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Twenty Nine Days. 29 Days. XXIX Days.

wife number 2's picture

LORD, HAVE MERCY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

29 Days. Done. No more pathetic ex-wife emails. No more custody order. No more family court. No more medical bills. No more holiday time. No more spring break weeks, holiday weeks, uninterrupted parenting time weeks... NO MORE BABYSITTING!

D O N E !

May 31, 2016.

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notasm3's picture

Congratulations!!!!!

Fortunately SS30 was not only of age when I met DH - but the alcoholic SS had already been to every type of rehab imaginable. I did not have to suffer through all the years of trying to save him. Now I am glad that DH and BM made those efforts - but I am also grateful that I was not around.

One does not have to allow a "bad seed" adult skid to pollute one's life. I am content with DH and SS having a good relationship - I just don't want to be part of it.

Just J's picture

Whoo hoo! Congrats! I have been free of BM's BS since June 2012 and it's been wonderful! We have not heard a peep out of her since SD graduated high school and DH basically told her to F off since CS and visitation were over. SD graduates college next week though and I'm hoping we don't run into BM there. It's a big school so I'm thinking it's not likely, and I'm hoping DH will agree to hightail it the other direction with me if we do.

wife number 2's picture

I cannot wait for the day! The skids will always be the skids and part of our family; however, BM will no longer be a part of the equation. Her demands, orders, requests, threats, etc. will fall on deaf ears. We are no longer her marionettes that she has masterfully maneuvered for her financial and personal enjoyment. The poor thing will have to find another hobby.

Congrats on SD's college graduation.

princessmofo's picture

Congratulations!!! What an enormous relief that must be. I highly doubt I will ever experience it, as I am almost certain I will divorce dh before Quitty ages out... :?

wife number 2's picture

I felt that way many a time... if DH is worth keeping, stick it out. It was a long road that I would NEVER do again if offered a do-over, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Salems Lot's picture

I am so jealous. Being there is no cut off date here, BM will likely make sure at least one the skids becomes a professional student just to keep child support ongoing well into SO's retirement or his death, which ever comes first.

SMto2's picture

Congratulations!!! I know how awesome that feels, as we reached that milestone 2 years ago this month!! Sometimes I still have to pinch myself to realize it's finally over. We are giving oldest SS for this birthday an amount close to what DH paid in CS for 16 years (over $1K), and it will blow his mind. Funny that BM got that amount, month in, month out yet SSs had no idea about it. It's a wonderful feeling to choose to give them money directly. It's also a wonderful feeling to keep that money most of the time and use it on whatever the heck you want! }:)

wife number 2's picture

Isn't that the truth?? I hear you! We had so many bogus medical bills and unexpected payments shoved up our behinds that there was never a penny left over at the end of the month. What we do now for the skids is what we WANT to do and it will go directly TO them and not BM's wardrobe and shoe collection.

wife number 2's picture

I'm planning a big party. June's (no longer) budget for child support is going towards a big bash. Open bar.