Admin's picture

Preparing for ST 2.0 Launch - Part 1

StepTalkers,

Good news! We're getting closer to launching the new StepTalk site. We've been busy working on the new mobile-friendly theme and building out the basic functionality. We're hoping to be ready to launch with basic functionality in early Spring. After our initial launch, we'll be incrementally adding new functionality as well.

We're doing our best to ensure that we migrate as much of our data to the new site as possible. There are, however, a few things that we either can't migrate or have decided that the effort to migrate will be too great to complete in time. So far we've identified a couple of items that will affect you.

1. Private Messages - We will be migrating many of your private messages. However, our migration process won't allow the migration of messages that were either sent by or sent to currently blocked users. This means that once we are finished migrating your data you may be missing some of your private messages. We encourage you to take this time to review any private messages you have that you may want to backup yourself. After the migration we will not be able to restore any messages that were lost during migration.

2. Friends List - We will be implementing a new Friends List system on ST 2.0. We've decided that the effort to migrate your current friends list from the old system into the new would be more effort than we can afford in order to launch this Spring. Please make a note of your current list of friends. Once we launch, you'll have the opportunity to rebuild your friends list.

As many of you know, this launch has been a long time coming. We've been "working" on this for years now. We're getting excited to finally be this close to launching the new site. As the launch time gets closer I'll be posting updates here. Wish us luck!

-Admin

Admin's picture

Tarabithashiqua, Hi! That is

Tarabithashiqua,

Hi! That is high on our list of features to add after we launch, yes. We're still working on the technical details of that one but we intend to have the ability to allow users to "mute" or "block" other users. The intent is that muting or blocking a user will remove that users posts and comments from your view, and not allow that user to comment on your posts, etc.

At some time later we want to add levels of privacy that will allow you to set the visibility of your blog posts to "public", "friends only", etc. The forums will always remain public.

-Admin

Gimlet's picture

At some time later we want to

At some time later we want to add levels of privacy that will allow you to set the visibility of your blog posts to "public", "friends only", etc. The forums will always remain public.

I'm very much looking forward to this feature.

That and the up/down votes.

Thanks Admin!

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana

If he isn't scared, he doesn't care enough, and you will do better alone or with someone better - lieutenant_dad

secret's picture

Hi! That is high on our list

Hi! That is high on our list of features to add after we launch, yes. We're still working on the technical details of that one but we intend to have the ability to allow users to "mute" or "block" other users. The intent is that muting or blocking a user will remove that users posts and comments from your view, and not allow that user to comment on your posts, etc.

At some time later we want to add levels of privacy that will allow you to set the visibility of your blog posts to "public", "friends only", etc. The forums will always remain public.

I'm very much looking forward to these features - I'm soooo tired of having a particular set of posters harrass me and make a mockery of my blogs by making fake profiles full of taunts, with no recourse to stop it.

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wicked_by_proxy's picture

^^^^^ That right there

^^^^^ That right there deserves a "LIKE"....will you have a like button for posts?

Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience.
Mark Twain

Admin's picture

A "like" button, or something

A "like" button, or something similar, is definitely on our short list. We're looking into a voting system that will allow users to not only vote up (like), but also vote down (dislike) content. Eventually we may be able to implement a rules system that will help the users of the site self-moderate using the voting system, etc. Another way to help protect the site from trolls and spammers.

-Admin

Admin's picture

Dealing with trolls is always

Dealing with trolls is always a hard, if not impossible, task to deal with. Allowing users to "mute" or "block" other users should help here.

Unfortunately, it's also impossible to prevent users from creating multiple accounts. When they are reported or discovered they are blocked. Outside of that there's not much we can do. Realistic recommendations are always welcome.

-Admin

Gimlet's picture

Mine says McLovin.

Mine says McLovin. Smiling

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana

If he isn't scared, he doesn't care enough, and you will do better alone or with someone better - lieutenant_dad

Aniki's picture

Dangit, Gimmy, I just snorted

Dangit, Gimmy, I just snorted water out of my nose!!! LOL

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Tuff Noogies's picture

gosh that would be a pain in

gosh that would be a pain in the @$$. i certainly would not submit any personal information like that to what's supposed to be an anonymous website. and what a pain for admin to have to store all that information!

"I am the nicest person you will ever meet until you try to f*ck over somebody I love. Then? I'm your worst f'ing nightmare." - Former.

Famuky is looming at me ark.

"His eyes said different though...."

Admin's picture

You must think we have staff,

You must think we have staff, and a budget for those types of things. LOL Smiling

Not to mention, it's not hard to get copies of drivers licenses....and it does not prove that you aren't a troll. Eye-wink It would only expose users to the potential for identify theft.

Proving identity not only would not prevent trolls, but it would prevent regular people from joining. Who wants to give out that kind of personal identifying information just to join an online community? We don't care who you are as long as you play nice.

-Admin

Admin's picture

Again, the muting or blocking

Again, the muting or blocking of users is meant to help with this situation.

-Admin

Tuff Noogies's picture

sounds great!

sounds great!

"I am the nicest person you will ever meet until you try to f*ck over somebody I love. Then? I'm your worst f'ing nightmare." - Former.

Famuky is looming at me ark.

"His eyes said different though...."

Indigo's picture

Hey Dawn & Admin, Thanks for

Hey Dawn & Admin,

Thanks for keeping STepTalk open and available to us all. We appreciate it, especially during those "long dark tea-times of the Soul." Eye-wink

Mountain meet molehill; molehill meet mountain.

Parents lie down and allow the children and grandchildren to run forth-and-back, and back-and-forth: "Roadkill parenting."

Consider your gene pool and your finances.

Admin's picture

You're welcome, Indigo.

You're welcome, Indigo. Smiling Thanks for your feedback. We're glad to be a part of something that is helping so many people navigate step-parenting.

-Admin

Aniki's picture

I'm very much looking forward

I'm very much looking forward to the upgrade. Thank you, Admin!! Laughing out loud

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Acratopotes's picture

YES !!! upgrade would be

YES !!! upgrade would be nice, I hope I can still sneak in here from the office.... government corporate blocks and all..

The like button would be great, I'm a government worker and all this typing is tiring me out. Also it would be nice to only block certain posters from commenting on your blogs. I will probably be blocked on every one's Evil

But Admin - be honest, the upgrade is taking years cause this poster always seems to find her way back in and now you are working hand in hand with my company to get me blocked for ever... saw right through your little plans and I'm sure you are a skid as well

thank for this site!!!!

Blended family life turned me into a pirate....
All I want to do is drink Rum and stab people

Disillusioned's picture

Wow this all sounds great,

Wow this all sounds great, looking forward to it!

TiredMan's picture

I was excited to find a guide

I was excited to find a guide on helping adult stepkids to launch but this sounds cool too, lol.

sammigirl's picture

Admin: This is an excellent

Admin: This is an excellent site and you are doing an excellent service.

Thank you.

I am going to do what I love, when I love, and I'm going to love doing it.

Admin's picture

Na'u ka hau'oli -Admin

Na'u ka hau'oli

-Admin

Aniki's picture

Isn't that drink served in a

Isn't that drink served in a pineapple? Eye-wink

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Stepped in what momma's picture

Will the new upgrade remove

Will the new upgrade remove deactivated users from my friends list?

Ain't going to lie- skids make me want to poke myself in the eye

brutallyhonest's picture

Thank you for working on and

Thank you for working on and maintaining this site for free! Maybe the new version will have a way to accept donations for the upkeep. This site has been incredibly beneficially even though I don't post very often and I'm not opposed to contributing (think pledge drive-style) to sometime of annual fundraiser that pays for the hosting and software. I am glad I found this site and very thankful Dawn and Admin have kept it up all these years.

Tuff Noogies's picture

hey admin - another

hey admin - another suggestion to consider....

how about being able to batch-delete blogs, like you do in an email account by checking certain boxes and then clicking 'delete'? hmmmm... that would be greeeeaaaatttt...

"I am the nicest person you will ever meet until you try to f*ck over somebody I love. Then? I'm your worst f'ing nightmare." - Former.

Famuky is looming at me ark.

"His eyes said different though...."

JustAgirl42's picture

I do believe I like that idea

I do believe I like that idea Tuff. *Said in my best British accent*

'I've come to the conclusion that there is nothing common about common courtesy or common sense.'

Aniki's picture

An option to make our blogs

An option to make our blogs readable only by us would be nice. There are things I'd love to type out for reference, but not necessarily share. Smiling

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Maxwell09's picture

This is a great idea. Like an

This is a great idea. Like an online journal.

somethingwicked's picture

How about creating private

How about creating private chat rooms for members who wish to discuss certain step or OT without opening up the troll can of worms or too often having the convo veer off rails?

Acratopotes's picture

no no no I'm not a troll but

no no no I'm not a troll but I do enjoy their shenanigans lol.. keeps me busy Evil

do what I do... pvt message you can include more then one poster..

Blended family life turned me into a pirate....
All I want to do is drink Rum and stab people

somethingwicked's picture

Yeah ,but a private chat room

Yeah ,but a private chat room is easier . Thanks for the good idea. I know you ain't no troll..
lol

Aniki's picture

I'd like the option for my

I'd like the option for my blog to be private (for my eyes only) or open to specific people (such as my friends group).

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Gimlet's picture

I would like to see a clear,

I would like to see a clear, specific TOS.

I would like to see mods on the page who adhere to that clear, specific TOS.

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana

If he isn't scared, he doesn't care enough, and you will do better alone or with someone better - lieutenant_dad

Aniki's picture

I would like to see a status

I would like to see a status of flagged trolls...

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Maxwell09's picture

This is a great idea.

This is a great idea.

Aniki's picture

dupe

dupe

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Gimlet's picture

Apologies to Admin, there is

Apologies to Admin, there is a TOS and I missed it. I will change that to having mods on the page to enforce it.

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana

If he isn't scared, he doesn't care enough, and you will do better alone or with someone better - lieutenant_dad

Aniki's picture

Gimlet, could you please copy

Gimlet, could you please copy that particular section of the TOS? Or did you mean the TOS in general?

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Gimlet's picture

TOS in general

TOS in general Smiling

Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. - George Santayana

If he isn't scared, he doesn't care enough, and you will do better alone or with someone better - lieutenant_dad

secret's picture

It would be helpful is there

It would be helpful is there was a clear user conduct component... other than "play nice, no harsh, offensive, or abusive language"...and it would be great if the code of conduct component was in the actual terms of use.

Some people definitely DO NOT play nice, and amuse themselves by using foul language. It's rampant, actually.

Examples might be helpful for those people who tend to call others idiot, dramatic, ignorant, or infer they're stupid... or are otherwise "harsh" with words or phrases, such as "don't listen to her, she's stubborn"... or "don't bother with that poster, she's too stupid to see what she's doing"...anything that puts another poster down, or attempts to undermine/insult/berate them.

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Aniki's picture

I don't think including

I don't think including helpful links is a bad thing and wish that Admin would alter the TOS... Puzzled

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

Ninji's picture

I was thinking this too.

I was thinking this too. Smiling

Aniki's picture

Me, three!

Me, three!

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

JustAgirl42's picture

I hope the basic format

I hope the basic format doesn't change much. It's very readable unlike many other forums I see.

'I've come to the conclusion that there is nothing common about common courtesy or common sense.'

Maxwell09's picture

Yes I hope the upgrade

Yes I hope the upgrade doesn't look too busy on the page or we start to get pop ups. I don't mind the ads along the side of the page and I like this simplistic text format. I would like a "like" button and some other features like muting or blocking.

Aniki's picture

I would love to see a Forum

I would love to see a Forum that discusses abusive relationships...what they are, resources, etc.

Some of the folks on here (sueu2!!!) have excellent advice for people in this situation.

I decided to stop reaching out. It's just asking to get my hand slapped. ~Aniki

The juice ain't worth the squeeze. ~SourGrapes

Shun her like an Amish chick who got caught wearing a thong. ~Echo

somethingwicked's picture

So does Administration peruse

So does Administration peruse the postings that are /were flagged for actual discriminatory or inflammatory content?

What happens when one person had multiple IDs and flags a specific poster multiple times because they do not like getting labeled a troll when ,in actuality ,they are?

What happens when a poster is in denial ,comes here looking for everyone to agree that she is doing great as a SM , agree her DH or SO is great and God's gift (when that is far from truth) and she is looking for false positives or inflation of self or ego stroking and does not like the truthful responses?

There ARE narcissists in the Step World ,too. Not just GUBM's.

So a poster hoping to present truth is flagged by an OP looking for ego stroking.
So does Administration in every case read the entire post and discerns if the OP is living in LaLa land Fairy Tale Land and a dose of reality is helpful and healthy not hurtful?
Or does Administration just count the flags and cuts the cord of posters.
Clarification would be very helpful right now for a shocked bunch of ST members.'

Just trying to get a sense of how ST works..the judicial system, if you will.

The negative aspect of a comment could be completely subjective, you know.

If someone comes right out and says" you are as stupid as a turd"..OK..
But if someone says "I don't think you are grasping my argument or thereality of your situation"
"I think you enjoy living your fantasy" etc

And if OP is insulted that you present to them a comment or advice and couple it with their inability to understand your point that they solicited by posting their problem, YOU get flagged.

And so my question is : does Administration try to discern if a foul was committed or is the culling of the Step Talk herd a blindly performed procedure totally based upon counting flags .

WILL Step Talk just become PepTalk and never a disparaging word heard?

That may hurt the website.

Truth sometimes IS painful.

Sometimes a person needs a harsh accounting or the bald faced truth.
There are many posters that say: Well that is a little harsh but you are right..blah blah.."

Some of those recently banned gave the BEST advice.

It may NOT have been Sugar Coated but it smacked of TRUTH and TURTH can be bitter.

And so many of those banned posters were people of many years and many life experiences.
Some of them were the nicest people and so many here are scratching their heads.

This is not StepTalk featuring StepFordWives or Handmaidens, RIGHT?

People here for the most part are REAL. With REAL life problems requiring real life solutions from real people with experience who ran the gauntlet and came out the other side.
Some stronger .Some with answers . Some with advice. All with wounds.

Everyone here is a project in evolution.
Everyone here is trying and hoping to find something in the words and posts to make their lives a little bit easier or a little bit understandable in the midst of all the turmoil and emotional drama of StepLife.

This website will not be the premier and unique place for objective advice or solutions if subjectivity is allowed to stifle content.