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Why do kids/skids ask for things they do not like?

Ladystark's picture

Ss13 has a friend with a pug, so aww cute...except ss13 is very timid around dogs-any size dog.

He will pet small dogs and some medium dogs, but large dogs nope!
He has a fear because his Aunt(who lives next to mother in law) has a mean dog. So when he was little he was really scared about it biting, because of stories. (that mother in law and cousins told around him)

Either way seeing him around dogs is painful to watch, he is very uncomfortable,nervous, looks like he is ready to run if this dog makes any weird noise.

We have dog-sat my sisters small dog a few times over the years, even knowing my sisters dog and being around her, he still is very timid. Watching him try to take a ball from this little dog is hilarious. Most of the time this little dog wins, lol.

Anyway ss keeps dropping that he wants a pug....says it around bs so he will ask about a dog with him.

Why ask for a pug why?? So i can be mad about him not feeding it. If we get a puppy and it nips him, he will not touch it again. Not sure how long it will be before he is over walking it, feeding it, cleaning up poop... (i guess 2 weeks)

We cannot have one-renting, but we will be moving next year, sooo. Asking will get worse.

I still remember when i wanted a snake- i thought it be so cool. Until(my mother wanted nothing to do with it) MADE ME research how to own one. And she tested me. Lol. Either way once i read about it i was over it lol

I feel like this is like food for him...

Oh mrs stark you have to get this cereal, these poptarts, i really like them.

I buy them, he does not touch them.

Ohhh i want a puppy, oh it peed in my room. Over it!! Lol. What i have to wakeup over summer break and WALK it in the morning? Why cant you?

I need to record him around dogs so he can see what i see!

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Ladystark's picture

Dh wants nothing to do with a dog, not because he hates dogs, but when his dog died whenbhe was younger it hit him hard.

He just does not want to get attached, or worry about it if we travel.

Im not opposed but kids are enough right now.

Ladystark's picture

I did look into him volunteering at a shelter, but most are 18 or older. There is one that lets 14 year olds volunteer but its a drive.

Id prolly do fostering, but id be worse than the kids, fall in love and adopt it. Lol.

uofarkchick's picture

He's got a case of the gimmies. Just keep repeating no. He'll move on.

ESMOD's picture

The same reason that my DH winces when he remembers begging for platform shoes when he was a kid then never wearing them.

IDK. Kids sometimes like the idea of something.. not the reality.

My YSD was like that with horses. Every time we would get a new one she wanted to know was it "her horse" and yada yada yada. Of course when she came to visit it would be like 5 minutes of selfies and then ignore the rest of the time. She liked to brag she had one, but the day to day work.. nahhhh.

Actually, I remember wanting to play the violin because my best friend did. So my parents let me take violin at school in 5th grade. I remember I wasn't particularly good, but I was motivated enough to try to practice and even tried to show my teacher how I had learned a new song. He actually very rudely shut me down in front of the class for trying something not in the days planner. I remember being really embarrassed and losing all interest at that point. (why do you go into teaching if you hate children????)

Ladystark's picture

Yeah horses are alot! My sister wanted one really bad, until my mom signed us up for this horse riding camp...she never brought it up after that smelly, hot summer week, flies everywhere, stepping in horse poop(which i laughed way to hard at that) her dream of i think "snuggling" the horses was broken.

ESMOD's picture

I didn't mind any of that.. I went to horse camp and LOVED it. I never could have a horse when I was younger because my dad was in the army. But I got my own when I was in my 20's and had them up until just earlier this year (51). Honestly, I just didn't have the time to really ride and care for them like I wanted. Just was time.

Cover1W's picture

Nope, don't get one. No.
No is an answer.

SD12 asked for a kitten for about 2 years straight.
Because? They are cute. She has no responsible bone in her body and I knew it so there was no way I was ever going to agree. I have two cats already that she loves, but she doesn't help with them at all. Never feeds them, never makes sure they have water, doesn't want them in her room, etc. So no freaking way. DH saw the light one day and said, "SD12, if you had a cat it would die." She AGREED - she wouldn't do anything for it. Done.

She, as uofark said, has the gimmies as well.
She wants a LOT.
I stopped buying anything for her, period.
DH can deal with it because once she gets it, it's either lost, broken, thrown in her closet, stuffed in a drawer or under her bed. She doesn't care for her things, just about obtaining them.

Ladystark's picture

My thing is (if dh gets on board) when the kids get a little bigger, i would want it to be a family dog.
Not just for ss.

But id also want a slight contract before hand, so the kids know what i expect from them.

Either way id prolly perfer getting a pup for myself, lol, when my youngest is in high school...

Selfish i guess, but then i can only be mad at myself...no arguing about why the dog has no water!

Never know what will happen though. Maybe when ss hits high school....maybe...

Sweet T's picture

Our dog is 8 and she is our baby. SHE has a special relationship with all of us. HER job with bs is she sleeps with him, it solved a lot of bedtime issues with him, for my husband who has only been in her life the last few years, he is her daddy and is probably her favorite person. He is on a medical leave from work and has horrible vertigo episodes. She keeps him company and listens to him and goes on walks with him. She follows him every where. For me, she is my baby, she let's NE love her and spoil her in ways bs is too old for. When He Is With His dad, SHE Is Mine AND dh''s Child.

Bs will help out with her but the day to day we grown ups handle and to us it is not a chore but an act of love.

notasm3's picture

My current dog is 9 years old. I had him for a couple of years before meeting DH, but DH and my dog are so bonded. Not that I am ignored - Mr. Doggie loves both of us.

We have two homes - if I want to go to our second home (a high rise) Mr. Doggie will stay with DH. Since we have murders within blocks of us on a regular basis I am happy not to have to walk Mr. Doggie at 2 AM.