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Skids are not all blind to their BM's faults

ESMOD's picture

So, I saw an odd post on my YSD's facebook page. It was their mother sharing an article about how "mothers who nag have successful kids". She said, that she hoped that her sister would see it too.

My mind was confused. Why not just share it on her sister's page too? Welll.. I went to OSD's page (I am on her friend list) and guess who is NOT a friend and is apparently blocked??? BM!!!

She just was tired of her mom's MOTY passive aggressive posts I guess.

Now, there IS her (OSD) wedding this weekend and I think we will end up being there for her. I am pretty sure BM will be there too. I swear if the woman looks at me cross eyed, I'm going to hiss in her ear that if she really loved her daughter, she would keep her distance unless she wants me to unleash a volley of fire at her MOTY trophy image.

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Acratopotes's picture

:jawdrop: you really want to be in the same room as BM, you know BM will try and take over...

WEll you will be dressed to the ninnies, look awesome and we should start thinking of things you can hiss to BM... and small little hand gestures to show her, behave or be sorry.. she can complain about it towards other people, they will not see it, and they will think BM is crazy...

ESMOD's picture

I always take the higher road when it comes down to it. It drives her crazy. }:)

Like when YSD was airlifted with the broken arm. I got all the sympathy looks as MOTY was making everyone miserable.

hereiam's picture

My SD25 is painfully aware of her mother's faults but she has to put up with them, as BM has raised her to be very dependent on her.

mommadukes2015's picture

SO's sister is married to BM's cousin. She had one of his nieces (BM's 2nd cousin) convinced SO was a deadbeat. She didn't want SS in my profile pics-it would ruin the MOTY image. Funny thing is, that SO's niece eventually figured it out.

ESMOD's picture

I know my OSD had a much harder time with the divorce because she was like 7 when it happened. Her daddy was her whole world and her mother took both the girls when she left initially. I think she truly resents to this day that her parents (both of them) ruined her life by divorcing. That being said, she doesn't appear to blame ME for anything. So, despite the fact that we don't have a super warm relationship, we have only rarely had issues come up. I feel fortunate for that.

I also know she loves both her parents despite what perceived flaws they have. But she is old enough now to insulate and protect herself from toxicity...hence the no befriending of the Bio mom on Facebook. Dad and I are on her friend list so I guess we are relatively less drama/toxic for her.

So.. for her sake, I will be grin and bearing it this weekend at the wedding. I think the thing that gets me the most is that the BM will swoop in and make the big show of how much she lurrrrves her little girl. When I know the truth of how she used her kids as pawns to extort money from her EX (I will let you have the girls this week if you give me $50 for gas) and constantly promised and then let down the girls.

Anywho.. hope I can bring a cooler.