I'm totally disconnected from my step kids. Always have been. Even when they lived in my home and I was helping in raising them. We never communicated directly. They always communicated with me through their dad and vice versa.
I do wish the best for them and wish no harm on them but that's pretty much it. I have no desire to see them and I wouldn't be hurt if I never saw them again. One of my stepson's I don't mind. He's always been respectful, engaging, friendly and cooperative, but the other 2 step kids, I feel nothing for.
"I really resent them would I love them fbi real loved him?" <<<<<< What does this mean?
I'm disconnected from SD8 and I don't really care. Sure, it would be nice to have the relationship that I had with her when she was really little, but BM, GBM and my husband have made that impossible for me.
I couldn't be more "disconnected" from that slob if I tried! I despise him and his existence in general and I hate that he is even apart of our lives. I wouldn't lose sleep or shed a tear if he never darkened our doorstep again...nothing would make me happier than skid permanently leaving our lives with ZERO contact ever again. *sigh* dare to dream...
It was actually heart breaking for me this year when i realized i would never be close to her. I actually cried because i want a loving family and i knew i didnt want her in it. I felt bad and i think my husband already knows bc he has been a step father and he kinda gives me the sense that he knows how i feel but he is grateful that i am kind to her and i try my best not to make her feel like a black sheep. But I definitely know how you feel, i am not close to her and i wanted to be but i couldnt. And i dont think we should be made to feel guilty for not loving them. As long as we are fair to them, that is good enough in my opinion.
I'm totally disconnected from
I'm totally disconnected from my step kids. Always have been. Even when they lived in my home and I was helping in raising them. We never communicated directly. They always communicated with me through their dad and vice versa.
I do wish the best for them and wish no harm on them but that's pretty much it. I have no desire to see them and I wouldn't be hurt if I never saw them again. One of my stepson's I don't mind. He's always been respectful, engaging, friendly and cooperative, but the other 2 step kids, I feel nothing for.
"I really resent them would I
"I really resent them would I love them fbi real loved him?" <<<<<< What does this mean?
I'm disconnected from SD8 and I don't really care. Sure, it would be nice to have the relationship that I had with her when she was really little, but BM, GBM and my husband have made that impossible for me.
I couldn't be more
I couldn't be more "disconnected" from that slob if I tried! I despise him and his existence in general and I hate that he is even apart of our lives. I wouldn't lose sleep or shed a tear if he never darkened our doorstep again...nothing would make me happier than skid permanently leaving our lives with ZERO contact ever again. *sigh* dare to dream...
Exactly ^^^ the sooner people
Exactly ^^^ the sooner people realize that the better!
It was actually heart
It was actually heart breaking for me this year when i realized i would never be close to her. I actually cried because i want a loving family and i knew i didnt want her in it. I felt bad and i think my husband already knows bc he has been a step father and he kinda gives me the sense that he knows how i feel but he is grateful that i am kind to her and i try my best not to make her feel like a black sheep. But I definitely know how you feel, i am not close to her and i wanted to be but i couldnt. And i dont think we should be made to feel guilty for not loving them. As long as we are fair to them, that is good enough in my opinion.