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There is hope... for all you SM with SD

happy's picture

On a happy note -- for 12 years of my marriage - which my stepdaughter was 12 when i came into the picture and let me tell you I have been through hell and back with that one. I never in my life thought we would ever come together and have any relationship at all EVER. She made my life a living hell for so long. Used me, treated me like dog poop along with my bio kids. I gave a lot to her - as well as her daughter, who is my grand daughter - but the past year has been amazing - she divorced the father of her daughter - and went through some struggles throughout all that - wasn't working lost her car, moved in with another guy - which was 2 weeks after she left the father of her daughter - so of course we were all like oh know. But he has been a blessing - she is finally happy and is a loving mom and stepmom herself and a great wife - she found GOD and has really turned into a beautiful person. She is 25 now - and a year ago she came to me and said how sorry she was to me and how much I had done for her and she is so glad that I helped raise her and she was lucky that I am still here for her. Our relationship has been going strong for a year now - no fighting just love and we tell each other we love each other... its truly a blessing --- so don't give up hope..

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CANYOUHELP's picture

One of mine claims to have found God too, though it is not for me to judge; I'd say she needs to keep on lookin....Maybe she took the wrong route, needs to ascend, rather than descend..LOL.

Glad that your relationship did work out; when it does--it is a true blessing!

Kes's picture

I can't see either of my SDs finding God, becoming beautiful people or telling me how sorry they are for mistreating me for 15 yrs lol. If science finds a way to do personality transplants that would be cool, but otherwise I'm not holding my breath Wink
I'm glad for you that you're no longer fighting with your SD.

CANYOUHELP's picture

It is one thing to "know" you are a nasty person, but quite another to be one and now even realize what you are....everybody else is, in your shallow evaluation. Maybe it is just a lack of conscience.

That is when divine intervention is needed more than ever!

Acratopotes's picture

happy it all worked out for you lady - but I do not care, Aergia can try all these things, she's burned the bridge to many times..... will never happen for us, simply because I will not allow it.

Rags's picture

I am happy for both of you. However.. there is finding God and then there is just the lip service associated with many people "finding God". Enjoy the blossoming relationship but be wary and observant for indications of a return to her usual behaviors and character.

Rarely does a leopard change it's spots in my experience. Whether finding God is involved or not.

In our case SpermGrandHag was our hell on wheels cross to bear for the entire time we lived under a Custody/Visitation/Support order and she is and always has been a died in the wool, or maybe more specifically died in the blood of the lamb child of God. There is not much about her that is Godly however and I would not waste the piss it would take to put her out if she were on fire. I am confident that God understands and forgives my lack of use for her.

happy's picture

Amen! I am always gonna be guarded cause I have been hurt so many times! Life sure isn't easy - they always say - nice people finish last!