It makes sense now...BM is desperate
BM sent my DH a love letter and a mix CD :sick: last week. My DH was bewildered by the whole thing until he received a call from SD9's SF. He told DH that he and BM are getting a divorce. He is tired of dealing with SD12's behavior and that BM is a big part of the problem. He also told him that he feels that we have to go forward with trying to pry SD9 away from BM. He detailed to DH that BM has been telling SD9 some very horrible things. DH and I both are leery about this. It is true that SF has never gotten involved in the situation and has never been anything but friendly toward DH. But, we are still not sure. It is hard to know what to believe.
So DH told him about the CD and the letter. SF asked if he could have copies and DH told him yes. He also told DH that he is willing to help us in court if it comes to that. He told DH that he will be fighting for custody of his 3 kids with BM. DH was very quiet and did not say anything about BM or her behavior. He told me that he is going to wait and see what happens. He doesn't really know what to believe. He believes that SD9 will tell him if something is going on when she comes back to us.
In the meantime, BM did reach out to me, trying to be all friendly. I am not sure how she got my phone number, maybe from my crazy MIL. I just ignored the message.
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Honestly if it were me, I'd
Honestly if it were me, I'd believe SF. Her entire past and behavior that you have described is COMPLETELY INLINE with telling SD9 horrible things. That's her typical mode of operation. It's completely in the realm of very believable possiblities. and you know if SD12 were living with you and pulling all those crazy stunts, it might be you headed for divorce to escape her.
He may be genuine for now,
He may be genuine for now, but he could well end up back with BM, even if for a short time. If that happens then anything you have told him could get back to BM. I would be cautiously welcoming, but give him time to really establish that he is serious about the divorce rather than they are just going through a rough patch.
so your BM is like our BM2...
so your BM is like our BM2... she's gotta have the next man lined up before the current man leaves, she CAN'T be alone. The smell of desperation is worse than 2,867 monkey butts with this moron. I still can't get over the mix CD and love letter. That is so 6th grade, but then again so is the inability to never be your own person.
And let me guess.. I bet she's also just exactly like BM2 where she morphs into someone else according to who she is with. So for instance BM2's ex BF used to like bike riding, playing tennis and going to amusement parks... so those are all the things BM2 did. Her latest boy toy likes strumming the guitar, camping, playing video games and Harry Potter (yeah if you're wondering if he's like 12, he's pretty damn close)... so guess what BM is all into now?
"The smell of desperation is
"The smell of desperation is worse than 2,867 monkey butts with this moron." Omg I laughed so hard at this! Also, we must be dealing with the same BM2. You have my sympathies.
A love letter and a mixed CD?
A love letter and a mixed CD? That's a little more work than most people are willing to do when drunk, so I'm guessing she did that sober? Either way, ew.
Your DH is doing the right thing by staying tight lipped and cautious.
BM over here tried to get all friendly with me once because she wanted to convince me to dump DH (then BF). I told her to never contact me again or I would file harassment charges.
So how does this work? She
So how does this work? She wants to be bestfriend's with you but also be in love with your husband and send him love novelties too? What a nut.
Still shaking my head on this
Still shaking my head on this craziness. :O
That would be DH's 2nd wife.
That would be DH's 2nd wife. That woman has not been single for more than a 48 hour period since she was 16 - and she's in her late 50s now. I am so glad that DH refused to get a reversal so we have nothing to do with her.
But I'd bet money if her DH left her (or dropped dead) she'd be contacting DH in about 15 seconds. Fortunately I am totally secure with DH. He still can't get over how much he LIKES me in addition to loving me. He did love her but he didn't like her at all.
"He still can't get over how
"He still can't get over how much he LIKES me in addition to loving me. He did love her but he didn't like her at all."
DH and I just had this exact conversation. He said he loves me much more than he ever loved BM and I called him on it. I know he loved her and so does he but after some discussion he realized that he didn't LIKE her, never had!
Sweetest thing DH ever said
Sweetest thing DH ever said to me was that he liked that he loved me, but he LOVED that he liked me.
DH married BM (wife #1) because he knocked her up on a ONS when he was a teen in the Army. I do think that he liked her, but neither of them ever loved each other. I know that he loved wife #2 - but she truly is the bitch from hell so she was not likeable at all.
DH still after several years of marriage just can't believe how much he loves me and that he likes me too. I love how much we actually enjoy each other.
I have an ex that I loved with all my heart - truly an obsession. But he was a cheating jerk that I could not respect. I adore my DH, and I respect and enjoy him. Even our differences with respect to SS30 are not really a big deal.
I've been traveling without DH for about one week a month recently (off to Cleveland Saturday). DH uses that time to invite SS and BabyMama (mother of SS's child) over for dinner. Works for me and DH. I don't have to spend time with SS, yet DH gets to have "family" time with them.
Sadly, when I look back at my
Sadly, when I look back at my exH I know that I never really loved him. I loved the idea of him.
He was good looking, had a good job, had no horrible habits and was basically a nice guy. My friends were with such losers; they didn't have jobs, they took their money, they beat them, they did drugs, they drank way too much, they cheated. Nice bunch, I know.
So exH looked great compared to them and he really wasn't that bad but we never really had anything to talk about and just ended up in bed. I mistook sex for love and I wanted to get married and have a family.
Now that I'm with DH it's amazing. We talk about everything and anything. We enjoy each others company and in all honesty my skids are good kids.
I settled with exH, but not with DH.
I had a boyfriend in college
I had a boyfriend in college that was "perfect on paper", and he adored me. But I still remember flying back to campus my senior year. When he picked me up at the airport I burst into tears as in my heart I knew I did not love him. Unfortunately I did not end it then - but when on to get engaged, etc.