Kids don't know she's dyingSubmitted by Dontfeedthetrolls on Mon, 03/20/2017 - 5:15pm
Not really sure there’s anything that can be done but maybe someone has an idea. The man I’m with has two children. One’s in first grade while the other is younger. Biomom has primary custody and when the kids are not with her or us they are with one of her family members, which is quite often. To the point the oldest talks about that being their 2nd home with dad's being their 3rd. This doesn’t upset me except that the family member has a terminal illness and is dying. I’ve struggled with this for a while but last time we went to pick them up it was hard to ignore. They were with mom and family member when we had to quickly pick them up because family member was on the way to the ER. On the way home partner tells the kids everything’s going to be fine which bothered me because it’s not true. I understand not scaring the kids but I realized they have no clue. They truly think that these ER visits are nothing and everything’s just fine while we adults see the inevitable. It’s going to happen and I’m worried what will happen when it does. I know the younger one most likely won’t understand but I feel the older should be given some heads up. I mean I’m truly worried the family member may die while the kids are alone with her. I can’t and won’t try to say anything to them myself (Not my place I know). I talked to dad and he says he wants to but Biomom refuses. We may just be stuck until something happens and then only able to offer the best support we can. Dad likes the women also so he’s concerned too but doesn’t want to start a fight with Biomom which is understandable. I understand this maybe something that there's nothing he can do.