Very worried about my friend

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I am very concerned for one of my friends from growing up. She is 35 weeks pregnant and her husband has decided to leave her. He is military and they are across the country. She is very up set (with good reason). He claims she cheated she days she didn't. Last night him and a couple they were both friends with (the wife was throwing her baby shower) came over and were yelling at her on the front porch. I guess the girl was in her face screaming at her. I have a will continue to call as much as I can. But I am so worried. She has no one there.

I should put this isn't a

I should put this isn't a pattern nothing like this has happened before they have been married 8 years. This is their first child.

Your friend has many

Your friend has many resources available to her as a military spouse - she should go to her husband's military installation and visit the family support office, the chaplain's office or even the military healthcare/clinic for assistance.

He took her car and they live

He took her car and they live off post.

I am just saying she doesn't

I am just saying she doesn't have a way to get to the post where all they stuff is.

So sorry to hear about your

So sorry to hear about your friend.
Sounds like the husband is the one cheating and deflecting on to her.

It is a common problem in military life.

There should be services on the base that can help her. The chaplan, family services or even legal services. Someone should be able to advise her and help if she needs to leave the home or return to her family.
If he is being abusive then his Commanding officer may even be notified in certain situations.

There may be a family advocate for her husbands unit. It has been a long while since I was a military spouse so a lot may have changed. But I am pretty sure if she contacts someone at the base there will be help for her. She needs to consider her mental and physical well being for both her and the baby.

Good wishes to her. It is good she has you to talk to.

Another thought...perhaps her husband is the one who needs help. Is he having PTSD or something that is not his normal behavior that needs to be looked at. She can talk to him about getting counseling for himself or them as a couple.

Finding the right help from their military base is the place to start.

I think he does have PTSD.

I think he does have PTSD. He is combat. I don't know if he will get help. Just knowing him.

When he left she was 3 months

When he left she was 3 months pregnant. Knowing her she didn't cheat. The reason he thinks she did is his friend there neighbor came over to help her with things like moving the dog food in the house(her husbands dog weighs more then she does) yard work stuff like that while he was gone. His friend even said that they didn't do anything and that it was just helping her. With our relationship she would tell me if she did. She tells me the stuff no one else will ever know.

As an ex military spouce (DH

As an ex military spouce (DH got out we live in a military town you can't swing a bat without hitting a vet) I was just careful who I was friends with and the moment someone cheated I would stop talking to them and create distance. I know my friend does this too. She sticks to herself and they live out side of town. I really don't think she would cheat while pregnant. They did get married young but waited on kids.

I think the wife of the couple her husband is getting this "information" from cheated and is trying to take the attention off her.