though there is absolutely NO reason why you should have any form of supervised visitation (meanwhile they cancel or change plans on him at the last minute all the time-ie HE isn't a priority and SD's relationship with him under these wacky terms isn't a priority to them). You also have to change the date that you visit her because Thursdays are when I'm there visiting her (Since I now crash at my boyfriend's house on a regular basis). He also needs to be more consistent-translation: you need to make sure that when I tell you she has a school event at 1 on Monday that you need to take her to, you are at my parent's house to take her at 5 even though you get out of work at 4:30 and work an hour away.
-SD6 IS a priority to SO just as all his children are. The problem is that he works 1 1/2 hours away from home, 40 hours per week, has an autistic son, a 2 year old and an ailing father. So sometimes things come up-I have to work late and can't get the kids home and to bed at a reasonable hour, his father is hospitalized or for f*cks sake the man is TIRED because BD2 was up all night and it was his turn to deal with 2am hell. (Because I work 40 hours a week too). Not to mention the fact that sometimes HIS visits are changed BY BM's mother who seems to be primary caregiver at this point because she has her own life too ya know-as she very well should.
-Visits could be a lot more regular if SD came to see us EOWE even if it was only a few hours with her grandmother OR BM.

2.) HOW HOW HOW is having a relationship with her half brother and sister going to be any more confusing for her than having a relationship with her half sister who her mother placed for adoption?!?!?!?!
-It won't. My step son and my daughter just didn't fall out of the golden uterus.

3.) SD6 was hospitalized over the weekend. BM didn't see fit to inform SO at ALL. That poor little girl deserves to have both of her parents there with her when she is sick and when she needs them. Before she was blocked, she told me "I allow SO to see SD". NO YOU DON'T-HE HAS A RIGHT TO SEE HIS CHILD GET OFF YOUR HIGH FREAKING HORSE YOU.............ERRRRR. She has told me on numerous occasions she hates SO. Well GTF over it sweet cheeks and stop punishing your kid because you have the emotional maturity of a 4th grader.

Okay, I think I have furious typed the rage out. I just don't get these women and their selfishness. What's maddening is they turn around and act like they are some kind of martyr. Meanwhile I just shake my head and wonder, it must be so nice to only have to account for your own feelings and pretend that is what is best for your kid.

There are real deadbeats out there. Ones that don't see their kids, don't support their kids, don't care about their kids at all. Then you have people who want to see their children, be active in their lives and you have these other bioparents who would just like to pretend that they have it sooooo bad meanwhile they are responsible for the deprivation, the missed holidays, birthdays and broken relationships. SO is not perfect by any means but at this point, BM needs to take a long hard look in the mirror and if she didn't get it when I spelled it out for her a couple of weeks ago, then the only way she's going to get it is when all of this comes around and bites her in the rear which makes me FURIOUS because want to know who suffers the most?

SD.

My SS and my BD who don't get to grow up knowing their sister.

SO.

In that order.