OT - Close Encounter of the Ugly Kind (it's loooooong)Submitted by Aniki on Mon, 03/20/2017 - 10:33am
I don't know if anyone remembers the icky situation I was stuck in the middle of almost 2 years ago.
My exBFF (a man) and I had been friends for 45 years - since kindergarten.
6 years ago, he cheated on his wife with a former high school alumnus, KK (I knew her; he hooked up with her on Fakebook).
FF (exBFF) was going to leave his wife, but changed his mind at the last minute.
FF has to block KK from Fakebook and his phone because she's stalking him and sending him love letters.
6 months after they broke up, KK hooked up with ANOTHER alumnus and my friend, DD (Dumb Dude) - whom FF and I have known since grade school.
Within a few months, DD moved in with KK.
Fast forward 4 years....
FF's wife divorces him. She'd been cheating on him and wanted out. FF blamed her for the end of the marriage (pot, meet kettle).
Within a month, FF reconnects with KK who is STILL LIVING WITH DD.
KK and FF are IN LOVE!!!
KK cheats on DD with FF. They do everything except have intercourse. KK is still doing the nasty with DD.
DD finds out KK is a cheater, but KK insists she loves DD and had a "slip".
KK finally tells DD he needs to move out and gives him an *end date* of July 31. They are still doing the nasty.
FF finds out KK is still humping DD, is enraged, and breaks it off. KK wheedles her way back in.
DD moves out. KK and FF wait a respectable 2 WEEKS before announcing they are a couple.
Aaaaaand.... KK is still doing the nasty with DD!! (For almost 2 months before DD couldn't live with himself and told her No More.)
Halfway into Fall....
KK and FF take a vacation out east and post multiple photos of the Love Lock they put on a bridge.
Meanwhile, KK is still stringing along DD, telling him she'll leave FF if DD gets a full-time job because.....
FF is the biggest mistake she's ever made in her life!!!
(Did I mention that FF is an alcoholic?)
KK is one of those people who MUST have a significant other. So she will find another man (cheat) before she breaks up with the current victim.
DD blocked KK because... He met the girl of his dreams and got married!!
KK lost a lot of friends because people found out what a lying, cheating C-word she is and they dislike FF because he's an arsehole.
KK feeds FF a line of bull that I'm telling EVERYONE and that's the reason she lost mucho friends and people don't want to associate with them.
FF and I meet for drinks, and he accuses ME of telling folks all kinds of BS and that's why people shun him and KK. It was UGLY.
Suffice to say, IMHO, our friendship ended that night. FF tried calling and texting me for a several months, but I never replied.
Fast forward to YESTERDAY....
A mutual (of FF and me) friend's father passed away and the funeral was yesterday. I pulled into the parking lot and there was FF's car. Crap.
As I'm signing the registry, I see that FF and KK are flanking Mutual Friend. Double crap. Thankfully, 2 other grade school pals are there, too.
I walk into the chapel, stop to view the multiple picture boards, stop to view the deceased, bow my head, take a breath and...
Walk straight up to Mutual as if I'm wearing blinders and tell him how sorry I am for his loss. We hug for a long moment, and he takes both my hands and says, "You have no idea how much I appreciate you coming. It's such a long drive and it means a LOT."
I squeezed his hands and said, "How could I NOT come?? Besides, it's only 30 minutes from Aniki-town." (Which is a shocker to FF who had no idea I'd moved.)
Then I did a 180 and greeted Friend 1 and Friend 2. Friend 2's mouth was hanging open and he stammered out, "Aniki you look SENSATIONAL!!" To which Friend 1 replied, "You do, Aniki. Just beautiful."
F1, F2, and I continued to converse (FF and KK had a nice view of my back). Mutual Friend, FF, and KK moved over to the picture boards. About 15 minutes later, FF came over to shake hands with and say goodbye to F1 and F2. I acted as if FF was invisible. F1 and F2 noticed, we had a very short conversation about it. I simply said that KK seemed to view me as a rival and didn't want FF and me to be friends. FF wanted her and I'm out but I wish them well.
I don't think I'm gloating, but I'm pleased that I was so calm and with the way I handled this. I was absolutely terrified that I'd break out in a nervous sweat, that I'd trip on my 4" stiletto boots, or that I'd have a panic attack. I couldn't believe how CALM I was!! Although I'm gonna be a total beeyotch and say that, even though I was having a shite hair day (IMO), I knew that I looked good in my dress and heels and that KK looked like a frowsy frump in baggy slacks, flats, and a shapeless sweater. Meow...