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Disney BM?

MineAndYours's picture

Is there such thing as a Disney BM?

Well..I think that we have one..higher income (than me and DH combined), SKs get everything they want from top of the line phones, spending money whenever, car to drive ALL the time, very seldom hear the word no....

Makes spending time with DH and I look BORING. Actually..after three years I have stepped back from the SDs...finding it harder and harder to bite my tongue because of money issues. It leaves DH looking like he doesn't spend anything on his kids.

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

I was a Disney mom in that I used to have season passes and would take my kids to Disney a lot!!!!! But that was just for one year and we would always pack a lunch and not shop. But now I am too broke for that. ):

Disneyfan's picture

I'm a Disney mom. My sister and her husband are Disney parents.

All 5 of our kids 24,19,17,11 and 9 are norm kids/adults. They are all great students and respectful. They are involved in sports, dance church and community activities. My son is in grad school and has 2 jobs. Nephew 19 worked two jobs this summer before going back to school last week. Niece 17 has 2 jobs this summer. One ends this week and she started working in a local grocery store two weeks ago.

They are spoiled, but they all knew/know if they didn't do what was expected, (excellent grades, great behavior, respectful...) they would have hell to pay.

Being a Disney parent isn't always a bad thing.

Last In Line's picture

I'd probably be called a Disney mom. I'm NCP (only 9 months to go...) because I moved out of state and my kids stayed behind for school/sports. My ex Could live a better lifestyle, do more things, etc but he is a reckless spender and a hoarder. So during the school year DS (and formerly DD until she graduated) is unable to do "fun" stuff because they don't have money. I pay for his activities and send him extra spending money almost every month, because the ex can't/won't. And before someone says it, DS did have a job, but his grades dropped while he was working, so he quit. Now he transports yard equipment for one of his friends who does yard work but has no truck, and also washes dogs to make a little money.

When DS is here on breaks, we DO stuff. I can take him to amusement parks/theme parks/out to eat/the movies...he doesn't get to do those things with his dad. I don't buy him everything under the sun, but I do make sure he has what he needs. I also expect him to be respectful of everyone in my home, to clean up after himself, and to help out with things.

thinkthrice's picture

The Girhippo is a total Disney BM. Skids are never held accountable, never hear the word "no" and are lavished with the latest and greatest. To make matters worse, for the first 3 years both the Girhippo and Chef (biodad) competed to see who could be the most "Disney." EXTREME guilt parenting on both sides.

All three PASed out when Chef did a teensy pull back of the Disneying due to false CPS reports, spying, etc. BTW the Girhippo's day job IS a CPS worker and she sells cauldron brew as a side job LITERALLY.

Chef is still a turd polisher, extraordinaire when it comes to the skids; all three in real life being academic failures and unemployed pot fiends with pipe dreams of stardom.

The Gir and her hubs, StepDaddyBigBucks continue to be total Disney and you can bet your bottom dollar if the skids ever Un-PASed, Chef would go right back to Disneying again.

Thumper's picture

Now , NOW... you know there is NO such thing as a Disney Mom. What are you all possibly thinking.

A woman who has no boundaries for her kids is a GREAT MOM. When they are in jail and bails them out, she is on a higher level of Greatness. If Maternal Grandmother bails BM and bm's siblings out of jail...WOWZA

'don't ya know'

AmIWicked's picture

Hahaha, parents will bail out their kids? More than once?

I'm a child of divorce and my mom was a cop who worked in the processing of our county. When I'd go out my mom would always say something like, "Be smart. you screw up enough to get arrested tonight, I will not claim you. You will spend the night in jail. we have different last names and I will deny being related to you if asked. It will be up to an impartial judge whether you get released. I will not call in a favor for you. And don't even think about using your phone call to call me."

You better believe I didn't do anything stupid when I was young (in my county).

AlreadyGone's picture

Both my XH AND the BM were Disney parents. They were Disney parents while they were married. It just got substantially worse after their divorce. My XH threw money at them, no questions asked. Never enforced boundaries, or bothered to teach them life skills. The BM had no money, so she kissed their butts and praised them for being all of the things they really weren't. Smart, beautiful, honest, responsible, caring, etc... :sick: Also, absolutely NO boundaries or life skills. Honestly, they are both losers, and always will be. The SK's too! LOL.

As a COD myself, neither of my parents were Disney parents. They didn't believe in spoiling children. They loved us enough to know, and show us the difference between helping and enabling. The value of hard work, and the sense of pride that comes from it. They were wise enough to let us experience our own failures, and strong enough to stand by watching, as we picked ourselves up to try again. We weren't given anything. We earned it. They didn't adhere to the 'we can afford it, so they shall have it' mentality that is so common today. They were tough, but fair. All 4 of them, lol. Because of this, I have very little respect for Disney parents at all. I think Disney parents handicap their children. To me, that's no different than other forms of abuse or neglect. Of course this is simply my opinion, based on my personal experiences.
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