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Update to SS calling about Dh's birthday

ETexasMom's picture

So SS finally called DH last night. Told him he we were planning to come out that way he wanted to go to dinner with DH. We live an hour and half from SS so I find it kind of funny he wouldn't drive out on his dad's birthday. DH was vague about what we were doing saying we weren't sure yet. He told mes he did not want the steps to find out where were going to be or what we were doing. I find this funny since we will be in their town and he could go see them while I'm at the wedding shower instead of hanging out with my BIL.

SS then asked if DH had talked to SDs. DH said not since Easter and SS started blaming me again saying they didn't feel welcomed because BIL couldn't come! Saying they were upset and felt I was being mean. DH stopped him right there and said I was the one who said BIL couldn't come and didn't want him here. I'm tired of the kid being a jerk and making everyone mad and last time guest left because he was being an a$$. DH started claiming all teenagers were like that and tried to throw my kids under the bus saying they make DH mad too. DH said yes and when I tell them not to do something again they listen! Your BIL doesn't and keeps doing it. SS started saying "well next time he comes over" and DH stopped him and said there isn't going to be a next time this is my house and I get to say who does and doesn't come over!

I'm sure they will still try to turn around and blame me but I'm very happy to see DH finally stand up to his kids! He was really upset they were blaming me and pissed off. I hope this is a start of him opening his eyes to how they act! I find it funny that since I have stopped telling DH he needs to see his kids and planning stuff for them he has no desire to see them! I really think part of it is their always wanting him to drive to see them and their lack of wanting to meet half way or come to him.

Amcc13's picture

Well done to him for standing up to them and putting the boundary in place.
The cheek of your stepson blaming you after calling you earlier the week!!! Talk about hypocrite !
Hopefully dh will keep up the good work
Enjoy the weekend !

ETexasMom's picture

SS and SD are married to siblings. It's their BIL (the younger sibling of their spouses). The kid (he's 18) also has two parents and two other siblings. There is no reason he has to come with them to our family functions. DH is fine with them not coming if he tells them he isn't invited. It would be different if it was their spouse or child but it's their spouse's sibling who does not live them.