SO values ss opinion over mine on everything
I'm completely new here this was a spur of the moment thing if the abbreviations don't make sense sorry I've read a few posts and guessed at the meanings
Anyways my SO treats my ss opinion like he's the man of the house.
Example: recently looking at houses to buy there were several we both thought were gorgeous and perfect for our needs and we agreed to submit an offer on them
Each time I return from work she says her and the ss talked about it and it just want right for us.
The house we did get is amazing but she was going to refuse to try for it because the ss said he didn't like it
4 bedrooms 1 bathroom a large workshop 2 car garage a storage shed and a small barn
she didn't agree to submit and offer until her and I got into a huge argument about him coming with us on house hunting trips and he changed his mind
My opinion around here only ever gets heard when I blow up and I'm an extremely laid back guy her and I have only been in around 4 or 5 arguments where I yelled to get my point across and we've been together 8 years
Any suggestions would help and be greatly appreciated this is driving me crazy and I love her but this issue could ruin that
Whose name is the house and
Whose name is the house and the mortgage going to be in?
^^Yes, buy your own home (at
^^Yes, buy your own home (at least 1.5 bath for a 4 BR house!). I would seriously reconsider a future with your SO and her mini husband.
One bathroom? Yikes.
One bathroom? Yikes.
The purchase of the house is
The purchase of the house is up to you and your SO if the 2 of you are purchasing it together. SS does not get a say. My skids went with us ONCE and never again.....
We didn't take my SD with us
We didn't take my SD with us to look at houses or cars. She didn't even know we bought a house until DH brought her to it on her weekend. Mostly because we wanted to surprise her but we also didn't need her input, her questions, or her running her mouth to BM.
The ss is 12 yrs old so he
The ss is 12 yrs old so he can't foot the bill for anything
I've brought it up on numerous occasions with her but it hasn't really been in a"loving way" more like "oh so your picking him over me again?"
I will try get some alone time and bring it up in a polite manner
I was never allowed to go on any apartment hunting trips when I was younger neither
It's the stupidest thing I've ever seen
And we bought the place knowing we were going to put in another bathroom later on anyways
Thanks for the advice I'm sure I'll be back I like the atmosphere here I don't feel on my own lol
" a large workshop 2 car
" a large workshop 2 car garage a storage shed and a small barn
I'm betting the stated accommodations are mainly for you. What parts of the offered on house and grounds appealed to and selected with SO in mind?
Oh and if you don't want Jr's 2 cents, send him off to one of the movie theaters with multiple movies playing. Let him invite a buddy . He'll instantly forget about supervising Mom and SFs house hunt.
Your SO needs to cut the
Your SO needs to cut the umbilical cord and learn to be an adult. For some reason it appears that the relationship between SO and SS is reversed.
Kids certainly can have opinions but they do not get to express them until they are asked for. SO needs this clarity and so does her mini husband.
Hate to say it but it sounds
Hate to say it but it sounds like you are on the losing end of things. SS comes first and WILL ALWAYS COME first. If you can live with that, great. Personally it was soul destroying to me and killed our marriage. Well that wasn't the only thing but when the little prince gets a say so like an adult, you have essentially married two people. Sorry you are going through this.