Those Darn Family Photos AgainSubmitted by ntm on Wed, 01/11/2017 - 11:32am
Backstory: Family photos of MIL and FIL's entire family and then their individual children's families were taken for MIL/FIL 60th anniversary. The prints were extremely expensive. DH ordered four 5X7's of this family -- him, me, our DS10 and his two daughters, 18 and 22 (he was going to order three and I hopped in and said that if he was giving one to the daughters, he should be giving one to his son). He ordered one 5X7 of the entire family. He also ordered a bunch of wallets of the five of us to share with his extended family -- sisters, nieces, nephews. Total was $260. He presented me with a bill in which he was "willing" to pay $120 -- all he had in his bank account -- and my share was $140. WTF -- not my family!
So we've been in limbo ever since. We got $50 from his parents for our anniversary, and we each got $50 for Christmas. I dug out the anniversary money, gave him my Christmas money, and told him that he would need to put in his $50 Christmas money, put it in his bank account, and call the photographer to put it on his credit card from that bank (he can easily transfer the money over from savings to the credit card bill).
He looked at me like I had three heads. Then he went back to I wasn't contributing enough. That the $140 should come out of our joint checking account, which, I repeat, is only for standard, regularly occurring expenses. He was gifting himself and his daughters the 5X7's. Apparently the joint checking account, which we contribute to 60 (me) and 40 (him) was supposed to pick up everything else. SD10 was not being included in his ever so generous gifting to his children who don't have enough money to pay for the prints themselves.
No. Not my family, I didn't even like the photos, the photographer arranged the large group photo by family, but stuck our son, who is Ethiopian, in with the family whose father is from Cameroon, and WTF should I be paying for wallets to distribute to his family? We're not giving them to anyone in my family -- that wouldn't make any sense.
I replied that did this money not cover what he didn't have in his bank account? He said yes. I said, we're good then. I mean, honestly, I just turned over essentially $75, even more if you split incoming 60/40 like we do the outgoing.
It's been three weeks now. He still hasn't done anything about the photos. His niece asked me if we had wallets, so I brought it up again the other night. Again with the three heads look. Again with the "I thought our joint account was going to pay for the $140 I don't have." Reminder that I forked over $100 plus he had received $50 for Christmas, so it should be covered. Frankly, I should get $10 in change.
I think he spent that $120 that he "had" in his checking account on Christmas gifts for his daughters. And so he still doesn't have enough to pay the photographer. SD10 was within hearing, so I couldn't get into it.
So now here we are -- he has our anniversary money and my Christmas money and we have no photos.