Teaching children to be self sufficient...Submitted by Justkeepsteppin on Mon, 03/20/2017 - 10:25am
...and the harsh backlash it causes. I was talking to (read as: getting talked at) by my mother and younger sisters about my parenting. Apparently they see me teaching my children to be self sufficient as child abuse and neglect.
Why in the ever loving hell do people flip when they find out children have chores? My mother is also accusing me of "forcing" DD, who is 2 1/2, to grow up to fast.
VENT: My mother! who refused to cook, clean, or do laundry after I was 8 years old. AND I was they oldest of her children. I was left basically raising my baby sister who is 7 years younger than me, doing all the cooking for a family of 11, and doing my 4 younger siblings laundry.
My mother didn't even do the grocery shopping. SDad left me $20-$40 in a cookie jar and I walked 2 blocks to the grocery store every day and bought things for dinner and whatever else we had ran out of.
My 5 stepbrothers were assigned the cleaning and trash chores and the youngest 3 didn't have to lift a finger. (2 of which are the sisters that I'm referring to) My mom and SDad were rarely home. It was a "big kids watch the little kids" house.
Now I'm getting the third degree from her for teaching my children basic life necessities.
A giant can of worms opened because my sister came over this weekend. DD 2 1/2 was helping me unload the dishwasher. When we were finished I started dinner with DD's help. She loves to help cook. I let DD cut up some of the tomatoes and onions. My sister lost her mind. DD has been using a sandwich knife since she was 1 1/2 years old. The girl can seriously make her own peanut butter and jelly sandwiches if I open the jars for her. You would have thought I'd given her a machete and walked away with the reaction out of my younger sister.
To make matters worse, DH was in the back yard with the 3 older kids. They were cleaning the yard up, cleaning out the shed, and filling in some holes the dogs had dug. That just added to the load of crap that spewed out of their mouths about DH and I.
Next thing I know I'm getting a giant speech from my sister about parenting. (Her oldest is 5 and she's a helicopter SAHM to 3 kids) Who then leaves and calls my mother. By the end of it I was basically told I was wrong for everything I had taught my children and step children to do for themselves.
Children shouldn't have to help clean or cook and I'm using them for child labor << seriously my sister's words.
I don't know where I'm going with this. They just pissed me off...grrr.