Phew. Sd13's party is over and out!
Friday she and I made her cake together even though I wasn't feeling great. Then yesterday we made fondant and she decorated it with a little help (and I had her take the rest of the frosting to BMs with her today, get it out of my house!). I stuck to my plan of only helping with cake and cocoa. By the evening I wasn't feeling well at all (so no wine). I made light conversations but avoided most parents at drop offs. DH was good about it all too.

I made ok convo with BM, who didn't stay long. SD13 introduced her parents then started to do something else...I spoke up and said, "Excuse me?! Please introduce us." Since no one noticed...ah the SM moment. She was being a little snarky with everyone, I asked her to move away from the Xmas tree as she was bumping into it, as I don't want any more ornaments breaking. Snotty, "I'm not!" Me, "Please move forward now!" Her friend actually agreed with me and BM said nothing. Also caught her in kitchen emptying whipped cream cannister into her mouth. "Do Not Do That! It's rude, gross and inappropriate." She put it down at least and made herself a bowl of whipped cream. DH told me to get rid of the other can. Gladly.

BM apparently thinks it's funny she eats so much sugary things. ?? DH was trying tonget her to stop eating the damm Nutella this morning but she kept sneaking it. Didn't say anything. Not my issue he bought the huge container.

He did this morning NOT make a huge breakfast for SD and friends, stating "I don't care what BM does. You are not at BMs so that won't work here. I don't care what BM does."

And for her assisting with cleanup and already running late, "I don't care if we are running ten minutes or two
Hours late, until she does as asked and agreed to she is not leaving this house. This is our home too and she needs to respect that." Made me weak in the knees and I said that was some good parenting!

It went well overall, in spite of me not feeling great.
Now I'm watching Transparent and there's a step mom situation arising in season 2. It's pretty darn well done!