WooHoo! Plans are Set for DH and I
to go house hunting together the week before Memorial Day!
I got the okay to go from docs., and DD and her hubby are coming here for 2 weeks to watch the house and take care of our dog. As DD says, there is a lot to do around here so it is like gong on vacation and having a nice place to stay; that we need the time to really take a good look at things and make the decision on a nice place. All the paperwork, except for the final walk through before closing (if we find something - which I believe we will) can be done through the mails and over the computer.
My earlier forays out West with DD have paid off in that I have a good, very good ideal of what I want. And watching the market for these months have given me a good indication of prices. DH has been checking out Realtor.com for places that look good and we are compiling them and talking to our real estate agent.
Happy Days are coming!
Since my illness, DH has been much more attentive to me. As he says, he doesn't want to lose me and if moving is really what I want, well we are going to move.
DD is thrilled because she loves the SW and her and her hubby are looking forward to coming out during the winter, when it is oh so cold where they are and warm down there.
DH has actually apologized to me for his Twit and all she has put me through. He talked to me honestly and said that he now understands and agrees that I, we, can't continue to be around her. AND, he agrees that he is not going to give her our address, etc., though with the internet as it is things can be found out. I really think that when our dog had that tumor surgery and he talked about the various things she has done to her pets, it really put into perspective, for him, what she really was. As he said to me that day a week or so ago, if she would do that to her pets, what could he expect from her as he gets older? And, as I posted here, I didn't say anything to him about her, I just listened.
I can't wait...just a few weeks before we, DH and I, are in the SW house hunting TOGETHER! Now I have to go make flight and hotel reservations for us and start getting summer clothes out. Gonna get DH a couple of western shirts when we get out there. THAT should be interesting, western shirts on a guy who typically wore suits when he was working and polos in the summer.
Wow. Once he decided to give
Wow. Once he decided to give a few peeks online, your DH has really gotten onboard with moving.
I'm happy for you.
I think it was a combination
I think it was a combination of me getting sick and his coming to face the fact that his daughter is never going to change. To keep subjecting me to her was just not right. Not that she treats him that well either. He finally had to face the facts and the reality of what was instead of what he hoped things could/would be.
It is going to be a change for both of us. We are use to seeing leaves turn, snow, etc. and the SW is quite different. A new adventure for both of us.
Oh, one other reason DH has
Oh, one other reason DH has gotten onboard with moving.
I told him I was moving and if he didn't want to come he could stay here with Twit. That is why I think when our dog had surgery and he recalled, out loud to me, what Twit has done with her animals, he probably decided it was better to go with me than to be left behind with Twit.
He's really not sure if he is going to like the SW, but it is MILES from where we are now and Twit free.
That's wonderful news! I hope
That's wonderful news! I hope you find the perfect home for the next, PEACEFUL chapter of your life together.
Thanks Twocatsmom - Dealing
Thanks Twocatsmom - Dealing with that psycho has really been an ordeal! I have never come across anyone like her. DH was hoping that, well, I could be a mother to her; and as he said, before she started in on me (when we lived 400 miles apart) she was nice. It was only after she convinced DH and I to move here so she "could help us out in as we aged" that she showed her true colors.
Not going to worry about selling this house....I will rent it out if we find a place. The area I am in is a good area and people take excellent care of their homes, yards, etc. around here so it is a desirable location....close to schools too so children don't have to be bussed. Deal with that when I get to it, though I am thinking it through.
All my life I have been use to Christmas with snow, and even down here, some snow during the winter. Gonna be strange having Christmas sitting around the ole Christmas Cactus (just kidding).
Good for you! Maybe with less
Good for you! Maybe with less stress, your health problems will be much better!
Dear SDM I've also watched
Dear SDM
I've also watched your story and am so happy for you now the move is at long last coming and with it your peace of mind and a tranquil existence.
Good luck with your new life. Enjoy - you deserve it, and thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you Dunwiththem. I
Thank you Dunwiththem. I hope all is well with you. What you posted also gave me insight into things involving dealing with Twit.
It's not over yet, but I'm moving on. Just hink, no more having to put up with that cretin and her problems. Her Mother has nothing to do with her (and she blames the problem on the Mother), her siblings leave her alone, and now she is alienating her Father. And of course it is everyone else that is doing it to her, especially me.
What I have been dealing with is not only crazy, but evil IMHO. There is something seriously wrong with her that can't be fixed.
Me? I'm all ready to go....getting out the summer clothes. Yippy! Only 3 weeks until DH and I are on our way to find a new home.