MIL is suing us
That's right. Just in time for Christmas. DH and I got a little present on Friday morning--legal summons to court. Apparently MIL is suing us for grandparents rights. She is claiming that we are keeping her away from SD10 as punishment for her relationship with BM. And yes, she has paperwork from BM where she states that she wants SD10 to have a relationship with MIL. DH and I were surprised that she would actually sue us. She hasn't reached out to us in months, except to make random calls where she leaves vile voicemail messages about us.
Well DH spent some time talking to a lawyer on Friday. He told DH not to hire a lawyer. He said that our state has some of the most restrictive grandparents rights laws in the country. You can only get rights if one of the parents is deceased, in a vegetative state, or missing. He said that the state supreme court has ruled that forcing parents to allow visitation with grandparents is a violation of the rights of parents. He told DH that unless she has some proof of abuse or that SD10 is in danger that it will be dismissed outright. He did tell DH what paperwork to file and said he would be willing to work on an hourly rate only to help him get the papers filled out correctly. So, we will go to the first hearing and try to get it dismissed.
I just can't believe she would do this to DH. She spent hours telling me how much she hates BM and how she will never forget when BM assaulted DH (long story). She said all of this just a few months ago and now she is working with her. Why? Because DH told her to butt out and not to contradict his parenting. He told me on Friday that this is the final straw. He is cutting her off. He said the minute she agreed to work with BM that she lost any chance of having a relationship with him.
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Good grief. Wtf is it with
Good grief. Wtf is it with MILs?!
If she is all matey with BM
If she is all matey with BM why does she need your husband to give her access to her grandchild? Can't she see her on bm's time? Sounds like she is just bring vindictive.
BM has no parental rights or
BM has no parental rights or visitation with SD10. She lost her rights after her last kidnapping attempt.
Ok, that makes sense now. I'd
Ok, that makes sense now. I'd love to see how that goes down in court. The parent who has no rights over thier child is the only one insisting that the child should see grandma. I wonder why that would be?!!! Oh yes, when grandma gets to see sd then BM is counting on seeing her on grandma's time too!
Is this BM's newest hatched
Is this BM's newest hatched plan to kidnap SD? Get SD to MIL/Gma's house and then snag SD away?
I could honestly understand if this were BM's mother trying to get some very limited visitation in the event BM croaked or was in prison with a healthy Gma/Child bond. None of that is what this is.
It's almost comical to think BM and Gma obviously believe BM's approval of MIL having visitation is a positive thing...BM , herself, has made several kidnapping attempts and should be considered a risk of grab and run if given any chance near the kid. Why would any court take her approval seriously?
I wish all these women would just knock off the shenanigans and leave SD in peace and let her finally settle in to a normal life in your household. None of them are thinking of what's best for the kid and fail to see what all their actions do to harm a sense of stableness and normalcy for the child.
WOW!
:jawdrop: WOW!
So, this is your husband's
So, this is your husband's mother? I am sorry for not being completely up to speed on your story. Does he let her see SD? If not, why not???
In general, parents get to say who is around a child, but here in Michigan, grandparents are given access without much of a fight. Be glad you don't live here.
I am sorry this woman is making your life more difficult right now. Because the way to get your husband to do what she wants is to drag him into court. Ugh...
Yes, this is DH's mom. She
Yes, this is DH's mom. She had unrestricted access to SD10 until last summer. She came her to see SD10 over the summer. SD10 had lied about some stuff and then lied again to get around her punishment. DH told SD10 that she would have extra chores and would not be allowed to use her tablet. Well MIL got upset and tried to contradict DH several times. When told her to knock it off, she called him out in front of SD10. Then she got mad and blamed me. She started yelling and throwing things. She pushed my DH then fell to the ground and claimed he hit her. DH threw her out of our house.
She told him that she would not respect his authority as a parent and that she didn't have to follow our rules with SD10. So he cut contact with her for a while, hoping she would cool down. Well instead, she started leaving voicemails on our phone, trying to keep the fight going, so we blocked her. After a while, DH let SD10 talk to her on the phone, but then we heard her telling SD10 that DH is stupid and that he is wrong to punish her. She also told her that I am a bi*** and not to listen to me or DH. After this, DH told MIL that she was not going to see SD10 anymore if she was going to degrade us to SD10. And so MIL started working with BM. We are almost positive she had something to do with BM's latest kidnapping attempt.
Oh my - she thinks she has a
Oh my - she thinks she has a lot of power, doesn't she???
Guess it's time to have a court tell her when she can, or cannot, see this kid.
Your husband is absolutely correct to keep SD away from his mother.
BM over here threatened my SD
BM over here threatened my SD with this, once. It was an empty threat, as grandparent rights are only recognized in very specific instances. Basically, BM has no rights as far as SD's children are concerned.
Does she realize she f**ked
Does she realize she f**ked herself with her own documents? BM is okay with her having a relationship with SD. Good. See her on BMs time, no one is stopping her.
Goodness, what a nut. I
Goodness, what a nut.
I agree with Mrs. Fireball - counterclaim for reimbursement of fees.
Do you still have the voicemails? If so, I'd consider getting those transcribed in case you need to use that as evidence. Hopefully, it won't get that far, though.
MIL must really be a tool -
MIL must really be a tool - stupid woman....
Dh can smile and say - we've never said she can't visit SD we just said it's at our home under supervision mwhahahahaha but yes DH is right, Mother or not... good bey bitch