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sclilangel's picture

Im a Mom of my own 2 boys that are out on there own, and I have 3 stepchildren, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years,and i feel like i am always butting heads with his 12 year son. His son treats me bad but when i go to disaplind him it dont happen. Sorry im not the greatest speller but i hope that you understand what im writing...
Lately its been pretty bad, that Me and my boyfriend are fighting for the last 2 days. I just dont know what to do anymore... I am so lost and i just wish i has someone that understand me and see what im am going throu...... I just cant do this i cant keep fighting its killing me, and i really dont think anyone can see that... they all think its ok... but its not. it really hurts... PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHAT TO DO........

CANYOUHELP's picture

I am sorry you are feeling so badly, now. Can you tell us a little more background information regarding why you guys have been fighting for two days? Is it only over the 12 year old's lack of discipline/respect or are there other things going on as well?

Again, we all have our times, coming to ST is a great first move for you. You will find people here in similar situations, even if you think now you are all alone, you are not.

Hang in there and tell us more....

yolo222's picture

Have you tried some therapy so that you and your boyfriend can maybe get on the same page as far as house rules for the child.?

Acratopotes's picture

Hon - it's a boyfriend not a husband.... thus way easier, you can pack up and leave with your children.

It's very clear the problem is not the 12 year old SS, but the BF.. he does not want to discipline his kid and you are being the evil SM, the GF and not the mother thus you have no say in the matter, ...

Simply get your own place with your children, you will have more peace and your kids will be happier, I'm not saying break up the relationship, I'm saying get your own place, BF can still visit you and you visit him, but when SS is getting out of hand you can always leave to your own place...

I use to live with SO, but almost 4 years ago, I moved out of the house and living on my own now, it's much more fun and easier, I disengaged from the bratty skid and his poor parenting skills, My bio is also allot more stress free..
Aergia is still a cow and still thinks she's the boss of all age 17 (that's my wonderful lovely slutty SD)

My relationship with SO is much better cause I do not nag him anymore about his disrespectful daughter, and wonder above wonder, SO actually started parenting her..... cause he knows, if he does not parent his kid he will loose me.