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Crazydoglady's picture

Husband went and picked up stepdaughter last night. They came home and BM sent her in nothing but a shirt pull-up and socks in October....no pants. No jacket. I just don't understand why she would do that...

Lulu90's picture

Is she a toddler?

I have a 2 year old and I losing the battle of the shoes. I keep them in my bag but I am just too tired to wrestle them on. He will put them on if he wants to walk.

Crazydoglady's picture

Apparently he didn't ask why she sent her with no shoes pants or jacket. She's 3. i would've said something but I wasn't there. I wouldn't say he was okay with it, but he didn't say anything to her which I don't understand.

Crazydoglady's picture

Apparently he didn't ask why she sent her with no shoes pants or jacket. She's 3. i would've said something but I wasn't there. I wouldn't say he was okay with it, but he didn't say anything to her which I don't understand.

Crazydoglady's picture

You're saying he's a crap parent because he didn't want to start an argument in front of the child. its listed in the court order that they're not supposed to discuss the child at drop off, or pickups, but at a designated time without the child present

Disneyfan's picture

Call me crazy, but there are times when common sense should kick in. I don't care what the CO order says, only a sorry behind parent would have ignored what you described.

zerostepdrama's picture

I don't understand why your DH would be okay with picking his daughter up like that... Both parents are to blame.

Crazydoglady's picture

Actually, it's the other way around. Clothes don't make it back from her house. We send her back in what she comes in, unless it's not weather appropriate, so obviously we won't be this time. He is able to control what she puts on the child before he picks her up, is what you're trying to say, and frankly That's the biggest load of crap I've ever heard. We have 0 control over what BM does. and yeah he should've had a jacket in the truck, but I feel like expecting your kid to be dropped off with pants is not unreasonable.

zerostepdrama's picture

If I showed up to my ex's house to pick up my BS and he didn't have pants on I would say "Get BS some pants please." Your DH should have asked for some pants. I mean it's not like that would have been an unreasonable request.

Acratopotes's picture

YOu are involving you with things that's non of your concern Hon, if you keep this up you will have major stress...

Now DH picked SD up, she has a shirt and socks on (normal clothing for toddler ...)
DH put her in the car and they drove straight home.... at home she can be dressed with more clothing if required.

Remember, people have different body temps, you might be cold easily and SD not... i had to learn this the hard way
If the sun is not shining I'm gold and dressed like an eskimo, Deigma on the other hand... never gets cold. I used to dress him like I dressed myself, till my Dad told me.. stop the kid will get sick, he sweats and you take him out in the wind, he will tell you if he is cold, and if you are not sure feel his arms... if his arms is warm, he's not getting cold. took a while but it worked... before Deigma got to a stage where his arms where cold he would ask for a sweater or pants or what ever... People always thought I'm a bad mother cause I have a jacket on and my toddler was running with t-shirt and shorts... I gave a shit..