BM knowing our travel info
DH really never learns. He keeps wanting to give BMW enough rope to hang us with...
She is high conflict and goes through periods of silence, then explodes. It has been a period of silence.
DHL wants to extend an oil branch and give BM the same emergency contact info we gave my MIL. The airline and flight numbers we are on as well as the exact hotel and city we will be in on vacation.
Now MIL and FIL live a mile from us and will be checking on our house, getting the mail, taking care or the dog and cat. I think they need the info.
Court order says BM and DH communicate thru Our Family Wizard, so why the need to give her that information?
DH will have the kids call her on the regular night for her phone call, just as planned.
I feel like BM has been silent too long and this is just asking for trouble.
I really would not put it past her to call in an anonymous bomb threat from a pay phone. (I really don't like her knowing the dates we will not be in our house.) I just don't even have the imagination for what she could do, (based on crazy shit from the past.)
Auto correct on my phone...
Auto correct on my phone... she is a BM not a BMW. and DH wanted to extend an olive branch not an oil branch.
I went ahead and corrected
I went ahead and corrected the title for you.
Thank you!
Thank you!
Make sure the CO has nothing
Make sure the CO has nothing about travel/vacation in it. Sometimes exactly all the information you've stated is suppose to be given to opposite parent.
If it's not in CO, no, don't give it to BM.
If the kids are going with
If the kids are going with you,, then mom should at least have flight info and the name of the hotel.
ExDF's court order required each parent to give the other contact information(phone numbers and addresses)when they traveled with the kids.
BM absolutely has the right
BM absolutely has the right to know flight info and where you'll be staying. What if something horrible happened to you and your DH and she needed to get her kids? What if a plane crashed and she knew you were flying but not what flight--I'm sure some would savor knowing BM was freaking out not knowing, but that's just evil. Those are her kids too, even if she is a miserable high-conflict troll.
I'd be more concerned about not giving the info--"My ex and his new wife took my kids on a plane but they wouldn't tell me where they were going and I haven't been able to contact them for 2 days".
Honestly even though DH's
Honestly even though DH's court order says he has to provide Vacation/Travel information to BM, he doesn't. Neither does she. They just email "Going to [this state] this weekend." We flew to Florida a few weeks ago, she knew about it but never asked for flight info or hotel info. To be fair she's never given DH any hotel information either. It's another one of those things that I don't agree with but I don't want to make it a problem since they both seem to have a mutual understanding.
Glad my SDs BM doesn't go
Glad my SDs BM doesn't go bananas over this stuff, Bc we'd never take SD with us anywhere. I don't book hotels ahead of time or have an itinerary on road trips. I like stopping when I see something interesting. & if I'm flying anywhere, it's to go away alone with my husband. Anyway, if it isn't in a CO don't provide it, if it is provide what's necessary. His parents know the flight info, so if anything were to happen BM will be notified. Even if the parents didn't know the flight info, BM would be notified. The airlines know the names of everyone on the flight, including minors, so it isn't like the kids would go missing. I'm a very private person, so I don't like the thought of BMs knowing everything either. You have to follow a CO though, unless you don't care about more court costs & more time.
There is nothing in the CO
There is nothing in the CO saying either parent has to give travel information.
DH has always volunteered, "Hey we are going to Miami, FL leaving this date coming back this date MIL has the details if you need anything. I'll have the kids call on this date and time while we are gone."
BM has never given DH any travel information or even told him when she has gone on a vacation!
He has always found out after they came back and from the skids,...although they never fly anywhere or go anywhere more than 2 hours drive away, but still. It ticks him off that he doesn't know they are out of state until after they come back.
I think that is why he wants to give her so much information.
HE THINKS if he gives her this much information, then she will start telling him more information.
I don't think it will happen.
I think it is much more likely she will pull something, (especially since our flight is leaving so close to when we pick them up from her house and DH's time starts)
Nope, Dh should only give her
Nope, Dh should only give her his cell phone. Period.