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steponmeagain's picture

SS21 moved home for "1 month" 6 months ago. Worked about a month before getting fired. Lost his license from driving like an idiot etc. He hasn't worked in 4 months. My wife tells me this morning that she has given him until the end of the month to find a job or he is out Lol.

steponmeagain's picture

Yeah, probably, I guess he worked a couple of days last week so I doubt there will be any movement.

steponmeagain's picture

Well, tomorrow is the big day. The wife is holding her ground. She has given him a month to find a job and he always has some excuse. Should be an interesting day. Going to make sure our daughter isn't around for too much of it as it could turn ugly.

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And he found a job on the last day. He had four weeks to go look for a job and waiting for the last minute which he has always done. She had always said he could stay if he found a job and he did. Course he got fired after two days so she has set another week clock to his time limit.

Rags's picture

Tell me your SO is not so clueless as to not recognize that she is enabling and even encouraging this crap with her zero consequences tolerance.

She needs to call a locksmith, rekey the locks, and drop this useless POS off at the nearest highway over pass to take up residence...... with ZERO warning.

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The week ended yesterday I guess and he is gone for the time being. Will see what happens when he finds a job.

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She did kick him out but feels so guilty that she failed him and that she was the only person he had in his corner. She doesn't realize that he failed himself and failed her and he had more people in his corner but has lost them due to his poor choices and laziness. I am sure she will have him back if he finds work as he still isn't working or his friends get sick of him couch surfing. This will go on until my deadline in September as that one is not negotiable or a do over.

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And it gets better. I go out of town to see my father who is in the hospital and is in rough shape and he finds a job and is home as of the day I leave. What a coincidence.

Rags's picture

Your bride has an issue with listening doesn't she?

Start taking your bride on business trips with you and have the locks rekeyed before you leave. Then SS will have no choice but to stay gone.

Ready2leave1980's picture

Hes agrown man. Kick his ass out and tell her she is welcome to go with him if she doesnt like it. Teach them both a lesson: You are NOT a doormat.

steponmeagain's picture

The wife finally understands where I am coming from and doesn't want our daughter to have a broken home. He is out end of September regardless if he continues to work or whatever. This is not a do over and was my date all along so I am looking forward to the date either way. He has been working for a whole 2 and half weeks and its almost like we should have a parade for him. Its funny but quite sad.

Rags's picture

Regardless of the date you set.... yet another of DW's artificial dates has come and gone with zero consequences for SS. You first wrote on this at the end of May. The end of May has passed, the end of June has passed, and now it is the end of July and nothing, absolutely nothing, has occurrred to deliver on the message this kid has repeatedly been given. I suggest that on Sept 1 the locks are rekeyed and SS is not allowed back in. He can figure it out from there.

To your bride, to this kid, and to you apparently... EOM has no meaning. This is one of those don't tell us... show us things. Quit telling the kid he is out and just throw his ass out. He will listen to nothing less and neither will your bride or you for that matter.

Don't tell him, show him.

Good luck.