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Dealing with child services...

DrowningAnchor11's picture

Last night my fiancé came into the living room to play me a voice mail that he got from child services....apparently they want to sit down and talk to him and asked him to call and set up a meeting. They also want to talk to SD6 and BM. We think that BM or her wife reported us to them, but they really didn't say much in the phone call. FDH called back but we haven't gotten an answer.

I was wondering if anyone has dealt with this situation... We don't know what to expect from meeting with them. Also I thought it was kind of strange that they called to ask to meet rather than just showing up since we are talking about children's safety here....but what do I know? They also mentioned BM by name and said they wanted to talk to her. Does that mean she might not have been the one to call? I read somewhere reports were anonymous. We have nothing to hide from them and have no reason not to talk to them as we've done nothing wrong, I just want to know what to expect. Thanks...

DrowningAnchor11's picture

I guess I didn't think much of that.... Her mom told us BM accused us of being abusive so we've kind of been expecting that this would happen.

Disneyfan's picture

The report may be against BM, her wife, a teacher...

If there domestic violence in BM's home, and BM can't/won't protect SD(not saying SD is being abused.), they will take steps to remove the kids from the home. This visit may be to ensure dad's home is an option for a family placement instead of a typical foster care placement.

still learning's picture

My exH filed a (false) report on me thinking it would help him get a leg up in the divorce proceedings. They called, set up an appt for the next day and took my kids in a room alone and talked to them one by one. They inspected them for bruises and abuse but found none. It was stressful, unnecessary and made exH look like a giant azz in court. I got a letter a few weeks later about the claims of child abuse were "Unfounded."

Just cooperate and get it over with.

PolyMom's picture

I wouldn't worry too much. If you have no idea what the call is about, then if something was made against you it will be unfounded, or if it's against someone else, you don't seem to know anything about that either. So just answer their questions as best you can. I'm a mandatory reporter, and have had to call on my DH's ex 3 different times when my skids came home with stories of strangulation, and my older SS broke his arm, straight through with a flimsy story of how it happened. It's not a big deal. Their job is to ensure kids are safe, so they come and investigate to make sure everything is okay.

thinkthrice's picture

They did that to us. I knew what it was about and knew there was going to be trouble since Chef dared to verbally discipline his children the previous weekend. Chef actually told SD to stop kicking her brother in the face and was sent to her room.

This of course was unacceptable to the Girhippo (BM) since she views herself as the only valid parent and she herself does not discipline ever or say no. She also works for Child Protective Services as well so she called a phony report in on Chef

Chef got that surprise call on Friday and they told him not to bother picking up the skids for his regular weekend visitation.

It was all completely bogus-- the Girhippo clearly used her influence as a Child Protective Services worker herself to trump things up.

Took me six months to get it rendered unfounded as CPS "mysteriously" did not send us the initial report to refute due to a so-called clerical error. Yeah right.

Sadly real child abuse gets a blind eye turned toward it due to it being too dangerous to investigate and the fact that most CPS workers happened to be CP BMs. True child abuse that happens at the hand of the BM or the BM's flav of the week gets a pass

CPS is mainly a tool for vindictive CP BMs to get back at biodad for daring to move on.