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shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Meantime Twit is still trying. She left a message for DH yesterday saying it was IMPORTANT that she needed to talk to him ASAP, and she sounded very upset, which we know is somewhat normal for Twit. He called her back and I, sitting in the kitchen, could hear her over the land line phone as she was quite loud. She was upset because she was afraid that my daughter was going to get EVERYTHING we have and she was not. She mentioned she thought she should get some of my Mom's jewelry and other certain things (I have heard this before, sigh, but she keeps at it). I must admit I am p*ssesd that DH didn't set her straight but went back to trying to console her actually leaving it open when my will cuts her out 100%. Not that I would have to worry about that, she is not a blood relative and as such has no claim on my property even if she could, or tried.

I don't think DH realized that I could hear her because instead of telling her my items SHOULD go to my daughter he was pacifying her in a way. Have to say THAT P*ZZED me off. DH isn't stupid, but he has a hard time handling Twit's crying etc.

AND, DH knows that the things I have said about Twit, how she is always wanting things that belonged to my Mother, is jealous of my DD, etc. ARE true. Twit wants and the fact we are moving gets us out of her spider web.

I do hope the fact that I discussed these things with him, at which time he poo-pooed me, now show that I was correct about her. She is a GHOUL.

Tell me, am I wrong to feel upset and angry when she starts that stuff? Brings to mind the time she asked me, out of the clear blue sky, a few years back, if I had co-mingled my finances with DH. Now, THAT is none of her business and I told her so. Her response was that she should know in case anything happened to me. That was right before all the Twit stuff really started and we had just moved down here. She was fishing for information on my finances....and I now firmly believe that if something ever happened to me she would be urging DH to pull the plug. Very scary when you look back and put it all together.

Tuesday, Oct. 11th can't come fast enough.

Folks, this is not about stuff, it is about an attitude from Twit that is, well at least cons on older people try to do something for them, to earn their trust etc. This one is just plain strange. And the reason it bothers me is that I have long felt that if I were walking near a, say cliff etc., and Twit was around, I wouldn't make it back. I told that to my best friend, the retired FBI profiler and her response was to trust my instincts....if your stomach knots and the hair on your neck feels like it is standing up, trust it; your subconscious catches more things than your conscious.

jam's picture

Will your dd live near you when you move? Hope so!

Pretty sick but I just think that you can bet if anything where to happen to you and dh that twit will high tail it to your home to make her claim.

Hopefully you and dh will be able to get some peace.

Good luck!

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

You know, what I just want him to tell her is that she is entitled to NOTHING. I don't think he will ever be able to do that because she would go into absolute hysterics and he can't handle it.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

The caveat of anyone who contests my wishes gets nothing is already there. It also states that Twit is to get nothing of mine. It states that NO one not related by blood is entitled to anything of mine.

DD already has a lot of items we want to keep in the family.

There is also an clause that if DD were to leave this world before me, all things go to her husband and other members of my blood family and I list a few cousins that I know would love family items.

Did this a few years back when I realized just what the Twit was after.

And, suez - I agree with you about DH. When push comes to shove, he would give in to Twit because she has so many ways to manipulate him.

You know, what we leave behind are just things, but many have generations of family history and some value. I can't and don't want to take them with me but I will be damned if that Twit is goig to benefit in any way from me. I have seen her do her act with her Father-in-Law and how she raided that old neighbor's place after he died. She has a history in things like this.

notasm3's picture

I would suggest having an attorney draft a short letter to her on your behalf to be sent AFTER you are safely out of town.

It could state that she does not, has never, and will never have any claim to your assets. And that she should cease and desist harassment over said assets.

She of course will go bat guano crazy - but that will be HER problem. Not yours.

I have an adult SS30 who thinks that my assets are joint with his father's. I will not discuss my financial situation with him on any level - even to correct him.

As I am almost a decade older than DH SS30 thinks that he will be in for a nice windfall. Now that he has produced a child - he makes efforts for me to "bond" with the child. I truly hope that this child will have a good life. But I will not be funding it.

99% of my assets are either in retirement accounts totally funded prior to even meeting DH and in real estate that I owned outright (no mortgage) prior to our marriage.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Notasm - The letter is a good idea.....after we move. Put her on notice that when my time does come, as it does to all of us, she needn't start salivating about getting anything.

You can bet that when DH's time comes (and he is older than me) if there is nothing in it for her she will be TOO BUSY. Which is fine with me. That time will be tough enough without dealing with crazy.

sandye21's picture

"She mentioned she thought she should get some of my Mom's jewelry and other certain things" WHAT???!!! Crazy-wacko! And DH did not inform her she was not going to get it? If she calls again about this, speak loudly enough so she can hear you on the phone and say, "My daughter is getting that." Maybe DH is trying to keep the waters smooth and not trying to upset Twit into doing something drastic. You have mentioned several times he knows something he has not told you yet - this is a sure sign of it.

I agree with Sueu. Start giving DD the jewelry now. And with notasm about getting an attorney writing a letter informing her she is has no claim to your assets, plus a cease and desist. You definitely do not want her lurking around the new place.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Sandye says: "And DH did not inform her she was not going to get it?"

Yes Sandye and THAT is what tees me off. And that is why I am so angry. Grrrr. I could make a big deal out of it with DH, what is what I would like to do, but rationale sets in and I know that in 11 days I will be out of the Twit range hopefully forever.

It is not the stuff; stuff no matter what is just stuff; it is the her attitude and the Twit constant remarks on how she is going to get something I have when I pass (real nice) and other remarks that let you know she is just waiting for our demise. One thing we never heard is her asking us if we needed any help with anything etc. because the few times DH did ask for help from her; she was TOO BUSY.

One of the first things she did when we moved down here {we got here in late March and this incident happened during the early summer} was to come here one afternoon and sit and start crying, which turned to bawling about she was sooo scared that when we passed my daughter was going to get everything!! I remember feeling and thinking that was pretty strange at the time, and how DH was telling her that wouldn't happen. Of course, way back then I did plan on leaving her something but now knowing what she is, what she is after, and what she thinks of me, I know she is not only flat out wacky but a Ghoul. Shortly after was when she asked me, out of the clear blue sky, if I had combined finances with DH. That is not a normal question unless one has motives IMHO. I told her it was none of her business. That, too, was another strange thing that made me feel very uncomfortable about being around her.

DH has a pension, SS, a retirement account (I am beneficiary) and some small savings. As we age, the retirement account will go with medical bills, etc.; as the savings. And his pension stops with him but I get the SS benefits if they are larger than what I collect and they are. Thus it is me she is looking at to try to plunder.

Acratopotes's picture

SDM - ignore ignore ignore..... Twit can cry and scream as much as she wants, you can simply ignore it lol..

Make sure DD gets your jewelery and that it's stipulated clearly in your last Will, give it to DD before your last day on earth if you have to.

It's not your problem if DH does not have anything to leave to Twit, but your stuff should go all to DD.... and just to make sure they do not kill you off, give DD Medical POA..... not DH..... simply get your affairs legally in order, that's there no way for Twit to go to court over it, then ignore ignore ignore

If DH wants to keep on treating her with gloves on and not telling her.. Twit you are not her daughter she does not have to leave you anything... then it's his problem, not yours... just listen and smile... and enjoy life...

Why do I say this.. easy Aergia is already bargaining on my jewelery.... she once asked who's getting it after my death, I replied the oldest daughter in the family.... she immediately took it as her, cause I do not have a daughter, thus it will go to her... she forgot she told me we are not family, and we are not, she's not getting it, not even the jewelery SO bought me (if she was a nice SD I might have left the jewels her Dad bought me to her)... Everything will go to my son, for his daughter one day, and if I live long enough to know hat he does not have daughters, it will be divided up between my brothers girls..

I do not care what SO and Aergia decide regarding my jewelery... at the end of the day, It's my decision cause it's mine not theirs... I'm not even correcting them, if you ar eliving in a bubble so be it, I will not be there the day it bursts

sandye21's picture

I will never forget one time when we visited SD with BIL and his wife. SD was particularly nasty and mean that weekend, rolling her eyes, snapping comments, impatient sighs. When all of us went out to dinner together, (of course DH paid), I said something and looked over to see SD's husband make a face and spit into his glass of water, then they laughed. Anyway, while in the car on the way home BIL's wife made a comment, assuming that I was leaving SD everything I owned. I answered, "I would rather give it to charity!" Shortly after we got home I went to the bank and made sure she WOULDN'T get anything form me. As far as family items, I've already given them to nieces. If DH wants her to have something of his he can give it to her.

shes driving me crazy in my retirement's picture

Yes, these cretins can get to you. It is just stuff, but it is their attitude that THEY deserve it because THEY exist regardless of how they treat you.