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Sick of the Stupid Ex

fedupandtired's picture

I hate my husbands ex. That B**** has caused problems from the get go. We filed a restraining order against her to make a point to leave us alone. She did and now, 3 years later, she thinks she can come back around. Little does she know that she is also in major contempt of court. Still, I prefer peace and I wish this person would get hit by a bus.. lol I'm being facetious. Anyway, the skids of course take her side and although they are not directly rude to me, they do try to make stupid comments to get under my skin. Which it does. I brush it off at first and bury deep somewhere. But if any little thing happens (car key didn't work for ex.) I completely lose my mind and all of that buried anger towards the situation comes up and my dh and I start arguing again. We are always arguing after a visit from the skids. I'm so sick of them and wish they would get out of our lives. They mostly live with the b**** but recently she kicked the SS out and he came to live with us for a few days. During this time she violated court order thinking she could just come over when she felt like so the SS went back to her house. Thank God. I can't handle her coming over with her hate sitting in our lot glaring. I already suffer from severe anxiety and stress and this situation just aggravates my condition. I am considering leaving my husband but I have no where to go and no money. No job, no family. etc. He didn't alienate me from my family etc. I did. My anxiety is pretty bad that I can't even talk to people at times. I try to talk to my husband but he just brushes it off. I am starting to hate him as well. I don't know what to do anymore. We were doing so well then they started coming around again and that C*** came with them. I wish i never met him.

Maxwell09's picture

You have some intense feelings. I think you need to sort them out with a counselor who can help you sort through most of it. It can only help and he would know better than anyone what you need to do to control your anxiety. I have a feeling that your anxiety is control driven and the fact that Bm and skids come and go out of your control keeps your anxiety levels up. You cannot logical resolve any conflicts with your husband or otherwise if you are always high wired for conflict and on edge. It stinks that your DH isn't helping you resolve these issues but like you said you alienated yourself from your family and you are doing it again with your husband. He probably doesn't know how to help you at this point. His situation with his kids is what it is and your anxiety level still has tapered to accommodate those interactions. Go see someone who can help you.

Thumper's picture

If she is on your land call the cops---unwanted visitor

No reason for her to be there, she can stay off your property. DH should set this record straight. sounds like you do not a lot of support from him.

Start speaking your mind, this is your home too.