Justkeepsteppin's picture

The finally started the CS order against BM!

BM was supposed start paying CS in April of 2015 when the skids were placed with us by CPS. DH filed for custody the same month. BM refused to show up for court so it strung out until June 2015. DH was awarded sole custody the first week of June. Was given his court order about a week later and filed it with the CSE office and filled out the paperwork to start CS.

The CSE office didn't do anything. They never started the case at all. They still show her owing ZERO dollars. No matter what DH did the ladies at the office kept telling him there was nothing that they could do. They said his CO was worded wrong and they couldn't file a case against her.

Well guess who walked in to DH's shop last week needing repairs done.... None other that the lead attorney for the CSE office! DH asked him about his case and the attorney said that it was actually sitting on his desk along with several other orders that the attorney DH had used wrote up. He said that it was brought to his attention that they were worded so poorly that there were several CS loopholes and the cases hadn't been started yet. That attorney is no longer practicing law in our area. Shocked

He scheduled a meeting with DH. DH just got out of the meeting and called me. CSE is starting CS effective July 2015. BM automatically owes $5400 in back child support CS plus interest. Laughing out loud

We both know that BM won't pay it. Heck, she's only worked 6-8 months in the 6 years DH and I have been together. She's been unemployed for over 3 years straight now. BUT when they arrest her for not paying DH will get the bail money Evil

DH started laughing and said, All of those years they took a huge chunk of my income and didn't use it for the kids. I paid GBM and BM $700 to $850 a month for 5 years! Now they will be forced to pay it all back to me!

Justkeepsteppin's picture

On top of that we have a

On top of that we have a female judge that is serious about CS! AND she already knows BM is a POS!

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

Justkeepsteppin's picture

She is seriously awesome.

She is seriously awesome. She's the judge that had it worded DH's court order that BM could only see the skids at DH's discretion and with DH's supervision only. BM failed to show up 3 times for court over the skids. I think that was the judge's way of "sticking" it to her for wasting her time. Laughing out loud When she ended the hearing she told DH, "If she wants visits she can file a petition and ask me for them. Until then she gets nothing."

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

Gimlet's picture

That's awesome!!!

That's awesome!!!

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robin333's picture

That's great news!

That's great news!

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classyNJ's picture

Fantastic! Very happy for

Fantastic! Very happy for yas. We are scheduled for court Thursday to have all CS dropped and BM back back the last three months. Fingers crossed!

Justkeepsteppin's picture

Goodluck! It was sooo nice

Goodluck! It was sooo nice that first month that DH didn't have to give BM all that money! It literally took 1 full month and GBM and BM lost everything because they lost the CS and welfare. They were both homeless for almost a year and sleeping on people's couches, BM still is. That's what happens when you use kids as your only source of income.

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

Tuff Noogies's picture

awesome!!! my dh is finally

awesome!!!

my dh is finally seriously thinking about opening a case with CSE. you've given me hope!

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Cocktail..Hour..Please's picture

That is really awesome. I'm

That is really awesome. I'm super happy for you. Smiling

I so wish that was going on in our case. But hubby still refuses to go for child support from BM.

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smash a pineapple, smash some mint, boil some sugar in water, find some really good vodka, add some club soda....and there ya go. How to get thru step life.

Gimlet's picture

Why would he not?

Why would he not?

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"Steplife is transformative, sort of like a crematorium" - exjuliemccoy

Cocktail..Hour..Please's picture

He thinks it would bring more

He thinks it would bring more negativity to his life than worth the $50-$75 a month he would get. I can see his point. But some days I wish she was held accountable.

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smash a pineapple, smash some mint, boil some sugar in water, find some really good vodka, add some club soda....and there ya go. How to get thru step life.

Justkeepsteppin's picture

I can see his point. BM

I can see his point. BM flipped when she read the court order they mailed her and it said she had to pay CS. She doesn't actually know that they hadn't started it yet. She just thinks that she hasn't been caught for not paying. Heck she didn't even read the CO until one day I quoted something from it while talking to her. We found out that GBM had forged BM's signature for certified mail and opened it and hid the CO from BM.

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

Cocktail..Hour..Please's picture

Wow. Does that grandmother

Wow. Does that grandmother know she did daughter absolutely no favors by signing the certified mail. What an idiot . Lol

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smash a pineapple, smash some mint, boil some sugar in water, find some really good vodka, add some club soda....and there ya go. How to get thru step life.

Justkeepsteppin's picture

GBM and BM are one in the

GBM and BM are one in the same. One just has more wrinkles. Where do you think BM learned it all Laughing out loud

ETA:GBM didn't raise or provide for 2 out of 3 of her kids either. BM was the only one she "kept", and she's the only one that turned out awful. Family raised her other 2 with no help from her or the fathers.

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

mustang2008's picture

I love it when I see a BM

I love it when I see a BM have to pay CS. To me, that is when a woman's true character shows up. When they are willing to pay money to their ex for spending time with the kids, that shows a real point of love.

It is easy to pay for things for our kids and spend on them while we have them. It shows her real love for her kids if she is willing to pay CS. A parent who pays CS is paying for someone else to have time with their kids.

Justkeepsteppin's picture

In our case, BM has never

In our case, BM has never spent a single red cent that she earned on the kids. EVER. She had always depended on DH's money and welfare to take care of her and the kids.

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

Justkeepsteppin's picture

I doubt BM ever pays a dime,

I doubt BM ever pays a dime, but at least she'll be held accountable in court. Who knows maybe one day she'll actually get a job and DH can get a little bit from her. It'll probably end up being like it was with my dad and stepdad (both had full custody of my half and step brothers). Every once in a blue moon get a payment for a couple dollars after the kids are already grown.

I'm just glad they are finally doing it. I didn't think they ever would. DH said you could tell the ladies in the office weren't happy about it. They had been the ones telling DH there was nothing that could be done. He said that they were glaring at him and tried to act like he didn't have an appointment when he got there.

He had actually had one of them tell him early on that it would be a waste of time to file CS when he went in to have his CS to BM dropped. They refused to even give him the application that time because he didn't have court ordered custody yet. She said it would be a lot of extra paperwork after he had to give the kids back to BM. (eyeroll)

They're so snotty here. There's a very large CSE office, but a tiny little area that parents are allowed in without the office ladies opening the door. You have to talk to them through a glass window and the waiting area only has 4 chairs. You can't even make a phone call to that CSE office. You have to call a hotline and talk to someone 150 miles away and leave a message for the people in your local office and hope for a call back.

DH thought that they were just being that way with him because he was a dad CP. Which is probably part of it. I told him that when we had the order for DS's biodad they were snotty to me to and acted like DS's BD could do no wrong and was struggling. I couldn't get them to help me without calling in to the state office and complaining about them.

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Dory: Hey, look. "Es-ca-pay".
I wonder what that means?
That's funny, it's spelled just like the word "escape."

ntm's picture

He'll get it when she files

He'll get it when she files for social security. They take a darn good chunk out of it too. I think my sister is getting $600 a month.

Acratopotes's picture

very good news, I am happy

very good news, I am happy for you and DH

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thinkthrice's picture

Such a friggin double

Such a friggin double standard! When its an NCP DAD they go after him like white on rice!

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