daughter ticked me off...maybe i'm overreactingSubmitted by mamazen on Fri, 02/17/2017 - 9:22am
Sunday night my DD announces she needs 20$ for a school event, she needs to pay it at the school before 8am Monday morning. She brought the paper home and showed me what is was for, legit fee.. lift ticket for the tubing activity of Tuesday. whatever. I wasn't impressed, because I don't tend to carry cash and had to go to the bank to get it...so I gave her the 20$, took out some cash so I could use it to get Valentines day stuff.
Tuesday morning, she's BEGGING me for more money so she can buy her lunch at the tubing event, and basically threw a shit fit with the drama tears and everything. I was literally halfway out the door when she's doing this, so I just yell at her and toss another 20$ at her, tell her not to spend more than 10$ and to bring me back the change and receipt.
Wednesday, uneventful. I had a discussion with her about Not asking me for ANY more money, she's not entitled to use my cash for her fun, she can babysit, walk a dog, whatever... but that I was done giving her spending money.
Last night, I could have choked her. She first texts me at 7am yesterday asking me if since she has a half day at school, she could go to her friend's house when they get off at noon, then maybe go see a movie in the afternoon. I text back saying I told you not to ask me for any more money.
She texts back that technically she's not asking for more, she's asking to use what was left from Tuesday.
I text her Yeah, leftover money you were supposed to leave on the counter.
She goes You never said to leave it on the counter, you just said to put it in the kitchen.
So I text her back, saying regardless - she's asking to use more of my money after I specifically told her not to ask anymore, and to stop arguing.
She texts back "OK."
at 4pm, I get home... she's not home. I text her, asking where she is...
she says "I already told you mom"
I say "I didn't say you could go, DD. Get home."
she goes "I thought you did. The movie ends at 7, so soon after I will."
I tell her "No. I specifically gave you shit this morning for having asked to use the change from the 20$ from the other day after I told you not to, and for arguing with me. No is no. Get your ass home, no movie."
she says "Well gma was going to pick me up after the movie after, nobody else can pick me up before"
I say "Get your friend's mom to drop you off here when she drives her daughter to the movies"
she responds "ok"
A little later she starts texting about how it's not going to be as fun for her friends without her, she's only buying a ticket, it's no big deal, please, and some BS excuse about how her friend's mom was driving her friend's sister at the moment so she wouldn't ave tme to drop her off before the movie.. so i text back then have her drop you off after having dropped everyone off.
Movie started around 5:15, btw.
5:30 she's still not home.
I basically tell her that because she went ahead and did what I told her not to do, and decided to proceed with her plans I said no to, taking my money, that he rpunishment will be no more outings until the end of the school year.
Now I have her attention... she's mad texting...
I just write back "I hope your disrespect of my authority was worth it. Enjoy the movie."
Then she's off about how I ruined her entire school year.. it's not fair..how could I do this to her...
"You did this to yourself, DD. You decided to go against my decision."
Anyway - I'm not funding any more of her social outings. She can kiss my ass as far as that's concerned...
but... is it too harsh?
(I'm not talking going places with her friends or whatever... I'm just not going to fund any of it.)