Hi, I'm a step parent to a 21 year old. Love the kid but He has some bad habits that is getting on my last nerve. He lives about a hour away and comes to city to visit us. Everytime he visits us this last year or comes by to spend the weekend he has to bring his friend. This kid is his shadow. If we go out his shadow has to come with. We don't even suggest going out to a Resturant because we will have to pay for his friend. His friend comes from a good home a family from the suburbs. But both of them never have money. I talked to my husband About how this annoys me. He asked me thiS weekend that please don't make anyone feel uncomfortable. Like are you kidding me. Sorry that I don't like them sitting in the living all day on my new couches watching Netflix. Two weekends they literally slept in the living and watched tv all day!we live an apartment like go in our spare room. I till I got upset then they stopped hanging out so much in the living room. This co depency my step son has with his friend I don't think is healthy. He has no concept of responsibility. He can't even manage having our house keys without losing them. My husband talked to him about always bringing his friend but it's like he's ignored it. My husband has accepted it because this is his time to spend with his son instead of a quick lunch. My husband will give him his last $20 and they go off and spend it on nonsense. It's like husband doesn't realize your not giving your son money your giving them both money. They both work. Just ridiculous. I talked to my step son yesterday and told him about being responsible. I told him you don't go to school you should be working and preparing your future. I've been on my own since 17 so I don't understand people who want hand outs. How do I learn how to become more understanding.